Nothing personal, and at the risk of wildly generalizing, it does sometimes seem like a lot of the Trek debates here and elsewhere stem from some of us having grown up on TOS and others having grown up on TNG and its various spinoffs. And not just in terms of continuity issues, but also with regards to expectations, priorities, tone, etc.
Give it a few years, and the folks growing on the new streaming shows will consider them the "real" STAR TREK, and its the new shows that will shape their expectations of what "Star Trek"
should be. That's just the natural life-cycle of pop culture.
Not that it's entirely just a generational thing. There's also the fact that, regardless of our respective ages, different fans have different priorities: some folks are all into the science and tech stuff, others are all about the topical allegories and morality plays, some folks are really invested in TNG's "utopian" vision while some of us prefer the more rough-and-tumble Final Frontier of Kirk and Co.
And as for how scientifically accurate TREK should be . . . well, this is an old, old debate that dates back to the dawn of science fiction. Jules Verne complained that H. G. Wells wasn't scientifically rigorous enough, what with his time machine and anti-gravity element and invisibility serum, and SF fans, writers, and editors have been arguing ever since about whether SF is properly "SCIENCE Fiction" or "Science FICTION."
Trek swings both ways, depending.