Aside from a predominately silver colour scheme in general areas, until its more colourful final season, I couldn't disgree more. The NX-01 sets looked about as much like Voyager as say, the U.S.S. Kelvin bridge does. I don't recall seeing LCARS anywhere aboard Enterprise, and the coloured graphics on touchscreens evoked TOS just enough. If that wasn't enough, they were mixed in with proper buttons and even sliders in some cases... of the kind found on the transporter.
I'm not talking about the things you mention. I'm talking about things like phasers, communicators, photon torpedoes, shields, warp drive, etc., all things that, while given buzzword names to make them "different" (i.e. phase pistols, photonic torpedoes, polarizing hull plating, distances to other planets being completely arbitrary, warping with the same speed and effects as the 24th century, etc.), they were pretty much the same as their 24th century counterparts.
I wanted to see nukes. I wanted to see weapons that were not particle-beam-based. I wanted that ship to travel slowly, not zipping around like Voyager did. I wanted the ship to have holes in the hull when it was attacked because there's no magical shields. I wanted communicators that looked like army walkie-talkies, not cellphones.
So, as the OP asked, that's what I wanted.
Why would they use 1940s technology? I agree on your other points however.