Would you comfort it saying "Everything's going to be alright" and stuff like that even if you knew the kid died no matter what?
No. I despise being told everything's going to be alright, when it's not. That will be up to someone else. You might think that's the right thing to do, but I don't. And, yes, I understand why you would do something like that, which is why I wouldn't stop anyone that would.
YOU might despise being told that but the question wasn't about you. It's someone else's needs here and being able to put their needs above yours.