I would like advice on a dating issue

[sidious618]

A job well done, mate.

 

[Kestra]

A job well done, mate.

Agreed. You've handled everything quite nicely. On to the next girl!

 

[RJDiogenes]

She said she couldn't because she she was most definately dating the older gentlemen in the department and they are trying to keep it on the DL to prevent rumors.

Well, so much for my theory. Sorry to hear that, but you did the right thing to ask. And there's always the future.

 

[Nardpuncher]

7 years without a date=

Sorry about that. The terrible joke was hanging there and since we're on a Trek board...

 

[sidious618]

7 years without a date=

Sorry about that. The terrible joke was hanging there and since we're on a Trek board...

And yet he took a step to improve it which is more than most can say. Besides, he said 7 years without a date not 7 years without sex.

 

[Robert DeSoto]

Hi everyone. I want to thank you all for your comments and advice. It really helped! Tonight as we were walking from our class, I asked her out for coffee. She said she couldn't because she she was most definately dating the older gentlemen in the department and they are trying to keep it on the DL to prevent rumors. She replied that she was flattered that I thought about her and told me I was her "her best guy friend." I have no regrets and glad I managed to work up the courage to ask. Again, thank you.

You're her best guy friend and she won't even go for coffee with you? What kind of best friend is that

Forget this chick. Time to make like Jay-Z cuz "it's on to the next one..."

 

[iguana_tonante]

You're her best guy friend and she won't even go for coffee with you? What kind of best friend is that

That's not what she said. He asked her out ("out for coffee" is codeword for an informal date), and she declined because she's dating another guy. It's about establishing boundaries and avoiding mixed signals, which is a good thing. Everybody behaved properly in this instances.

Also, the comments about grave robbing? She's 25, he's 40. It's not like she's dating a 75 years old.

 

[FPAlpha]

25/40 is also not that uncommon i hear.

Apparently women, when done with their wild phase and are looking at something long term, like men who are mature, have a stable life and good future prospects and men like to have younger women.. well.. because they're young

 

[Robert DeSoto]

You're her best guy friend and she won't even go for coffee with you? What kind of best friend is that

That's not what she said. He asked her out ("out for coffee" is codeword for an informal date), and she declined because she's dating another guy. It's about establishing boundaries and avoiding mixed signals, which is a good thing. Everybody behaved properly in this instances.

Also, the comments about grave robbing? She's 25, he's 40. It's not like she's dating a 75 years old.

A few of the suggestions were to ask her out, without making it sound like a date, formal or informal. Mixed signals is a good thing. Let the girl think about it and wonder if you like her. Behaving properly is nice, but it doesnt help you get pussy. This guy hasn't had any for 7 years, I think that behaving properly should be the least of his concerns right now.

TyberiusDeAngelo, you should read up on some of the stuff on PUA theory. You're a PhD, so I'm sure your research skills are pretty good.

 

[iguana_tonante]

Behaving properly is nice, but it doesnt help you get pussy. This guy hasn't had any for 7 years, I think that behaving properly should be the least of his concerns right now.

Ah, a true gentleman, I see.

 

[Nardpuncher]

Behaving properly is nice, but it doesnt help you get pussy. This guy hasn't had any for 7 years, I think that behaving properly should be the least of his concerns right now.

Ah, a true gentleman, I see.

Aw c'mon...that last line is great! It's something nuKirk would say!
And sometimes the best advice is the rip-the-band-aid-off-quickly kind.

 

[iguana_tonante]

Aw c'mon...that last line is great! It's something nuKirk would say!

Wut?

And sometimes the best advice is the rip-the-band-aid-off-quickly kind.

So, the best advice for "getting pussy" is encouraging him at being a douche. Got it.

 

[Nardpuncher]

I just sort of liked the line "I think that behaving properly should be the least of his concerns right now."
I am not saying be a douche, but I'm just saying that quick little 'hard-core' bromides are sometimes applicable and fun. Please do not read too much into that.

 

[Nardpuncher]

I must now mention that I made a mistake and thought I was posting in another thread with the same theme started by Admiral Shran. The advice that Robert DeSoto gave here would be better in that thread...sorry!

 

[Robert DeSoto]

Aw c'mon...that last line is great! It's something nuKirk would say!

Wut?

And sometimes the best advice is the rip-the-band-aid-off-quickly kind.

So, the best advice for "getting pussy" is encouraging him at being a douche. Got it.

I didn't make the rules of the game. I just know how to play it. Nice guys finish last. It's sad, but it's true. The assholes or "douches" as you say get all the pussy.

And I never said he should straight up lie to the girl. But you just don't show your cards at the beginning. I don't think that makes you a douche.

