My Hair Is Falling Out
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I don't know what you look like now so I can't give you any practical suggestions about what to do with your hair etc. If it gets really bad shave it off. Now I know that this will seem weird at first but people will pretty quickly understand that you did this for medical reasons as opposed to if you only had half a head of hair, y'know?
Anyhow, it sounds like this won't be permanent so that's good. It's tough now but it'll go away. Just keep remembering that.
Anyhow, it sounds like this won't be permanent so that's good. It's tough now but it'll go away. Just keep remembering that.
So is the possibility that she will lose nearly as much hair as a man...
That's actually an interesting debate. When women have no hair it's looked at as weird but when men go bald it's almost looked upon as a sign of weakness. I don't think anyone can say that there is more acceptance for either side.
Actually, the bald look is rather fashionable now, even for women to a degree.
I know exactly what you mean and I am going through the same darn thing, albeit a bit more dramatically.
It is? Generally having a shaved head is a 'tough guy' thing over here - baldness kind of creates the same effect for cheaper!
Male baldness is exacerbated by high levels of testosterone, anyway, so that's a useful comeback if people take the piss
That much is true.Male baldness is exacerbated by high levels of testosterone, anyway, so that's a useful comeback if people take the piss
Thanks to everyone for the kind words. I'm having ups and downs -- I cried this morning after washing my hair for the first time since this started, so much fell out. I'm mostly feeling better, now, though, and it really does help having a friendly place to talk about it. Your support really is appreciated, and I am trying to look at the positive side of things. I look okay with short hair -- if I have to cut it, it shouldn't be too bad. Summer's coming, so at least it'd be comfortable. I've been reading about it, and I could lose just a bit more, not even enough to be noticeable, or I could lose up to 70% -- which is scary.
My hair has been part of my identity for a long time. In high school I was known as the girl with the great hair -- very long, thick, shiny. People always comment on it, on the color, the cut, the thickness. When I'm uncertain and lack confidence about the rest of my appearance, I always had my great hair. Now it's going, and it's horrible. Still, things could indeed be worse, and I'm trying to remember that.
And, yes, I am drinking tea. Decaf Irish breakfast with unsweetened soy milk and stevia. Trying to be good.
As for men's balding, I am surprised at the attitude being expressed. I've never met a girl who was turned off expressly by baldness. Some men are far more attractive without hair than with.
My hair has been part of my identity for a long time. In high school I was known as the girl with the great hair -- very long, thick, shiny. People always comment on it, on the color, the cut, the thickness. When I'm uncertain and lack confidence about the rest of my appearance, I always had my great hair. Now it's going, and it's horrible. Still, things could indeed be worse, and I'm trying to remember that.
And, yes, I am drinking tea. Decaf Irish breakfast with unsweetened soy milk and stevia. Trying to be good.
As for men's balding, I am surprised at the attitude being expressed. I've never met a girl who was turned off expressly by baldness. Some men are far more attractive without hair than with.
How men feel about their baldness and what they think women think isn't always congruent with the reality of most women's opinions. Think about how often bald men are portrayed as losers in the media...Costanza on Seinfeld, for instance. He was often the topic of ridicule on the show simply for his baldness. That gets into the male psyche, just as women thinking they're too fat by seeing TV and movies and magazines and such. Men going bald is one of the primary forces of de-masculinization in most men's lifetime.
But just as men's perceptions aren't congruent with the reality of what most people think, yours probably isn't, either.
But just as men's perceptions aren't congruent with the reality of what most people think, yours probably isn't, either.
Ouch. Sorry to hear about your situation tsq. I know that I, to put it mildly, would be terribly annoyed if I started to lose my hair, and I can only imagine how much worse it would be for a lady.
Please try to keep your spirits up. I'm sure whatever your look is, you'll wear it well.
Please try to keep your spirits up. I'm sure whatever your look is, you'll wear it well.
TSQ...I've had thinning hair since my late 30s, Noticable thin hair on top since my mid 40s.. So I've gone from this (Circa 1987)
to the following..circa 20 years later
I do agree that baldness in men is now considered almost normal... Baldness in females is less common...
