Soft? In some ways, I've grown much harder. I was much more social and easy-going back in the old days and would talk to everyone. After some unpleasant experiences with some real jackasses, I backed off of that. Life's too short. I still like people - but at a distance. Having said that, there are some that were worth the effort. But not many. So color me rather jaded. I'm sure that are plenty around here that don't like how I am or how I run the place and didn't like me when I was just a mod. Don't care. Of course, I didn't care back then either, so I guess that has remained constant. One thing I did learn is that contrary to what non-Trekkies think of Trek fans, we run the gamut of personalities and are no different than the rest of humanity in spite of outsiders thinking we're a uniform group of nerds. There is a subsection of fandom that indeed fits the stereotype but the rest of us don't. Plenty of geeks too within the fandom. I think there are more of those, including me.