Wow... I know that I'm pretty much out of the loop on life as a single person (as I was only single for 2 years of my adult life), but I've always felt that love happens when (and where) you least expect it. I met my first wife when I was 16 and I can tell you that I honestly would never have believed that she and I would have ended up together (we were together for 13 years). It wasn't something I could have worked to make happen, it either was or wasn't.I must have a social life, I must look for a girlfriend, I must do this, I must do that.
It seems like people are forced to present a false image of themselves while dating (or attempting to get a date). I can't imagine doing that. Relationships, the ones that work, are based on friendship. Being attracted to someone isn't enough, the other person (ideally) should be your best friend.
The thing that scared me when I was first single (at the age of 29) was that by attempting to have relationships (by actively looking) I might be missing the real possibilities. That and the fact that honesty seemed to be something that people didn't practice early on in dating.
I'm glad I wasn't single for too long.