Be glad that yours isn't a chronic issue and will reverse itself in time..
As for me..I'll keep aging gracefully...
to the following..circa 20 years later
I do agree that baldness in men is now considered almost normal... Baldness in females is less common...
Be glad that yours isn't a chronic issue and will reverse itself in time..
As for me..I'll keep aging gracefully...
Enjoy it while you can, my young friend. When it goes, it goes fast.
As, I'm sure, are you.
But to address your surprise, speaking strictly for myself, It's not just baldness that has made me unattractive to women. It's also my cerebral palsy, and the fact that I do not have a body like Fabio.
Of course, on three separate occasions, by three different women, I was told TO MY FACE that all of the above are reasons were why the woman didn't want to go out with me. In fact, the one that objected to my disability went so far as to say "do you really think I would go out with a retarded crippled freak like you?".
I don't want to derail the thread or trivialize your concerns. You comment above just made ME need to vent.
We now return to our regularly scheduled thread.
If that women were on fire, I wouldn't piss on her to put her out.
Some people really don't deserve life.
tsq..
i have an illness were i have lost a lot of hair.
i am sorta like wwjw and her family that it looks at times like someone has shed after i take a shower.
about the best thing you can do is watch your meds.. make sure you get enough vitmains and maybe play around with your shampoos.
i found out even if something dosnt cause a problem at first eventually if it use it too long it will.
so i rotate using different shampoos and conditioners.
watch the ingredients.
see if somethings cause more problems then others.
i have an illness were i have lost a lot of hair.
i am sorta like wwjw and her family that it looks at times like someone has shed after i take a shower.
about the best thing you can do is watch your meds.. make sure you get enough vitmains and maybe play around with your shampoos.
i found out even if something dosnt cause a problem at first eventually if it use it too long it will.
so i rotate using different shampoos and conditioners.
watch the ingredients.
see if somethings cause more problems then others.
This sucks, tsq. And I know from what I speak. I've suffered from Alopecia Areata since I was 12. I'll grant you that it's slightly easier because I'm a guy and I can just shave it off, but it was (and to some extent still is) one of the more traumatic things to happen to me. It seemed like the worst thing that could possibly happen to a kid just entering high school.
Basically, it causes hair to fall out in patches for no particular reason. I've been missing about 50% of my hair in patches of varying sizes and configurations for 13 years now. I shave it but I still wear hats most of the time. I was the subject of a lot of ridicule when I was a kid. It was pretty brutal. The good news is that in recent years I've become more and more okay with it and I think it's made me a stronger person over-all.
The good news, tsq is that you're not defined by how much hair you find on your pillow on any given morning. I know it seems like hollow comfort and it still psychologically hurts like hell but it's true nonetheless. It also has the added benefit of weeding out who your real friends are. And I have a feeling just reading your posts over the years that you probably engender the kind of trust and frienship that guarantees you're going to have some good people around to help you through this.
So, I seriously hope this rectifies itself, but if it doesn't I and many people with my condition (as well as others like yourself) are living proof that life goes on. And I know everyone around here is pulling for you. And it goes without saying my PM box is always open for you.
Good luck, and keep us posted. I hope you feel better about the whole thing soon.
Basically, it causes hair to fall out in patches for no particular reason. I've been missing about 50% of my hair in patches of varying sizes and configurations for 13 years now. I shave it but I still wear hats most of the time. I was the subject of a lot of ridicule when I was a kid. It was pretty brutal. The good news is that in recent years I've become more and more okay with it and I think it's made me a stronger person over-all.
The good news, tsq is that you're not defined by how much hair you find on your pillow on any given morning. I know it seems like hollow comfort and it still psychologically hurts like hell but it's true nonetheless. It also has the added benefit of weeding out who your real friends are. And I have a feeling just reading your posts over the years that you probably engender the kind of trust and frienship that guarantees you're going to have some good people around to help you through this.
So, I seriously hope this rectifies itself, but if it doesn't I and many people with my condition (as well as others like yourself) are living proof that life goes on. And I know everyone around here is pulling for you. And it goes without saying my PM box is always open for you.
Good luck, and keep us posted. I hope you feel better about the whole thing soon.
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