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When did you last have sex?

When did you last have sex?

  • Never

    Votes: 48 20.2%
  • More than 1 year ago

    Votes: 41 17.2%
  • More than 6 months ago

    Votes: 7 2.9%
  • More than 3 months ago

    Votes: 4 1.7%
  • More than 1 month ago

    Votes: 13 5.5%
  • More than 1 week ago

    Votes: 37 15.5%
  • More than 1 day ago

    Votes: 50 21.0%
  • More than 1 hour ago

    Votes: 25 10.5%
  • More than 1 minute ago

    Votes: 6 2.5%
  • I'm having sex right now!

    Votes: 7 2.9%

  • Total voters
    238
I'm actually surprised that the 'Never' category is as populated as it is.

It's a board full of sci-fi Trekkie dorks, you expected differently?

Lemme put it this way, I wasn't expecting as many people to actually have the guts to say in public that they're virgins. Then again, this poll *is* anonymous, so maybe that's the reason.

Aside from strong, painful and personal frustration one may feel about being a virgin (dear god, believe me on that one), there's nothing wrong with saying one is a virgin. There shouldn't be a stigma on something you haven't done, because while there are people who struggle with it (there is an entire group of people called "incel", or involuntary celibacy"), it's not something one should be ashamed about. Every person is different.
 
^ And yet, we still get movies like The 40-Year-Old Virgin. Go figure.

I was 30 years old before I lost my virginity. For me, that was way, way, way longer than I ever wanted to wait. For others, it's about right, and still there are those who are not concerned at all about the state of their virginity. It's not supposed to be about the act, which movies like "The 40 Year Old Virgin" exploit, it's about finding someone to share a moment with, someone to know intimately, to reach across a very lonely existence, and share humanity with someone else. It is a profound experience, and people shouldn't lose their virginity because they feel they must lose their virginity, they should do it because it's something they want to experience.
 
Yeah, my answer is unaltered. I'll undoubtedly let you all know if that changes.

I hope it does, and soon. You have the right to be happy, and I'm sure you could make someone else very happy if given the opportunity, so good luck! I'd say I'm pulling for ya, but in a sex thread? Not going to happen.

Wait.. ah, dammit.
Well it's gonna have in the next month or so at least, I'm too damned busy with work! :lol:
 
Yeah, my answer is unaltered. I'll undoubtedly let you all know if that changes.

I hope it does, and soon. You have the right to be happy, and I'm sure you could make someone else very happy if given the opportunity, so good luck! I'd say I'm pulling for ya, but in a sex thread? Not going to happen.

Wait.. ah, dammit.
Well it's gonna have in the next month or so at least, I'm too damned busy with work! :lol:

You've never heard of a lunch break quickie? :ouch:
 
It's not supposed to be about the act, which movies like "The 40 Year Old Virgin" exploit

They do that because it's easy to do it. Easy laughs. Easy target.

In such a sex-obsessed society as we have - where there is constant pressure to tolerate everything, to do everything, to like everything, to FUCK everything - restraint is not very popular. Hasn't been for some time. To actually have preferences, to believe that there's things that one does not like, does not want to do, is very much going 'against the grain' as it were.

People shouldn't lose their virginity because they feel they must lose their virginity, they should do it because it's something they want to experience.

And lemme be clear on one other thing, I don't hate the idea of sex, I don't think it's inherently dirty. I do want to do it some day. Just not in any big gaddam hurry. Also, how can I put this as non-prudish as possible (yeah right, I think that ship sailed a long time ago :guffaw: ), there's other things that I want to do first. Not that difficult to wrap one's head around, is it?
 
It's not supposed to be about the act, which movies like "The 40 Year Old Virgin" exploit

They do that because it's easy to do it. Easy laughs. Easy target.

In such a sex-obsessed society as we have - where there is constant pressure to tolerate everything, to do everything, to like everything, to FUCK everything - restraint is not very popular. Hasn't been for some time. To actually have preferences, to believe that there's things that one does not like, does not want to do, is very much going 'against the grain' as it were.

People shouldn't lose their virginity because they feel they must lose their virginity, they should do it because it's something they want to experience.

And lemme be clear on one other thing, I don't hate the idea of sex, I don't think it's inherently dirty. I do want to do it some day. Just not in any big gaddam hurry....Not that difficult to wrap one's head around, is it?

If this were facebook, I would "like" this post. :) People do tend to make the mistake of thinking that if you aren't into casual sex, you're a prude, which simply isn't the case. Many of us see it as a potential we hope one day to achieve, when we find the right person in the right circumstances - not a compulsion that must be satisfied as soon or as regularly as possible.
 
