Ladies, do you often get approached on the street?

[Pingfah]

The last handful of posts from mecha, sidious and spooky have made this thread more entertaining than I expected it would be. Please, everyone, continue with more tales of sleazy attempted hook-ups.

I forgot to mention it was a 17 year old girl who offered me the ride.

How did you know she was 17, did you ID her on the sidewalk?

Or did she tell you later, at her place?

 

[JarodRussell]

Ask her out for a coffee. Simple as that. If she isn't a weirdo, she'll say yes.

So if she says no, she's a weirdo?

I was half joking about that. Either not interested for whatever reasons (which isn't weird), or with the attitude that everyone who tries to make contact with her is a creepy enemy (and that is weird, and unfortunately not rare).

 

[Tora Ziyal]

Ask her out for a coffee. Simple as that. If she isn't a weirdo, she'll say yes.

So if she says no, she's a weirdo?

I was half joking about that. Either not interested for whatever reasons (which isn't weird), or with the attitude that everyone who tries to make contact with her is a creepy enemy (and that is weird, and unfortunately not rare).

Okay, good, I wasn't sure whether it was meant to be funny.

 

[Mr Awe]

Once at a party in Glasgow, there was a woman who, out of the blue, just kissed me on the lips! Followed by a "I just had to kiss the American!" It was hilarious and not creepy, but I'm sure that was due to the fun context, everyone laughing and having fun. I didn't know her but we had a common friend, the one I was visiting. I certainly didn't mind!

Mr Awe

 

[Cheapjack]

Have you ever seen that clip from 'American werewolf in London', where the guy turns into a werewolf, on camera?

I haven't seen one of them at all, on a street, though obviously, you should apply common sense in all your dealings with people. and, there are nasty people about.

 

[Shazam!]

1. Be clean. Don't smell like booze, weed or sweat.
2. Be dressed like a functional human being (as opposed to a thug or a hobo).
3. Look me in the eye, not at my body. Smile.
4. Start with something NOT related to the fact that you want to bone me. Ask for directions, the time, talk about the weather, whatever. "Dayum girl, you fine," "Look at that ass," "Hey, baby," and/or catcalls are NOT clever pickup lines.
5. If I don't seem interested, live with it. Plenty of fish in the sea. Acting offended makes you seem like a creeper with an entitlement mentality.

Leave me out of this.

 

[Kestra]

I was half joking about that. Either not interested for whatever reasons (which isn't weird), or with the attitude that everyone who tries to make contact with her is a creepy enemy (and that is weird, and unfortunately not rare).

You've got to understand what it's like for us. Even when I try to be nice or assume someone is normal, they disappoint time and time again.

I was on campus once, reading a book, when a guy asked if he could share my table (he had some food with him). I said sure because there aren't a ton of tables and I'm not going to take a four-person one all by myself. Then he asked me why my boyfriend wasn't there and I said, "Husband, and he's working and earning a living to support me." Then he started to tell me how he had been married before and "isn't it really hard to stay with just one person?"

"No, it's really not."

He kept going on about himself, talking about how his marriage didn't work out because he cheated on her, but how he couldn't help himself because he just loves women so much (all this while blatantly checking me out) and he intends to get married again and also cheat again.

Then he asked me out.

I finally couldn't take it any longer and left.

 

[sidious618]

How did you know she was 17, did you ID her on the sidewalk?

Or did she tell you later, at her place?

She was coming from the high school and was driving so I assume she was a senior.

 

[SPOCKED]

Kestra's hair-washing thing is the creepiest I've heard yet.

Well I do have fantastic hair.

I think that was great. It inspires me to want to become a creepy old man.

I've taken the liberty of emailing you my current brochure. Enjoy

 

[Emher]

I was half joking about that. Either not interested for whatever reasons (which isn't weird), or with the attitude that everyone who tries to make contact with her is a creepy enemy (and that is weird, and unfortunately not rare).

You've got to understand what it's like for us. Even when I try to be nice or assume someone is normal, they disappoint time and time again.

I was on campus once, reading a book, when a guy asked if he could share my table (he had some food with him). I said sure because there aren't a ton of tables and I'm not going to take a four-person one all by myself. Then he asked me why my boyfriend wasn't there and I said, "Husband, and he's working and earning a living to support me." Then he started to tell me how he had been married before and "isn't it really hard to stay with just one person?"

"No, it's really not."

He kept going on about himself, talking about how his marriage didn't work out because he cheated on her, but how he couldn't help himself because he just loves women so much (all this while blatantly checking me out) and he intends to get married again and also cheat again.

Then he asked me out.

I finally couldn't take it any longer and left.

What the fuck? That's creepy, wrong, rude, odd and just plain weird. I know at least I and many guys I know would never do anything like that.

 

[JarodRussell]

I was half joking about that. Either not interested for whatever reasons (which isn't weird), or with the attitude that everyone who tries to make contact with her is a creepy enemy (and that is weird, and unfortunately not rare).

