Posted by Lady Conqueror:
Do you think the disease laid dormant for seventeen years and then popped up right after her meld with Tolaris? Too coincidental for me.
That's part of what I was going for yes. That the trauma from the meld unlocked the dormancy of the disease. It's just something to think about though - I certainly wouldn't say that's "what happened" difinitively in my mind. Just an area TPTB could explore if they chose too (but they probably won't).
I think Tolaris was manipulating T'Pol from the start, long before the meld was even suggested, although I don't disagree that she had some say in the matter.
But really that's irrelevant - we don't know at what stage she contracted the disease and we probably never will - but we do know that he forced the meld on her during the operation.
If your a victim, you don't compartmentalise the event into 'while i was agreeing' and 'when he actually raped me' - you lump it all together into the rape and that's what T'Pol has done. There will no doubt be an element of self-blame in there as well but the whole event does come under the banner of 'he raped me' whether you agreed to some of the activities or not.