But if we are talking about a turkey baster (artificial insemination) down at the fertility clinic, where is the "intimacy."
Ah, you misread a bit - it's not the insemination that's intimate, but the childbirth (which the Mariposans perhaps might "technologize" to remove that aspect, admittedly; but their tech was found lacking in the episode).
I never said "sexual" intimacy, and indeed never drew an association between marriage and sex, or infidelity and sex. That's going way too technical and narrow.
I would assume that any woman would be free to decline her own participation in the program with no societial disapprovial in the tinyist
I wouldn't. These are hardy colonists, departing to distant stars to found a new culture altogether, and all together. They are expected to give their bit to the common cause. If one folds his or her arms and says "I don't feel like building a house, programming a plowing done, or rearing a child", that's automatic pariah status.
As long as the average number of children born was at least three per couple (statistically) the colony would grow
Yes, that should hold even when one doesn't count in terms of couples but full crossbreeding; all the less reason to accept refusals, then. One wonders
how fast the colony should grow, though, and indeed why it should grow. The Bringloidi weren't going to super-breed as far as we know, and their colony was quite self-sustainable as was, again as far as we know. They needed nothing from the Mariposans.
The point isn't that the breeding stock of the combined forces is too small, either from the genetic POV or the colony-building POV. The point is that the "five" Mariposans don't want to die out. Mixing their genes sufficiently thoroughly with those of the Bringloidi will do that trick, sort of (it will dilute the "five" out of existence eventually, and they might be obsessed about their genetic identity after all those generations of cloning, but the
original Mariposans would have had nothing against that).
It's all for appearances, really: the Bringloidi don't need the Mariposans for anything real (forget "maturity", Brenna can keep them in line; and forget "technology", they did fine without), and the Mariposans only need to have kids with one Bringloidi each in order to be happy about their place in the continuum of life. The "no monogamy" speech is there only to confuse the issue sufficiently that neither side will stop to think too much about their old prejudices and how it would be easy to simply retain them - it's shock treatment against the "posturing and bigotry" that Picard was so frustrated about in that meeting.
Timo Saloniemi