Sexy or Creepy?

[Trekker4747]

I've no desire to start my own tangent here. All I have to say to all of that is... Society has made me cynical and bitter, I suspect that handsome Frenchmen get away with moves like that one a lot easier than someone like me could. Not to suggest you're shallow, not by any means, just that, well, some women are shallow and have allowed this guy's ego to get boosted over a life-time so that they can pull this sort of thing off.

Some of us have to work at this sort of stuff and cannot get by on our looks, our accents, our use of foreign languages and even then we still get cast aside and ignored.

It's the general inequality in dating and wooing that bitters me. The handsome jocks get the girl, the nerds get to tutor the girl on her homework.

 

[RoJoHen]

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It's the general inequality in dating and wooing that bitters me. The handsome jocks get the girl, the nerds get to tutor the girl on her homework.

You're starting to sound like a high school stereotype. Plenty of handsome jocks have to try just as hard to get the girl as the nerds do, and plenty of nerds win out.

Don't you know it's 2011? Nerds are cool now!

 

[Amaris]

Yeah, nerds are the big thing right now, and for good reason! I mean:

A] They're very intelligent.
2] They're more approachable and easier to find common ground with.
C] Their eyes twitch at the noticeable use of a number in the second list, and ending that same second list with a preposition.

In short; nerds are awesome!

 

[{ Emilia }]

At this point I don't quite understand your intentions, Trekker.

Yesterday you posted about how the world is evil and ruined your life and ended the post with:

I'm defeated. I've waved the white flag and I'm no longer trying. It's me and me alone forever.

It's my lot, I've accepted it.

This will be my last post in this thread any further comments or questions to PM.

So I did give you a long civil reply to your post but since you weren't going to come back to the thread it wasn't adressed. Which is fair enough.

And then today you make 4 more posts, 2 of them basically a copy of that post I just quoted.

I'm incapable of seeing anything without cynicism and unhappiness because it's pretty much all I have left.

I'm sure there is plenty of innocence and romance in the world and I do see it, I just don't get any of it because I'm not a handsome man who speaks French who can pick-up random women on the street.

And some cynical comments about TSQ's situation that painted what she experienced in a very bad light.

And now this?

I've no desire to start my own tangent here.

But isn't this exactly what you're doing here? I'm not sure what you're trying to accomplish.

Especially since after stating you got not desire to start your own tangent you proceed to say the same cynical stuff again.

It's the general inequality in dating and wooing that bitters me. The handsome jocks get the girl, the nerds get to tutor the girl on her homework.

This is a recurring theme. But it's still not true. I see plenty of happy nerds (married or not) in wonderful relationships.

It seems like a convenient strategy. You make a post and state that you won't be coming back to discourage replies calling you out on certain stuff.
But then you come back to re-state the same things again and again.

 

[thestrangequark]

I've no desire to start my own tangent here. All I have to say to all of that is... Society has made me cynical and bitter, I suspect that handsome Frenchmen get away with moves like that one a lot easier than someone like me could. Not to suggest you're shallow, not by any means, just that, well, some women are shallow and have allowed this guy's ego to get boosted over a life-time so that they can pull this sort of thing off.

Some of us have to work at this sort of stuff and cannot get by on our looks, our accents, our use of foreign languages and even then we still get cast aside and ignored.

It's the general inequality in dating and wooing that bitters me. The handsome jocks get the girl, the nerds get to tutor the girl on her homework.

Sorry man, but you've got no sympathy here. Life is full of inequity, in every aspect, and everyone, everyone suffers. Try having 3 life threatening chronic illnesses to deal with...try living on the streets as a child...try having to talk your own mother out of committing suicide when you're only 14...and that's just the tip of my iceberg. And I know, I really do, that despite everything, I've got it a hell of a lot better than do many in this world. Some people have it easier than others: that's just the way it is. So, frankly, suck it up. Attitude is hard to change, but it can be done, and you'll feel a lot better for it.

(And for Christ's sake, everyone on this forum is a nerd, or else we wouldn't be here!)

 

[ladyheather69]

TSQ-I have not read all the other responses, but when I read this I got all...'smilely' for you. I would never be considered romantic by anyone I know-including my husband. Yes I have my moments, but usually I very pragmatic.

That being written, I find your story more romantic/cool/one-of-those-stars-aligning moments.
It is one of those things that you can't explain why it happened, why it was that you didn't slap him, why you didn't find it creepy until you started thinking about it(or at least that is how I read it...)

Just go with it. Be happy that someone found you attractive, told you you were attractive, that you had a nice conversation, and that you probably gave that guy a good thrill!

 

[Goji]

Not that my opinion matters any, but as someone who doesn't really care for being touched by anyone, let alone by a stranger in such a direct way, that would freak me right the fuck out.

 

[RAMA]

I didn't vote, I could see both arguments, but I feel ultimately it's your personal opinion, if you enjoyed it, and made that apparent to the other person, then it's not assault, however I'm still leaning towards a vote of creepy.