You've got to understand what it's like for us. Even when I try to be nice or assume someone is normal, they disappoint time and time again.

I was on campus once, reading a book, when a guy asked if he could share my table (he had some food with him). I said sure because there aren't a ton of tables and I'm not going to take a four-person one all by myself. Then he asked me why my boyfriend wasn't there and I said, "Husband, and he's working and earning a living to support me." Then he started to tell me how he had been married before and "isn't it really hard to stay with just one person?"

"No, it's really not."

He kept going on about himself, talking about how his marriage didn't work out because he cheated on her, but how he couldn't help himself because he just loves women so much (all this while blatantly checking me out) and he intends to get married again and also cheat again.

Then he asked me out.

I finally couldn't take it any longer and left.

Yeah, that's creepy (but happens to us men, too). But my advice was to ask her out for a coffee straight and forward, and not to try to sneak his way in.

 

[Kestra]

Yeah, that's creepy (but happens to us men, too). But my advice was to ask her out for a coffee straight and forward, and not to try to sneak his way in.

I get that. I'm just saying that while people might think these creepy (actually I didn't think he was that creepy, just sad) experiences are the exception, for me they've been the norm and they've made me more cautious in my interactions with strangers. I'm just trying to show you why a woman might react negatively to being approached by a stranger, regardless of his intentions.

 

[Bears Discover Fire]

You've got to understand what it's like for us. Even when I try to be nice or assume someone is normal, they disappoint time and time again.

I was on campus once, reading a book, when a guy asked if he could share my table (he had some food with him). I said sure because there aren't a ton of tables and I'm not going to take a four-person one all by myself. Then he asked me why my boyfriend wasn't there and I said, "Husband, and he's working and earning a living to support me." Then he started to tell me how he had been married before and "isn't it really hard to stay with just one person?"

"No, it's really not."

He kept going on about himself, talking about how his marriage didn't work out because he cheated on her, but how he couldn't help himself because he just loves women so much (all this while blatantly checking me out) and he intends to get married again and also cheat again.

Then he asked me out.

I finally couldn't take it any longer and left.

Oh dear god, I think I sat next to this guy's middle age doppleganger on a plane once.

He told me he was flying to see his 22 year old former secretary/current mistress, he was there without his wife's knowledge, and then he asked for my phone number, name and address because he needed a westcoast-based lay - then had the gall to be butthurt and sulk and whine at me the entire 5 hour flight because I wouldn't give him my info or humor him with further conversation.

The guy was a greasy little weasel. I couldn't fathom how the hell he managed to marry at all, let alone bag a 22 year old mistress.

Worst LA-to-Detroit flight of my life.

 

[Kestra]

^^^ That's much worse. That would suck to be stuck next to a guy like that for several hours.

 

[Holdfast]

I was walking down the street late one night when a guy walking behind me said "You've got a nice arse". I said "Thanks" and began to walk a little faster.

Walking faster exaggerates the butt wiggle. He probably thought you were flirting with him.

Does being told by an old hobo that 'you have great child bearing hips' count as coming on to you?

If you're a guy, I'd count it more as methanol induced hobo blindness.

He told me he was flying to see his 22 year old former secretary/current mistress, he was there without his wife's knowledge, and then he asked for my phone number, name and address because he needed a westcoast-based lay...

Gotta admire the chutzpah.

That would suck to be stuck next to a guy like that for several hours.

I do believe that WAS what the guy was hoping for...

 

[propita]

I was approached at the grocery store once. Actually it was an old dude who was behind me in line making comments about what I was purchasing. In the parking lot he asked me if I wanted to come over to his house to wash my hair (I had bought shampoo). I've also been proposed to at the grocery store by a total stranger.

Kestra's hair-washing thing is the creepiest I've heard yet.

I’m not what one might consider “cute,” so I don’t expect to get offers.

But one day, I chatted with this older guy at the gym (like an ugly version of Efrem Zimbalist Jr). He usually came with his wife. He said that his wife was in the hospital with some heart trouble and wondered if I wanted to go to his place and have sex.

WTF?!

I see him at the gym sometimes, and ignore him. His wife is back to going there, but I just feel a bit sorry for her.

 

[RJDiogenes]

Well I do have fantastic hair.

I think that was great. It inspires me to want to become a creepy old man.

I've taken the liberty of emailing you my current brochure. Enjoy

I'll watch for it.

 

[Marie1]

They don't approach me on the street so much as "subtly" stare at me in their side view mirrors and swerve out of their lanes or almost not notice the cars stopping in front of them. Which is annoying because if they're in an accident, I'll have a legal obligation to stay at the scene...

 

[RoJoHen]

Even when I try to be nice or assume someone is normal, they disappoint time and time again.

I find this is true for people in general. I am amazed at just how fucking weird people are.

 

[Bears Discover Fire]

Gotta admire the chutzpah.

The veracity of all his claims seemed suspect. At one point I wondered if I was an unwitting participant in some sort of public performance art.