Re: LE: One Constant Star by David R. George III Review Thread (Spoile
I suppose, since it came up first in subtext and then sprouted openly, I should clear the air and address the subject of being "sexually provocative", and my personal perspective on it, which might in turn explain some of my distaste with what I see as a false liberalism. Please bear with me.
To begin, I do not support any sort of control or social disapproval/shaming system regarding clothing (that is, lack of such) on females; I oppose such systems for several reasons, relating both to the dignity of the individual woman and to wider issues of social philosophy. Trying to repress a person's natural sexuality because it's powerful and potentially disruptive a) doesn't work and, more importantly, b) is at odds with my personal values, as it imposes on the freedom of the individual and simultaneously deflects responsibility away from that individual onto others (I'd argue, contrary to what many would claim, that the practice of denying/repressing female sexuality can be framed as a desire to deny the woman responsibility, rather than to force it on her - she is forbidden from learning how to use, wield and own her power sensibly. In other words, I see it in part as an effort to avoid the spectre of responsibility resting with females, which humans are allergic to almost across the board. Traditional, "progressive", left, right, religious, feminist, etc., all can be essentially summarized with the assertion: "The female is (must be, must remain) irresponsible". It is one of our people's guiding values, whether they admit it or not. The only options as humans see them are repression or license, because female responsibility is rejected by all. Almost all...)
My distaste for shaming of sexuality applies across the board, by the way.
So, someone wants to wear as little as possible - go ahead! Not my place or anyone's to stop you. I don't approve of anyone saying you shouldn't, or imposing rules against it, or judging you for it. But simultaneously, if other people make sexual advances on you, that's fine too. You can't insist that the people around you respond only as you would want them to, and shame or punish them for responding to what strikes them as a standard message of availability (though it may not be intended as such), in a manner that inconveniences you. One cannot embrace this false liberalism of choice while shaming others for their responses to your choice.
If a crime is committed in the process of aggressive sexual advances, then that crime is dealt with on the basis of it's being a crime. Assault is a crime. Harassment - by which I mean genuine harassment - is a crime. Annoying someone or being "creepy" is not a crime. Standards of legal protection, of the defence of the individual rights under law, wisdom that took us centuries to build up, is being torn to pieces in colleges, etc., across the western world (and a certain country in particular) due to instinctive threat narratives and ideological propaganda creeping into actual hysteria (and which certain countries should remember as having afflicted them before). Responding to a sexually alluring unclothed female is no more shameful, wrong or deserving of judgemental societal control than the female's clothing itself, and you should especially agree with that if you're in favour of free and open sexuality. Now, a woman might of course be wearing what she's wearing for many reasons other than an attempt to be sexually alluring, but the message will still send. And people will respond. Personally, I wish they didn't (I have little sympathy for the idea that one's worth is tied to their ability to find a mate or appeal to a mate, and it is annoying). But responsibility is shared equally. Choosing to dress in a certain way is a conscious behavioural choice just like choosing to approach someone, and like the latter it carries its complications and its share of risks (i.e. you risk having people irritate you by approaching you all night).
(The Orion situation is similar, in that it's a sexually-related power that is either being repressed, subjected to control, embraced or allowed to proceed normally, but it's a more complicated situation in that female Orion sexuality actually has a chemical effect on a receptive male - that is, imposes on his bodily and mental integrity through no fault of the Orion - and that the effort taken by the woman in question to avoid this can be seen as more extreme than rules on clothing).
Now, I personally believe also that we should be careful with sexuality, as sexual instincts are powerful, and among the powerful instincts governing sexuality is a great caution among females about being approached aggressively by unwanted males. I therefore personally suggest that men should generally be very cautious about making advances on women, not because they're required to but because it's polite. Because you should think about what other people feel and how you're affecting them. Don't just think about your freedom and desires but about others. The fact that you're not doing anything wrong doesn't mean you should ignore that you're causing potential distress or discomfort. Exercising your liberty doesn't prevent others from disapproving of your choice or strip you of the need to acknowledge the effect you have on others and on others' feelings. Similarly, then, someone suggesting that it is polite for a woman to refrain from showing excessive skin is something I can sympathise with, not because a woman is doing anything wrong by wearing what she likes or somehow shouldn't do so, but because it could be viewed as showing a lack of an extra consideration for others.
Basically, no-one should, in my mind, be asking an Orion to take anything to dampen her pheromones. But if people think it a poor and selfish choice on her part not to, well so be it. And if anyone makes an irritation of himself by pestering her in response to her sexuality, it may be viewed as a poor and selfish choice, but so be it.