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What's your preferred age range for dating?

^ Yeah, how often does that happen? :lol:

Reminds me of the time my roommate called up the comments line for a tabacco company just to tell them that he thought they were doing a really good job. Having to listen to complaints all day, it made the guy on the other end's day.

:guffaw::guffaw:

I had a friend once who called the number on the back of a Hy-vee delivery truck and did the same thing, just because he thought it was a quirky thing to do. As a result, The person on the phone informed us that the driver would recieve a small bonus.
Getting out of our car, My friend toward to driver. The driver was so pleased, he gave us a box of donuts that he was supposed to be delivering. A model employee:)
 
And then set out to kill the guy who made the phone call. We have a movie!
 
I'm 19 right now, and I think my target ages would be 2 lower and 4 or 5 above. I'm going with 2 lower because any lower than that would just be weird and kinda creepy. 4-5 over just puts them in the same age range, though if something were to come along where we were both interested, I wouldn't shoot it down just because she was outside the age range.
 
I don't really think about it in hard numbers. If I'm interested and attracted and not doing anything illegal, I see no reason to question the age difference.

I've dated women up into their early 30s and I'm 23 now with a girlfriend who is 19 that I've been dating for over a year(so she was newly 18 when we got together). There are very few girls her age that could have interested me at the time or now though, so maybe I've started to grow out of that dating range.

The more important thing is where she is in life, what her priorities are and what our mutual intentions are in the relationship. I probably wouldn't date a 40 year-old divorcee with 3 kids with the intention of settling down with her for example, just because I'm not ready for that life yet.
 
I probably wouldn't date a 40 year-old divorcee with 3 kids with the intention of settling down with her for example, just because I'm not ready for that life yet.

Mine was 44, with 4 kids. 13 years older than I. Loved her dearly and the kids were mostly grown, but the way was lined with red flags, which I simply ignored in my "idealism". I would recommend a bullet to the cranium as preferential.
But I guess even now, I don't have so much an age range, as a life parameter range. I always seem to end up someone's rebound, and they usually rebound to their ex, most especially if the ex is described as abusive. I'm very leery of that kind of vibe these days. I'd rather get a dog. Probably in January, working a bunch of o/t this month.
My being 34 now, generally 28-40, something like that. She can be older than me, since we tend to die off sooner. Happy Holidays. :rommie:
 
Well, I'm eighteen, now, so I'd feel awkward dating someone younger than me, and will probably continue to feel this way for the next several years. Also, I would probably only be willing to date someone three or four years older than me.

However, I've never actually dated anyone before, so this is purely speculation on my part. Having just graduated from high school only seven months ago, I can't see me changing that age range any time soon. In a few years...*shrugs* Who knows? ^_^;
 
if i were still dating or started dating again, i prefer dating someone who is within 35 years either way + or -, i'm over 50 now....




k'riq the unindominable
 
I know a guy who is 30 dating a 19 year old. I'm kind of disturbed by that. I think first what do they have in common, and secondly wouldn't he feel like a dirty old man?
Isn't Hugh Hefner dating a pair of 19 year olds? :D

Two years ago (I was 28) I dated an 18 year old girl... It was brief, but truth be told, she looked cute and was all nice and shiny new... but she just didn't have the life experience and couldn't relate on so many levels.

I think the ideal dating range is (for women... 15% above their age... ie 20 year old girls should date men between 20 and 23 (20+15%)) until they are in their 30's... Then all bets are off :D

I guess you could go the other way on it, but most women don't even want to date younger guys... and for the most part, women are more mature and generally don't relate well to young kids :D
 
It all depends, of course, and naturally there are exceptions to every rule, but I imagine sticking with my age to five years older. I've never been attracted to someone my own age. I don't do much dating though, so it's never been an issue I've needed to think about. I'm 18, btw.
 
Rod Serling? Awesome!

^ Yeah, how often does that happen? :lol:

Reminds me of the time my roommate called up the comments line for a tabacco company just to tell them that he thought they were doing a really good job. Having to listen to complaints all day, it made the guy on the other end's day.

:guffaw::guffaw:

I had a friend once who called the number on the back of a Hy-vee delivery truck and did the same thing, just because he thought it was a quirky thing to do. As a result, The person on the phone informed us that the driver would recieve a small bonus.
Getting out of our car, My friend toward to driver. The driver was so pleased, he gave us a box of donuts that he was supposed to be delivering. A model employee:)

Nice. We've grown up being taught to believe steadfastly in caveat emptor, but in this day and age of middle-class dominated consumer culture, we forget that it's just as often caveat venditor. So it's nice to be able to throw something back once in awhile. :techman:
 
Im 36 and i wouldn't really consider dating anyone younger than 30 and maybe up to 45.

I know a guy who is 30 dating a 19 year old. I'm kind of disturbed by that. I think first what do they have in common, and secondly wouldn't he feel like a dirty old man?

It may be out of the norm, but disturbing? A 19 year old woman isn't exactly an innocent child or something. While I myself would probably never date someone that young (also 30), mainly due to almost unavoidable differences in maturity and world view, I can't see how it's disturbing.

Most of the older (30+) guys I know who do date such young women (18-25 yr.olds) do it for superficial reasons (trophy girl, clinging to youth or just plain sex), and I think this is the norm. Some people are just more shallow than others, but there's nothing inherently evil about being shallow (ergo, not disturbing). Only a small minority do it out of simply not wanting to place limits on love. Still others do it for more nefarious reasons, wanting to control or manipulate.

As for me, I'll rarely date anyone more than 6 years younger than me (for the above stated reasons). As for older? Well, so long as I can have some physical attraction and they're not condescending based on my age (a rarity), no real limits there. Generally, though, it's about +10 years.
 
I'm 19 right now, and I think my target ages would be 2 lower and 4 or 5 above. I'm going with 2 lower because any lower than that would just be weird and kinda creepy. 4-5 over just puts them in the same age range, though if something were to come along where we were both interested, I wouldn't shoot it down just because she was outside the age range.
No, any lower and it would be Statutory Rape.
 
Before I met my fiance, I usually dated guys who were my age -2, +6. Though this doesn't include the 30 year-old I dated when I was 17. ;)

Age isn't a big deal to me. Right now he's +24, and we've got plenty in common --- far more than most men I've dated. I prefer his maturity and groundedness, as well, to my previous experience.

I never sought someone so significantly older than myself, but having it, I must admit there are lots of benefits. There are some difficulties as well, but nothing insurmountable.

Personality is what it really comes down to in my book, and worldview. Not age. :p
 
I'm 19 right now, and I think my target ages would be 2 lower and 4 or 5 above. I'm going with 2 lower because any lower than that would just be weird and kinda creepy. 4-5 over just puts them in the same age range, though if something were to come along where we were both interested, I wouldn't shoot it down just because she was outside the age range.
No, any lower and it would be Statutory Rape.

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I'm 19 right now, and I think my target ages would be 2 lower and 4 or 5 above. I'm going with 2 lower because any lower than that would just be weird and kinda creepy. 4-5 over just puts them in the same age range, though if something were to come along where we were both interested, I wouldn't shoot it down just because she was outside the age range.
No, any lower and it would be Statutory Rape.
I'm talking about dating. You're talking about sex. I know I'm certainly no expert on the dating scene, but I could have sworn they were two entirely seperate issues. ;)

Accordingly, I'm just going to stick with "wierd and kinda creepy".
 
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