This whole situation makes me literally angry with rage.
I Was Strangled and Beaten by a Stranger. I'm Injured. I'm Angry.
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Let's find that fucker and kill him til he dies from it!
Remember to count me in if there's a road trip on BDF's behalf. I can bench 350, walk thru most front doors like wet cardboard, and a grip that has crushed jaws. Add into it I am a big, ugly and menacing looking mofo. I would enjoy making BDF's attacker scream for mercy and then looking to BDF for the thumbs up or down. I am not normally a violent man, but I make exception for cases like this.
...and I'm JuanBolio.
Very sorry to hear about the attack. I hope your injuries, both physical and mental, heal quickly.
...and I'm JuanBolio.
We can be bookend BDF revengers!
Miss Chicken, I think we all have sympathy for the things you went though, and the things people in similar situations go through, but when you had an opportunity to get him out of your life you did, and you tried to come up with a way to make it happen. You didn't defend him, or warn him of the cops like this guy did.
Ok I hope I'm getting somewhere today.
I contacted the housing authority and was told I'm helpless. So Check.
I've faxed the police report to my apartment manager. I've written a 30 day notice of my intent to move but have not yet sent it. In the 30 day notice, I explained why I am unable to continue living in the complex, and how the management's apathy and uncooperative nature has forced me to seek relocation. Tomorrow I must drop off my rent check (can I write write "fuck you motherfucking bitches" in the memo space?).
I've contacted a lawyer referral service and told them what's been happening. Now I have to wait for a call back. I might have to go to downtown tomorrow for a consultation.
I'm continuing to fill out paperwork for the victim's service. Before they can fund me anything, I need a form filled out by law enforcement and/or a mental health professional stating that it is too dangerous to live in my apartment. I also must find another apartment before they can do anything for me. It may take 3-5 months for any sort of reimbursement.
So, back to the precinct I go, both for that form and to make corrections on the erroneous police report. I'm also calling a therapist who helped me work through my bipolar wonkery a few years ago, to see what she can do for me now, both for filling out this form and putting me back together emotionally.
My work is becoming impatient in my absence. I've been emailing them back and forth all day as well.
I have to hunt for a new apartment ASAP as well. Oh fuck this is hard. I don't think I can handle any more for one day.
I contacted the housing authority and was told I'm helpless. So Check.
I've faxed the police report to my apartment manager. I've written a 30 day notice of my intent to move but have not yet sent it. In the 30 day notice, I explained why I am unable to continue living in the complex, and how the management's apathy and uncooperative nature has forced me to seek relocation. Tomorrow I must drop off my rent check (can I write write "fuck you motherfucking bitches" in the memo space?).
I've contacted a lawyer referral service and told them what's been happening. Now I have to wait for a call back. I might have to go to downtown tomorrow for a consultation.
I'm continuing to fill out paperwork for the victim's service. Before they can fund me anything, I need a form filled out by law enforcement and/or a mental health professional stating that it is too dangerous to live in my apartment. I also must find another apartment before they can do anything for me. It may take 3-5 months for any sort of reimbursement.
So, back to the precinct I go, both for that form and to make corrections on the erroneous police report. I'm also calling a therapist who helped me work through my bipolar wonkery a few years ago, to see what she can do for me now, both for filling out this form and putting me back together emotionally.
My work is becoming impatient in my absence. I've been emailing them back and forth all day as well.
I have to hunt for a new apartment ASAP as well. Oh fuck this is hard. I don't think I can handle any more for one day.
My sympathies to Bears, of course.
Personally, so would I. One thing I've learnt doing my job is that people are unpredictable and to always have an eye to minding your own risk before anyone else's.
Bears: The advice everyone's given you about finding a reputable lawyer quickly is spot on. You need accurate legal advice about what you can and can't do/expect in your situation.
The only other advice I'd have is to expect your psychological recovery to likely be slow and intermittent, and that's not something to beat yourself up about. And I chose my words with that analogy quite deliberately, to emphasise the point.
Personally, so would I. One thing I've learnt doing my job is that people are unpredictable and to always have an eye to minding your own risk before anyone else's.
Bears: The advice everyone's given you about finding a reputable lawyer quickly is spot on. You need accurate legal advice about what you can and can't do/expect in your situation.
The only other advice I'd have is to expect your psychological recovery to likely be slow and intermittent, and that's not something to beat yourself up about. And I chose my words with that analogy quite deliberately, to emphasise the point.
Explain to them you have been the victim of a violent crime and you are recovering as fast as you can and that if they happen to have any magical "make shit better all at one" pills that you would gladly take them
^Maybe she should just hire the Frontline Temp Agency to fill in for a week or three.....
Yes, yes, yes! You are taking positive action towards putting your life back together. That's terrific. Take care of all of you - and don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it.
I simply cannot believe that the police wouldn't press charges in your case 
Is it an L.A thing? An American thing? Here, a boy in sixth grade that hit my son (in fifth) was spoken to by the police (as was my son, to report what the boy had done....boy was suspended) and could have been charged if I wished (I didn't...boy apologized upon returning from suspension and all is good now).
Just. Like. Wow.
Is it an L.A thing? An American thing? Here, a boy in sixth grade that hit my son (in fifth) was spoken to by the police (as was my son, to report what the boy had done....boy was suspended) and could have been charged if I wished (I didn't...boy apologized upon returning from suspension and all is good now).
Just. Like. Wow.
The relocating thing is overwhelming in part because I really don't want to live in LA anymore. I've spent 2 1/2 years here and I still don't care much for the city nor have I made any career headway while here. If there was ever an opportunity to get the hell out of Dodge, I think this is it.
Hell, at this point I don't even like California very much. It's too expensive to live here and its about to get more expensive because the state is in such a shit hole deficit.
If my boyfriend and most of my close family weren't in California, I'd pack up and move to Phoenix to be with my sister. It's still not out of the question. But, barring that, I like Orange, San Diego and even Riverside Counties more than I like LA County. I like the desert areas. I also like the Bay Area but its very expensive and damp. My now twice broken foot doesn't do damp. It's a humidity diva.
So I have a lot to think about. I want to telecommute but whether work will let me remains to be seen. If they let me telecommute, that means I can go anywhere. If I can go anywhere, I will tell LA to fuck off. I just don't know where the hell to go next.
I shouldn't even be trying to make a decision like this at this time, but I gotta choose NOW.
Aye yayayay.
Hell, at this point I don't even like California very much. It's too expensive to live here and its about to get more expensive because the state is in such a shit hole deficit.
If my boyfriend and most of my close family weren't in California, I'd pack up and move to Phoenix to be with my sister. It's still not out of the question. But, barring that, I like Orange, San Diego and even Riverside Counties more than I like LA County. I like the desert areas. I also like the Bay Area but its very expensive and damp. My now twice broken foot doesn't do damp. It's a humidity diva.
So I have a lot to think about. I want to telecommute but whether work will let me remains to be seen. If they let me telecommute, that means I can go anywhere. If I can go anywhere, I will tell LA to fuck off. I just don't know where the hell to go next.
I shouldn't even be trying to make a decision like this at this time, but I gotta choose NOW.
Aye yayayay.
^^ Well, I hope they let you telecommute. That would be great. Since you do all your work on computer (if I remember rightly), I don't know why they wouldn't.
I understand. I've worked in health care for a long time, and I've seen this sort of thing over and over. People are naturally angry about what happened to Bears; under other circumstances, I'm sure most would be more sympathetic.
And had you actually been reading this thread, you would have seen that it was Bears herself who said that she would have not been able to live with herself had she not interfered, and perhaps allowed the other victim to be killed. Had she not been incredibly heroic as she was, she would have just been thrust into another terrible emotional and mental situation.
Anyway, I don't want to get into a debate with someone who simply won't understand what's actually going on. This thread is for us to support Bears through this atrocity.
My word. This is shocking!
I am amazed at your bravery. You have the heart of a lion. I wish more people were like you. Be brave a little longer, until you have your case underway in the law courts and you have a good place to live.
Sometimes good things can come out of bad things. I strongly believe that. You did a good and honourable thing. Let that be a balm to sooth you.
I am wishing you all the best. Please do accept any offers of help given by family and friends.
As to people giving you the relavent local links and support you need, I love the way we all pull together here in times of need. Beautiful.
I am amazed at your bravery. You have the heart of a lion. I wish more people were like you. Be brave a little longer, until you have your case underway in the law courts and you have a good place to live.
Sometimes good things can come out of bad things. I strongly believe that. You did a good and honourable thing. Let that be a balm to sooth you.
I am wishing you all the best. Please do accept any offers of help given by family and friends.
As to people giving you the relavent local links and support you need, I love the way we all pull together here in times of need. Beautiful.
Me too. It's why I'm proud to be a part of this community.
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