Married People: Do You Do Girls'/Guys' Nights?

[trampledamage]

Ok which is it. Everyone has to do what is right for them or there is one right way? Everyone doesn't need "me" time, some people do. Other people want to be together every second they can? Neither is wrong and neither is right, they are just different. People are different you know.

With a marriage, and with parenting (oh, especially with parenting ) there is never one right way. What works for you won't work for me, what works for one kid won't work for her brother.

And what works for you right now probably won't three or four years down the line.

Everything changes

 

[Yeoman Randi]

TD, you said it!

 

[iguana_tonante]

What can I say, I'm a product of parents that "needed to get out of the house". Dad had to hang out with his buddies, and mom had to have her friends.

I can not (and would not) judge your situation. I only know I did not blame my parents for their escapades: actually, I would be happier if they had more, instead of trying to interact with me while I was doing my things!

I learned early on-- about 8 or 9 years old when I first asked my folks why they had me if they didn't want to be around me

Again, I guess it's all a matter of balance: two or three hours a week (as I suggested) is hardly "not wanting to be around". It also shows that not just every parent is different, but also every child.

 

[Colonel Green]

For us it isn't a matter of "me time", its just a matter of differing interests.

I like to go the pub and watch the game with my old college buddies once in while. Sometimes after that we'll go to a bar. I do not hit on chicks at the bar like I'm single (as Galactus seems to think anyone who goes to a bar must), but sometimes I dance, or (if I'm really drunk) do karaoke. Sometimes a group of us will go for a two or three day hiking/camping trip.

I'm not doing it to get away from my wife, I'm doing it because I enjoy it and she does not.

Sometimes my wife will go to a romantic comedy with her girlfriends, and I will stay home. It's not because she wants to be apart from me, but rather because I'm not interested and she is.

We still spend 95% of our free time together, but we recognize that we are not obligated to accompany one another at all times. Nearly all of our friends are mutual. If I have a day off and she doesn't, I may go for coffee with one of our female friends. We are comfortable enough in our relationship to realize that this isn't a threat.