Just today I was at a car dealership and the woman (not unattractive) was talking to me in a friendly tone, and next thing I know she wrapped both her hands around mine and started pulling me slightly towards her..I was somewhat irked, but I didn't really say anything. My wife was 30 feet away but couldn't see. I wonder if this kind of thing would have been seen differently if a man had done it to a woman.

 

[trampledamage]

Not that my opinion matters any, but as someone who doesn't really care for being touched by anyone, let alone by a stranger in such a direct way, that would freak me right the fuck out.

Oh totally, had it been me I would have rapidly exited stage left muttering excuses (Not that our Frenchman would make such a mistake, I'm quite good at projecting mental razor wire ) But tsq did like it, so I can see it as romantic/sexy for her.

 

[Nerys Ghemor]

Just today I was at a car dealership and the woman (not unattractive) was talking to me in a friendly tone, and next thing I know she wrapped both her hands around mine and started pulling me slightly towards her..I was somewhat irked, but I didn't really say anything. My wife was 30 feet away but couldn't see. I wonder if this kind of thing would have been seen differently if a man had done it to a woman.

While I don't see a difference, unfortunately I think some people would. But to me, basic respect by any individual should mean not crossing boundaries like that without permission. I don't care if a man or a woman is initiating it.

 

[thestrangequark]

Just today I was at a car dealership and the woman (not unattractive) was talking to me in a friendly tone, and next thing I know she wrapped both her hands around mine and started pulling me slightly towards her..I was somewhat irked, but I didn't really say anything. My wife was 30 feet away but couldn't see. I wonder if this kind of thing would have been seen differently if a man had done it to a woman.

While I don't see a difference, unfortunately I think some people would. But to me, basic respect by any individual should mean not crossing boundaries like that without permission. I don't care if a man or a woman is initiating it.

I do suspect, however, that no one would be telling RAMA that he'd been manipulated and molested.

 

[RoJoHen]

Just today I was at a car dealership and the woman (not unattractive) was talking to me in a friendly tone, and next thing I know she wrapped both her hands around mine and started pulling me slightly towards her..I was somewhat irked, but I didn't really say anything. My wife was 30 feet away but couldn't see. I wonder if this kind of thing would have been seen differently if a man had done it to a woman.

While I don't see a difference, unfortunately I think some people would. But to me, basic respect by any individual should mean not crossing boundaries like that without permission. I don't care if a man or a woman is initiating it.

I do suspect, however, that no one would be telling RAMA that he'd been manipulated and molested.

But what if she touched his boob?!

 

[Amaris]

Nobody ever wants to touch my boob.

 

[RoJoHen]

Nobody ever wants to touch my boob.

You have hands. Touch your own damn boobs.

 

[thestrangequark]

Nobody ever wants to touch my boob.

If we ever meet in person I promise I'll give you a big hug and touch both your boobs!

 

[RAMA]

Just today I was at a car dealership and the woman (not unattractive) was talking to me in a friendly tone, and next thing I know she wrapped both her hands around mine and started pulling me slightly towards her..I was somewhat irked, but I didn't really say anything. My wife was 30 feet away but couldn't see. I wonder if this kind of thing would have been seen differently if a man had done it to a woman.

While I don't see a difference, unfortunately I think some people would. But to me, basic respect by any individual should mean not crossing boundaries like that without permission. I don't care if a man or a woman is initiating it.

I do suspect, however, that no one would be telling RAMA that he'd been manipulated and molested.

Yeah I'd be arrested for having my hand in her two hands.

While I don't see a difference, unfortunately I think some people would. But to me, basic respect by any individual should mean not crossing boundaries like that without permission. I don't care if a man or a woman is initiating it.

I do suspect, however, that no one would be telling RAMA that he'd been manipulated and molested.

But what if she touched his boob?!

Oh god not another man boob thread...

 

[Amaris]

Nobody ever wants to touch my boob.

You have hands. Touch your own damn boobs.

But I'm so cold and impersonal!

Nobody ever wants to touch my boob.

If we ever meet in person I promise I'll give you a big hug and touch both your boobs!

Aw. You're just the greatest.

 

[{ Emilia }]

Nobody ever wants to touch my boob.

If we ever meet in person I promise I'll give you a big hug and touch both your boobs!

God, you're so creepy!

 

[RAMA]

Nobody ever wants to touch my boob.

You have hands. Touch your own damn boobs.

But I'm so cold and impersonal!

Nobody ever wants to touch my boob.

If we ever meet in person I promise I'll give you a big hug and touch both your boobs!

Aw. You're just the greatest.

Watch Santa's pipe, it could poke your eye out.

 

[thestrangequark]

Nobody ever wants to touch my boob.

If we ever meet in person I promise I'll give you a big hug and touch both your boobs!

God, you're so creepy!

It's part of what makes me so awesome.