It's about finding someone to share a moment with, someone to know intimately, to reach across a very lonely existence, and share humanity with someone else. It is a profound experience, and people shouldn't lose their virginity because they feel they must lose their virginity, they should do it because it's something they want to experience.

I like this, too.
 
They do that because it's easy to do it. Easy laughs. Easy target.

Yes, it's unfortunate, but the clueless, addle minded nerd image persists today. See, they're not really human, so it's easy to laugh at them. Poor, poor nerds.

(In other words, I know what you mean)

In such a sex-obsessed society as we have - where there is constant pressure to tolerate everything, to do everything, to like everything, to FUCK everything - restraint is not very popular. Hasn't been for some time. To actually have preferences, to believe that there's things that one does not like, does not want to do, is very much going 'against the grain' as it were.
I have a very powerful sex drive. Just to illustrate without getting too specific, when my last opportunity arrived, I hadn't slept in 48 hours. That did not stop me from anything, and we spent the whole night without resting.

I was restrained for 30 years of my life. Restraint is not a virtue when it's killing you or making you suffer needlessly. I have no doubt that over time, my mind and body took a severe punishment, there was an emotional and physical toll on me for waiting so long (though most of the time the circumstances were beyond my control).

At the same time, I didn't want anyone pushing me into anything, as several friends attempted to do when I was still in high school. At the time, I was very religious, and felt it was wrong, and didn't take several opportunities that presented themselves. Now, I look at that and think how silly I was, but at the same time, I can't get upset at that person, because he wasn't going to betray his principles, silly as I think they were.

So it all comes down to each person. We, as a society, have a long way to go before we're sexually mature. The priorities we have are screwed up. Sex is dirty but every commercial from toothpaste to automobiles use it to sell their product. It's something people giggle about as if it's something naughty and deviant.

When it's not being giggled at, it's being misrepresented in television and movies, that everyone has sex and should always have sex at every possible chance, and that it's perfectly normal to see and think about sex every possible second, because that's great comedy/drama.

And lemme be clear on one other thing, I don't hate the idea of sex, I don't think it's inherently dirty. I do want to do it some day. Just not in any big gaddam hurry. Not that difficult to wrap one's head around, is it?
No, it's not a difficult concept. As I mentioned before, some people (like me) are ready at a very young age, and start to see the sexual side of things very early on. Others progress a little differently, and then there are those who have no immediate or great interest. This is all a part of human sexuality, but as long as sex is treated like it is, you'll have people laughing at the poor, unsocial nerd who can't get laid because he's not a real person. Sometimes, it's just a funny little observation about people, but in movies like the one I cited, it's also used to make insecure people feel good.

It's about finding someone to share a moment with, someone to know intimately, to reach across a very lonely existence, and share humanity with someone else. It is a profound experience, and people shouldn't lose their virginity because they feel they must lose their virginity, they should do it because it's something they want to experience.

I like this, too.

Thank you. That is how I feel about sex. Even as I wanted so badly to be a part of that experience, I didn't want it to be anything less than for the right reasons. Now, granted, it may have not been the most noble or romantic of situations, but I gave it everything I had, and to use an old expression, "fun was had by all". :D
 
The propaganda of the day indoctrinates us that it's WORSE if you can get laid but don't really want to, than if you can't get some. To be offered sex and turn it down (for whatever reason) is seen as an unforgivable sin.

Especially if it's the guy who's turning it down, because men are always seen as unrepentant sex maniacs. For a man to not want to have sex (again, doesn't matter the reason) is not tolerated. Ever.
 
The propaganda of the day indoctrinates us that it's WORSE if you can get laid but don't really want to, than if you can't/b] get some. To be offered sex and turn it down (for whatever reason) is seen as an unforgivable sin.

Especially if it's the guy who's turning it down, because men are seen as unrepentant sex maniacs. For a man to not want to have sex (again, doesn't matter the reason) is not tolerated. Ever.


It does seem to be the assumption that all men want is sex, and that their poor, poor brains just can't comprehend how awesome women are to give it to them. This is the trend in many "romantic comedies".

That said, I like sex. A lot. It's not just the physical aspect, which is a pretty damned good motivator, it's the emotional connection that gets my attention. I am a very lonely man, all trapped inside me with my own thoughts, and having the opportunity to share that emotional (and physical) desire to be a part of someone else, to make them happy and fulfilled even for a short time, is just too irresistible to pass up.

To be blunt, I like giving people pleasure (not just sexually, btw). When someone else feels good, I feel good. I respond very sensitively to strong emotions, so the more positive they are, the more powerful and positive mine become.
 
i just wanted to get my rocks off and for her to do likewise. the former failed to happen, the latter did. rather well.
 
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