But you see, despite all you're saying, I'm still so very hurt to see people who are so upset a woman is the new Doctor. I feel this tells me it's not so rosy as you're saying? You don't have to hear people actually saying those things, I mean it's what actions say, how we're shown and instructed from youth.
You say you have no hidden misogyny, but that's not what I'm hearing when you say you don't want a woman Doctor. I feel you're saying to me "A Companion is good enough for you". Why? If a Companion is so wonderful, then why not a male Companion and a female Doctor? If what you say is true, shouldn't it not matter to you? I mean, you can say as much as you want, but at the end all I'm really hearing is "I only want male Doctors because he's a male institution". I don't feel we'll have equality until every single last male institution is torn down and rebuilt.
When you say "A woman shouldn't be this, men only" you're being sexist, however you rationalize it.
Tearing down every last Male institution and preplacing them with female ones isn’t equality. Building female ones up where there are none, to stand next to the male ones, working together, is equality, tearing down the institutions that prevent that from happening, rebuilding the ones that are needed together, that is equality. People, working together, to make sure people are treated fairly and live well together, is a great thing we can build together, if we stop fighting over lines in the sand long enough to do it.
What you are hearing, is not what I am saying. Otherwise, I would not be saying what I am in this thread, I would be calling for her replacement to be a male. I am not doing that, nor am I calling for any replacement, because it’s her turn now.
Something was lost, and I am asking for people to recognise that, because that way, maybe what it’s replaced with will be worth it. Maybe all this energy we expend fighting can be used to push for its replacement. Maybe by recognising something has worth, we can stop denigrating people we deem to be ‘other’. Then it really won’t matter what the Doctors got in their trousers, and we can all go back to wondering if it’s something sonic.
And I can assure you, boys get plenty of gendered expectations put on them too...again, see Rory feeling he has to prove his worth as a Nurse to his father for one example.
Like I said, welcome to the show, I genuinely hope you enjoy it, and explore its history, because there’s a lot to like there.
Edit..you know what, i’m Just going to be silent on the subject now really. I do t like the thought of people feeling alienated, and I’ve said my piece hopefully clearly.