When TyberiusDeAngelo is happily married, he can be all proper and shit. For now, he's gotta build up his experience. He shouldn't be worried about trying to behave himself. You say he behaved properly, but in the end, did he get results? No. But If he asks her out for coffee, casually (ie. not a date) I don't see why she would refuse even if she is dating someone else. You can have dinners and drinks with girls that have bfs as long as you make it sound casual.

And as long as he's spending time with her, he'd continue to have a chance to get her to like him. But because she now knows he likes her, she already put up her defenses.

You can hate all you want, but you can't argue with results.

 

[Robert DeSoto]

I must now mention that I made a mistake and thought I was posting in another thread with the same theme started by Admiral Shran. The advice that Robert DeSoto gave here would be better in that thread...sorry!

you mean the one where he wants to kill himself?

sigh. its pretty sad how many of these depressing dating threads there are on this site. its the typical Trekkie nerd stereotype that we never talk to girls

I'm a huge Trekkie. But I love girls too. I wish more Trekkies would go out and get some pussy so we get rid of this stereotype.

 

[iguana_tonante]

So, the best advice for "getting pussy" is encouraging him at being a douche. Got it.

I didn't make the rules of the game. I just know how to play it. Nice guys finish last. It's sad, but it's true. The assholes or "douches" as you say get all the pussy.

Something in your passive-aggressive behaviour suggests me that your advice to be a douche to get girls has more to do with your own insecurity than with the OP.

sigh. its pretty sad how many of these depressing dating threads there are on this site. its the typical Trekkie nerd stereotype that we never talk to girls

I'm a huge Trekkie. But I love girls too. I wish more Trekkies would go out and get some pussy so we get rid of this stereotype.

Yeah, it's really unfortunate that people's struggles with depression are a nuisance to you.

And given your attitude, I have a feeling your "success" with women is actually more a case of hitting on everything that moves and preying on girls with low self-esteem than you being the expert in the art of seduction.

 

[Robert DeSoto]

So, the best advice for "getting pussy" is encouraging him at being a douche. Got it.

I didn't make the rules of the game. I just know how to play it. Nice guys finish last. It's sad, but it's true. The assholes or "douches" as you say get all the pussy.

Something in your passive-aggressive behaviour suggests me that your advice to be a douche to get girls has more to do with your own insecurity than with the OP.

sigh. its pretty sad how many of these depressing dating threads there are on this site. its the typical Trekkie nerd stereotype that we never talk to girls

I'm a huge Trekkie. But I love girls too. I wish more Trekkies would go out and get some pussy so we get rid of this stereotype.

Yeah, it's really unfortunate that people's struggles with depression are a nuisance to you.

And given your attitude, I have a feeling your "success" with women is actually more a case of hitting on everything that moves and preying on girls with low self-esteem than you being the expert in the art of seduction.

Wow you're making a LOT of assumptions now. This is the point where you need to shut the fuck up. How's that for passive aggressive?

And his depression isn't a nuissance to me, dumb ass. I said it's sad that these Trekkies fall into the stereotype. Not for me, but for themselves. And faggots like you don't help the situation. Instead encouraging them to learn the game, you tell them, oh that's ok, just keep doing what you're doing and everything will be fine. well no, if that were the case, they wouldnt be talking about killing themselves now, would they?

I'm trying to push the OP to be more aggressive and use tactics that are proven to work. What the fuck are you doing? Jack shit. You just sit there and say, Oh thats ok, you behaved properly. Whoop dee fucking doo. Is that getting him anywhere? no. And then you go and bash someone else whos actually offering advice. Oh you dont like my advice? ok, you got any better ideas? No? ok in that case, as I said earlier, you need to shut the fuck up

 

[SPCTRE]

To make a general statement from your situation, I think people are too scared of having their advances rejected. It's not something horrible or scarring, except if you want it to be. It's not disrespectful for a guy to politely ask a woman out, and it's not disrespectful for a woman to politely decline the offer. At worst, you'd get a few awkward moments, and then people get over it.

QFT

 

[iguana_tonante]

Wow you're making a LOT of assumptions now. This is the point where you need to shut the fuck up. How's that for passive aggressive?

And his depression isn't a nuissance to me, dumb ass. I said it's sad that these Trekkies fall into the stereotype. Not for me, but for themselves. And faggots like you don't help the situation. Instead encouraging them to learn the game, you tell them, oh that's ok, just keep doing what you're doing and everything will be fine. well no, if that were the case, they wouldnt be talking about killing themselves now, would they?

I'm trying to push the OP to be more aggressive and use tactics that are proven to work. What the fuck are you doing? Jack shit. You just sit there and say, Oh thats ok, you behaved properly. Whoop dee fucking doo. Is that getting him anywhere? no. And then you go and bash someone else whos actually offering advice. Oh you dont like my advice? ok, you got any better ideas? No? ok in that case, as I said earlier, you need to shut the fuck up

Wow. Such unchecked rage. Well, I have some good advice for you, too: you should reign in your mouth, sport.