My New Boyfriend isnt a Trekkie

[bentbastard]

I've started seeing someone who isnt a Trekkie. While I've always believed that mixed-marriages dont work, I'm thinking of introducing him to my Star Trek Universe.

I'm after some suggestions of where to begin. My current thoughts are with DS9's "Emissary" or "ST: First Contact".

 

[RyanLevy]

my girlfriend is also not a trekkie, she absolutely hates it, which is a bit of a problem. I love to watch it and she tells me that i'm on my dork-site whenever I'm on here, which is about 40-50 times a day, lol, i check this pretty often

 

[P0sitr0nic]

If you want to get him hooked, First Contact is an accessable "non fan" movie.

Deep Space Nine, if youre willing to force him to sit thru it all. He may thank you for the experience when hes seen it all.

 

[Garth Rockett]

My wife was not into Star Trek when we started dating. Her dad likes TOS, and she had a bad impression of what she had seen as a kid. I was buying DS9 on DVD while we started dating, and would just go ahead and watch the DVD's while she was over at the house when we didn't have anything else to do. So I started her sometime in Season Three (I remember watching "Defiant" with her, that may have been her first). By the time we got to Season Five she started to turn around, and was really into watching the last two seasons. So the subtle, continuous exposure approach can work.

If you're not up for that route, I'd suggest one of the more accessible movies, like First Contact or The Voyage Home. Something like "The Visitor" or "The Inner Light" might be a good idea too.

 

[Good Will Riker]

The funny thing here is that I myself specifically go for women who happen to be not Trekkies. But, that's just me.

 

[Winterwind]

It is indeed a problem. I'm a fan of both Star Trek and Doctor Who. I've had no luck introducing my girlfriend to Star Trek and I can only get her to watch the new Who, which she quite likes, but not the classic (which is my preference). At least she doesn't dislike me watching it. It's just something I do when she's not around (ST and classic DW). When we live together... hmm... that's when a problem could arise.

 

[Haytil]

Don't introduce her to it. Watch it by yourself. If she picks up on the fact that you're a Trek fan (which she should, if she's paying attention to you), then eventually she'll probably ask to watch it with you. It's important to you, and she'll want to share it with you.

That's when you introduce the good stuff.

But it's gotta be her idea, so you know she'll be receptive to it - not just something to do "as a favor to you."

 

[GMDreia]

Difference in TV/media tastes isn't going to matter as much down the road as you think it does early in a relationship. Later on down the road (after living together a while and/or being married) you both tend to kind of do your own thing anyway.

 

[Vanyel]

My last real boyfriend was apathetic towards Star Trek, but he'd go with me to see the movies and watch the shows with me if they were on while he visited. So he took an interest to spend time with me. I helped him work on cars and even went to classic car shows and junk yards to find parts to spend time with him. All a part of the give and take that is needed in a relationship.

 

[Starbreaker]

He's worthless. Drop him.

 

[bluedana]

It's really not that big a deal, imho. There will be things that he likes that you don't; you both are going to need to have some "you" time anyway. If he's interested, he'll stop and watch. If not, he won't. (My hubby will sit down from time to time when I'm watching my Trek DVDs. Sometimes I'll sit through one of those ultra-violent comic book movie adaptation that he likes.) If he doesn't ridicule you or try to make you feel bad about yourself because of what you prefer to watch, it's all good. If he does, ditch him, because that's symptomatic of a bigger relationship problem.

 

[Nathan_Heller]

I got lucky in that my wife is not only a Star Trek fan, but a science-fiction fan in general. Yes, we do have different tastes in other TV programs (she likes reality shows and I don't). That's why we have two televisions in the house

 

[Hoshi_Mayweather]

I've started seeing someone who isnt a Trekkie. While I've always believed that mixed-marriages dont work, I'm thinking of introducing him to my Star Trek Universe.

I'm after some suggestions of where to begin. My current thoughts are with DS9's "Emissary" or "ST: First Contact".

That's okay...

My own boyfriend considers himself a "casual Trekkie" now...(as he seems to be more of a Babylon 5 fan lately, and...yes...considers it a bit better)...

Slowly but surely let your boyfriend on some of the good episodes and stories, preferably the ones that may appeal to non-sci-fi/non-Trek fans...

 

[Wentworth-Roth]

My ex was not interested in Trek either, it never was a big deal. Other things were more important.

 

[S'kai]

Re: Dating a non-trekkie

Find out what his interests are and start with something that relates to that. If he is an eco-freak, then The Voyage Home. If a jazz musician, then the Vic Fontaine episodes of DS9. If humorous, the Trouble with Tribbles or A Piece of the Action. Etc.

For sheer romance, I suspect City on the Edge of Forever.

 

[drasche]

If you want to get him hooked, First Contact is an accessable "non fan" movie.

Good. There's that girl I'd really like to date and I showed her First Contact as an introduction.

Now I just have to assimilate her in my collective

 

[stormleader]

Re: Dating a non-trekkie

You can't go wrong with Deep Space Nine.

 

[EliyahuQeoni]

Re: Dating a non-trekkie

You can't go wrong with Deep Space Nine.

Yes you can.

Personally, I've never dated a Trek fan and never felt the need to "convert" anyone. Nothing wrong with two people having different interests.

 

[Finn]

Re: Dating a non-trekkie

Why do you need to convert your boyfriend to Trek?

 

[All Seeing Eye]

Re: Dating a non-trekkie

When I met my wife she wasnt into Trek whatsoever, infact she said it was complete crap and for nerds, truth is she'd never even layed eyes on any episodes and was just going on what false propaganda had to say. I made her sit down and watch them and after just a few episodes she fell in love with it, she doesnt dare miss an episode of DS9 that is currently repeating on Virgin 1, if shes out she sets it up to record.

Where should I start? What Series, episode or movie should I show him first? Note I dont watch TOS (while I have them on DVD, I cant watch them, so its NOT an option people).

I'm leaning toward DS9 (Emissary) or ST: First Contact.

I'd show her some Dominion War episodes just to tickle her tastebuds and then show her Nemesis. If she wants to see more start her off from Episode 1 season 1 of DS9 and let her watch the entire run, she can look forward to seeing how the Dominion war starts.