They do that because it's easy to do it. Easy laughs. Easy target.
Yes, it's unfortunate, but the clueless, addle minded nerd image persists today. See, they're not really human, so it's easy to laugh at them. Poor, poor nerds.
(In other words, I know what you mean)
In such a sex-obsessed society as we have - where there is constant pressure to tolerate everything, to do everything, to like everything, to FUCK everything - restraint is not very popular. Hasn't been for some time. To actually have preferences, to believe that there's things that one does not like, does not want to do, is very much going 'against the grain' as it were.
I have a very powerful sex drive. Just to illustrate without getting too specific, when my last opportunity arrived, I hadn't slept in 48 hours. That did not stop me from anything, and we spent the whole night without resting.
I was restrained for 30 years of my life. Restraint is not a virtue when it's killing you or making you suffer needlessly. I have no doubt that over time, my mind and body took a severe punishment, there was an emotional and physical toll on me for waiting so long (though most of the time the circumstances were beyond my control).
At the same time, I didn't want anyone pushing me into anything, as several friends attempted to do when I was still in high school. At the time, I was very religious, and felt it was wrong, and didn't take several opportunities that presented themselves. Now, I look at that and think how silly I was, but at the same time, I can't get upset at that person, because he wasn't going to betray his principles, silly as I think they were.
So it all comes down to each person. We, as a society, have a long way to go before we're sexually mature. The priorities we have are screwed up. Sex is dirty but every commercial from toothpaste to automobiles use it to sell their product. It's something people giggle about as if it's something naughty and deviant.
When it's not being giggled at, it's being misrepresented in television and movies, that everyone has sex and should always have sex at every possible chance, and that it's perfectly normal to see and think about sex every possible second, because that's great comedy/drama.
And lemme be clear on one other thing, I don't hate the idea of sex, I don't think it's inherently dirty. I do want to do it some day. Just not in any big gaddam hurry. Not that difficult to wrap one's head around, is it?
No, it's not a difficult concept. As I mentioned before, some people (like me) are ready at a very young age, and start to see the sexual side of things very early on. Others progress a little differently, and then there are those who have no immediate or great interest. This is all a part of human sexuality, but as long as sex is treated like it is, you'll have people laughing at the poor, unsocial nerd who can't get laid because he's not a real person. Sometimes, it's just a funny little observation about people, but in movies like the one I cited, it's also used to make insecure people feel good.
It's about finding someone to share a moment with, someone to know intimately, to reach across a very lonely existence, and share humanity with someone else. It is a profound experience, and people shouldn't lose their virginity because they feel they must lose their virginity, they should do it because it's something they want to experience.
I like this, too.
Thank you. That is how I feel about sex. Even as I wanted so badly to be a part of that experience, I didn't want it to be anything less than for the right reasons. Now, granted, it may have not been the most noble or romantic of situations, but I gave it everything I had, and to use an old expression, "fun was had by all".
