I think i've made a breakthrough with some of the questions i've had about my "public personality".
After mulling over a social get together the other day, I realised that I deliberately tone myself back. I've always been one who needs to take short breaks from the crowd in order to collect myself and my thoughts, but I was confused as to why I needed to do this if I was holding back around 50% of myself in most social situations.
I don't know how to word this in a way that doesn't sound arrogant, but i'm just going to do it. I tone back because a lot of people i've encountered get confused and cannot get onto my wave length and as a result i've toned myself back in order to better appreciate them as people. The downside of this is my true personality sometimes gets lost and I often end up sitting in silence for long periods. I'm an assertive person and if someone does something that I don't like, i'm not afraid to tell them. At the same time, however I'm conflicted about going about this with some people in case they take serious offence to it.
A lot of men (and some women) cannot find a way to be interesting to people. They question what is wrong with them when they have trouble finding girlfriends or sex (bluntly). Now this isn't too much of a concern for me because its not a big priority, but I think that I can say that not communicating who you are and restraining yourself is a key reason as to why women might not show interest. But hey i'm not a psyhologist, i'm just going on personal experience!
I'm maybe too overly concerned with being polite and calm, but i've always interpreted these qualities as being very important. Its something that can be worked on though, so its not like i'll never be able to be myself!
I'm maybe not making much sense, so I do apologise, but this was posted with the intention of sharing some observations i've made about myself. If anyone has any thoughts, please don't be afraid to comment (even if you disagree!)
After mulling over a social get together the other day, I realised that I deliberately tone myself back. I've always been one who needs to take short breaks from the crowd in order to collect myself and my thoughts, but I was confused as to why I needed to do this if I was holding back around 50% of myself in most social situations.
I don't know how to word this in a way that doesn't sound arrogant, but i'm just going to do it. I tone back because a lot of people i've encountered get confused and cannot get onto my wave length and as a result i've toned myself back in order to better appreciate them as people. The downside of this is my true personality sometimes gets lost and I often end up sitting in silence for long periods. I'm an assertive person and if someone does something that I don't like, i'm not afraid to tell them. At the same time, however I'm conflicted about going about this with some people in case they take serious offence to it.
A lot of men (and some women) cannot find a way to be interesting to people. They question what is wrong with them when they have trouble finding girlfriends or sex (bluntly). Now this isn't too much of a concern for me because its not a big priority, but I think that I can say that not communicating who you are and restraining yourself is a key reason as to why women might not show interest. But hey i'm not a psyhologist, i'm just going on personal experience!
I'm maybe too overly concerned with being polite and calm, but i've always interpreted these qualities as being very important. Its something that can be worked on though, so its not like i'll never be able to be myself!
I'm maybe not making much sense, so I do apologise, but this was posted with the intention of sharing some observations i've made about myself. If anyone has any thoughts, please don't be afraid to comment (even if you disagree!)
