I meet people at the bar all the time.
More precisely, I meet their feet at the end of the night.
Trying out Match.com
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I meet people at the bar all the time.
More precisely, I meet their feet at the end of the night.
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Elmo Dukat
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I've heard the same thing about TrekBBS.^I've heard OKCupid is totally a hookup site.
Yeah, well, urm.
I'm way too miserly to pay for a dating service!
Still, I can see how it would be a useful "filtering" mechanism and good luck to you man!
I'm on one of those services. It's expensive and I don't pay so I don't have all the features.
I look at the profiles once in a while. The problem is all the nice and geeky profiles are 40 and overweight and super tall or something. I guess it usually comes with the territory.
There's one guy from the service who I'm currently e-mailing. For the personality, he seems compatible. His pictures look nice. But this one is like 7 kilos lighter than me! (Being just 1 or 2 cm taller, which doesn't bother me.)
I don't want to be beefier than my guy!!
Last night at a party I saw I guy I vaguely knew and found him very yummy this time. Very elegant and all. Alas! He's gay. All the good ones... you know the rest.
I look at the profiles once in a while. The problem is all the nice and geeky profiles are 40 and overweight and super tall or something. I guess it usually comes with the territory.
There's one guy from the service who I'm currently e-mailing. For the personality, he seems compatible. His pictures look nice. But this one is like 7 kilos lighter than me! (Being just 1 or 2 cm taller, which doesn't bother me.)
I don't want to be beefier than my guy!!
Last night at a party I saw I guy I vaguely knew and found him very yummy this time. Very elegant and all. Alas! He's gay. All the good ones... you know the rest.
^I've heard OKCupid is totally a hookup site.
Mike, good luck! Meeting someone over the internet is completely legitimate, if you are careful (and it sounds like you have been). I hope she's great in person, too!
I know a few people who have used Match or eHarmony, and don't be surprised if it takes you a few dates with a few different people to really find someone that meshes with your style. But I think everyone who's really intent upon getting into a relationship, and looking and acting on it intelligently (as you seem to be), will find someone, or at least have some fun.
Thanks! I've had a messy "fling" with a girl not too long ago and I'm just looking forward on meeting a girl that actually likes me and wants to be with me. None of that mixed-signal stuff. Can't wait for the weekend!
I met my wife through "Plenty of Fish" (one of the oldest Free dating sites on the web)
http://www.plentyoffish.com
I do recommend it...
http://www.plentyoffish.com
I do recommend it...
I have introduced her to a cheesy movie... or a dozen... or more. She hasn't hated most of them.
Well that's definitely a positive sign.
OT, I just added an avatar for the first time, from another cheesy movie I always loved.
OT, I just added an avatar for the first time, from another cheesy movie I always loved.
I've heard the same thing about TrekBBS.^I've heard OKCupid is totally a hookup site.
Brother, you have no idea.
Set up a profile there once I realized Match.com doesn't allow anything beyond winking with the free setup. However, I'm a bit dubious about their algorithm....despite answering their questionnaire honestly, the results seemed to give me higher self-confidence and lower self-control than I credit myself with. Must have been all those "I work too hard and am very productive" responses.....
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I'm way too miserly to pay for a dating service!
Still, I can see how it would be a useful "filtering" mechanism and good luck to you man!
I've never considered doing it as I prefer to meet people in person, but a general "can't-be-arsed" attitude is at play as well.
It probably also explains my total lack of presence on Facebook and similar sites--even though Facebook was started by people from my alma mater.
People,
First, let me say that the idea that only people younger than 30 are comfortable with online dating is baloney. I'm now 46, and I started online dating at 40, a year after I got divorced.
So far, haven't found a new wife -- had about four long-term relationships via online dating since 2001 -- but I've met some good people. Also have met some clingy, needy women, too, but those stories would curdle your blood!
I've used Match.com, Yahoo! even a service devoted to BBWs, where I met my current significant other, and it's still going well. I tried using those services for free, but got better results when I subscribed.
I always got hits, I think, because not only am I devastatingly handsome,
as a writer I had original ads posted on these services that seemed to attract attention, mostly wanted, from the ladies I was attracted to! I think one of my headlines was ST-based, something like "Latino Stargazer Seeks His Number One, " or "First Mate," a play on Captain Picard and Commander Riker!
Red Ranger
First, let me say that the idea that only people younger than 30 are comfortable with online dating is baloney. I'm now 46, and I started online dating at 40, a year after I got divorced.
So far, haven't found a new wife -- had about four long-term relationships via online dating since 2001 -- but I've met some good people. Also have met some clingy, needy women, too, but those stories would curdle your blood!
I've used Match.com, Yahoo! even a service devoted to BBWs, where I met my current significant other, and it's still going well. I tried using those services for free, but got better results when I subscribed.
I always got hits, I think, because not only am I devastatingly handsome,
as a writer I had original ads posted on these services that seemed to attract attention, mostly wanted, from the ladies I was attracted to! I think one of my headlines was ST-based, something like "Latino Stargazer Seeks His Number One, " or "First Mate," a play on Captain Picard and Commander Riker! Red Ranger
This happy sucker has met a wonderfully funny, smart, attractive woman through match.com. I think she was worth the $29.95.
After I broke up with my last g/f (5 years ago) I tried the different services: Yahoo, Match, and e-Harmony. There was a blog I had discovered a few years ago called "e-Harmony Sucks" and in it the author detailed the different tactics e-Harmony uses to swindle people and keep them paying. For example, your Inbox would suddenly be flooded with matches if your subscription hadn't been renewed, and once renewed, those matches would close you out for some lame reason. Also, matches would only appear on Tuesdays and Thursdays, which makes no sense.
Other people could add to the blog, and one person detailed how he'd somehow been mis-sent messages from a Match.com administrator to women on how to keep men hooked into paying for the service. I met a woman from Match in person, and I don't know if she was working for the service or was a flat out flake, but something just wasn't "right" about her. I had many others who were close to my location, where we were spot-on in the matching criteria, close me out as a match without responding to my initial inquiries.
IIRC, Match.com and Yahoo were being sued in a class action suit for deceptive practices.
Other people could add to the blog, and one person detailed how he'd somehow been mis-sent messages from a Match.com administrator to women on how to keep men hooked into paying for the service. I met a woman from Match in person, and I don't know if she was working for the service or was a flat out flake, but something just wasn't "right" about her. I had many others who were close to my location, where we were spot-on in the matching criteria, close me out as a match without responding to my initial inquiries.
IIRC, Match.com and Yahoo were being sued in a class action suit for deceptive practices.
I'm way too miserly to pay for a dating service!
Still, I can see how it would be a useful "filtering" mechanism and good luck to you man!
I've never considered doing it as I prefer to meet people in person, but a general "can't-be-arsed" attitude is at play as well.
I hear ya there!
I think dating sites could be helpful as a last resort, but it's probably unwise to use them as a way of avoiding the day to day challenges/excitement of meeting people. I think other avenues should be explored first, simply as a way of character building, saving dating services for last, if necessary.
Unless you are out working in Timbuktu or something, and men/women are difficult to meet!
Unless you are out working in Timbuktu or something, and men/women are difficult to meet!
