My New Boyfriend isnt a Trekkie
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It's easy to convert guys, they want to watch what you like to suck up to you and after some episodes they're hooked
That's what happened to my boyfriend. :thumbsup:
I have the same problem and I agree with other posters that DS9 is probably your best bet if you're going to get someone who's not into sci-fi into the series because DS9 tends to be story / people / inter personal relationhips focused rather than techno babble focused.
I don't think you should introduce him to Star Trek.
Every couple needs their own individual interests and hobbies.
If my lady tried to introduce me to say...."LOST" for example, I would find that annoying.
Yes, both are possible. Hence this topic. Whining about the fact that some people would like to share their own experiences and open this topic up for more discussion isn't helping your cause. Not everything needs to be about you.
Hate to break it to you, but the majority of people on this planet ARE heterosexual. There may be a huge number of bisexual or bi curious amongst them, but numbers-wise, heterosexuality is in the majority, be it 90%, 80% or 51%; not that it matters of course but that's worth bringing up in reply to your post.
Sigh.
It was so blindingly obvious upon seeing a topic started by "bentbastard", containing "boyfriend" that this would be the perfect place for him to scream about his sexuality from the top of the virtual hill.
Sorry to get this OT, but had to be said.
Let's get this thread back on topic, then. 
Screaming? All he said is that he HAD a boyfriend. That doesn't seem like screaming to me. And as for his name, I see plenty of heterosexuals "flaunting it" all the darn time, what about when straight guys have names like "ChickMagnet" or whatever.
Now, on-topic, directed at the OP, I don't see why a "mixed marriage" can't work.
In a relationship it's very common to have different interests. I'm sure that something other than Trek (something more deep) drew the two of you together.
Sorry StolenThunder, had to reply.
Identifying yourself by your sexuality (as thought that's what defines you) is just a little sad I feel but if he enjoys it then go for it. And re: screaming...
Back on topic, First Contact is definitely the way to go, but there are numerous TNG episodes (preferably from the later series) that could do the trick. Or a DS9 war episode. The one with the plan to trick the Romulan senator for instance.
Identifying yourself by your sexuality (as thought that's what defines you) is just a little sad I feel but if he enjoys it then go for it. And re: screaming...
Back on topic, First Contact is definitely the way to go, but there are numerous TNG episodes (preferably from the later series) that could do the trick. Or a DS9 war episode. The one with the plan to trick the Romulan senator for instance.
But if it's something you think the other person would enjoy, why not give it a try? Nothing says the other person has to like it; if they don't, just leave well enough alone. But if they do, that's one more thing you can enjoy together.
I had not intended to introduce my wife to Trek, but she got into it a bit through pure osmosis. As a result, I did purposefully introduce her to Battlestar Galactica, and she has really enjoyed it. Conversely, she's introduced me to 24, Harry Potter and even Project Runway, which I never thought I would have liked.
On the other hand, she leaves me alone to read my comics, and I leave her alone to watch American Idol. There's nothing wrong with introducing your signifcant other to your hobbies, as long as you both understand the other person may not like it, and both parties are willing to respect each other's interests even when they don't share them.
No, you don't. There have been two warnings in this thread about not getting off topic. The phrase discuss the post, not the poster comes to mind. This stops here.
My wife is not a big trekker, but she has tolerated literally hundreds of episodes. She's a real trouper.
I think you should start out with the most popular Trek: STNG. There's a reason why 17+ million people watched it every week. Inner Light, Yesterdays' Enterprise, Darmok, Best of Both Worlds, Measure of a Man, WNOHGB, and Nemesis (yes Nemesis--non-fans universally seem to like it when they see it).
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I think you should start out with the most popular Trek: STNG. There's a reason why 17+ million people watched it every week. Inner Light, Yesterdays' Enterprise, Darmok, Best of Both Worlds, Measure of a Man, WNOHGB, and Nemesis (yes Nemesis--non-fans universally seem to like it when they see it).
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Sharing a hobby is fine, but the partner/wife/girlfriend etc...has to show the initial interest IMO.
I would never try to introduce my lady to something I like, but would leave that entirely up to her in her own time.
In my experience, girls who don't like Star Trek lack intelligence-- so it doesn't work out. My girlfriend wasn't big on Star Trek when we met, but she was big fan of Ender's Game and the Foundation series, so turning her Trekkie wasn't exactly a leap.
I think you'll find that any thoughtful person who cares about philosophy and socio-political issues will be engaged by Star Trek.
Re: Dating a non-trekkie
I wasn't a Star Trek fan when I started dating my now girlfriend, I didn't become one until 2 years later. I remember her reaction to when I first bought TMP & TWOK, "Oh noooo, you're becoming a geek!!"
Funny thing is, she likes Trek today but refuses to admit it. I catch her glimpsing at the TV when I watch my TOS episodes & TOS-cast movies all the time. She seems to like Spock the most, and I can't blame her.
I wasn't a Star Trek fan when I started dating my now girlfriend, I didn't become one until 2 years later. I remember her reaction to when I first bought TMP & TWOK, "Oh noooo, you're becoming a geek!!"
Funny thing is, she likes Trek today but refuses to admit it. I catch her glimpsing at the TV when I watch my TOS episodes & TOS-cast movies all the time. She seems to like Spock the most, and I can't blame her.
Re: Dating a non-trekkie
Geeky girls are pretty hot though.
Geeky girls are pretty hot though.
Re: Dating a non-trekkie
My Chinese wife has learned to tolerate my daily "Ugly Movie", though I've never asked her to watch one, since it's on so much (I've got all the DVDs) she's even watched enough to give a lot of the characters nicknames:
Seven = "Bluetooth"
Worf = "Doggie"
Geordi="Robot Eyes"
And she even has a favorite all-time character who she will stop everything to watch: Odo. (Go figure)!
Now that she's pregnant, she insists I tell a story to the baby every day, which HAS TO begin, "Once upon a time, Captain Picard..." No other captain will do!
I call it, "conversion by osmosis".
My Chinese wife has learned to tolerate my daily "Ugly Movie", though I've never asked her to watch one, since it's on so much (I've got all the DVDs) she's even watched enough to give a lot of the characters nicknames:
Seven = "Bluetooth"
Worf = "Doggie"
Geordi="Robot Eyes"
And she even has a favorite all-time character who she will stop everything to watch: Odo. (Go figure)!
Now that she's pregnant, she insists I tell a story to the baby every day, which HAS TO begin, "Once upon a time, Captain Picard..." No other captain will do!
I call it, "conversion by osmosis".
There are people who hate Star Trek?!
Does she now there are other Star Treks besides Voyager and Enterprise?!The sex better be REAL good if you are staying with such a... person...
Give him some time, Also start watching Star Trek TNG:thumbsup:
, My girlfriend, "Tina" seems to enjoyed the show and stories from TNG.:thumbsup:
