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I Want to Get Married

I'm in the "cut the hair pretty short" camp, along with many of the other suggestions that have been made. Different glasses and clothes could make a big difference.
 
Okay... I will have my hair cut short... NOT to the buzz-cut level, but short... I'm just not ready for a buzz yet.
 
Also, there's one thing that hasn't been really addressed here though it would be difficult since we don't know you. But what are your facial expressions like as you go around throughout the day.

I've seen perfectly content or even happy people who happen to look grouchy on the outside.
 
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It's great that you're willing to try changing things at all. Good first step!


Well, I did ask for advice... I'm not going to ignore it, lol, but thanks. I figure if you all are telling me the same thing, there must be truth to it, and like I said... one's own mirror can be biased.

Finn, usually I wear what I can only describe as a "neutral" look, lol... but of course if I am near a woman or a group of people in my sight, I will smile, or try to wear what I hope is a polite look.
 
Also, there's one thing that hasn't been really addressed here thought it would be difficult since we don't know you. But what are your facial expressions like as you go around throughout the day.

I've seen perfectly content or even happy people who happen to look grouchy on the outside.

I can speak to this . . . I'm a jolly fellow, but on occasion people have asked me "What's wrong?"
but all is not lost, I have precise control over my facial muscles and thus I can produce various expressions that many would find difficult or impossible.
 
You exhibit classic male pattern baldness, so you might want to go shorter (no need for a buzzcut at this stage). As you grow the hair longer at the sides, it draws attention to how thin it is at the top, a shorter cut would avoid this. Moreover, as it gets thinner at the front (and I'm receding myself), try to style it in certain ways just looks odd because you simply don't have the coverage.
 
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It's great that you're willing to try changing things at all. Good first step!


Well, I did ask for advice... I'm not going to ignore it, lol, but thanks. I figure if you all are telling me the same thing, there must be truth to it, and like I said... one's own mirror can be biased.

Finn, usually I wear what I can only describe as a "neutral" look, lol... but of course if I am near a woman or a group of people in my sight, I will smile, or try to wear what I hope is a polite look.

Sounds like you are well on your way to meeting women! :techman:

What exactly is a polite look?
 
Let me ask, do you have any lady friends that you can open up to? Ask them about your wardrobe. Especially your shoes. If not, go to a decent clothing store and ask for help. I'm not saying change your total wardrobe, start with one outfit that is versatile and can be combined with clothes you already have. Definitely look at the shoes though.
 
I do NOT feel like I'm more attractive than others... in fact, I admit most guys looks way better than me.
You missed the point entirely. You compared yourself to a morbidly obese man, and stated that since he could find a wife, so should you. It's not about your attractiveness, it's about thinking you deserve to be loved. Hideous-looking serial killers are loved, and perfectly nice and good-looking people are not, so whether people deserve it is a moot point You can't control whether you are loved or not: life doesn't work like that. The only thing you can control is looking and behaving your best. You seems willing to make steps about that, so kudos to you for that.

The thing with me is, I'm actually usually a real upbeat, happy, and confident guy. BUT... when I get hit emotionally, it hits me very hard, and when I'm down, it takes me a long time to get back up, because when you're down, you're down, and you just simply "don't feel like" putting on a happy face... that takes time.
Sounds like there may be some elements of clinical depression. Have you ever tried talking to counsellor?

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As other mentioned, a couple advices could improve your look.

No moustache. Really, no moustache.
Cut your hair short, and drop the sideburns.
Change your glasses to something more stylish.
I get you took this at home, but take care of your wardrobe.
And even more importantly: smile!

One thing I'd like to TRY before I go hackin' away at the hair, is try to get it styled like Adama's...

http://www.werewolfpoet.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/adama.jpg

His hairline is back a bit, and I like how in the front the hair is kind of raised up, and then waves back down... I can get my hair long enough to do that, but IDK how to style it that way... but I like that look, hairstyle-wise.
Dude, Olmos is over 60. I hate to say that, but looking like an old, pissed-off Admiral might not be the best way to attract women.
 
^ Wow! A face I can now put to the name! I have a generic face I envision for everyone on internet forums but now I can picture you properly.

Personally I would do what previous posters have said. Shave head, designer specs and I would go for a bit of stubble. As long as you feel comfortable with any changes you make you should be fine.

On another note, my current house-mate has been single for many years and he refuses downright to change his appearance. He says if a woman cant love him for who he is then he isn't interested. Its taken him a long time but he has recently started dating a lass who takes him at face value, chocolate stained t-shirt, jogging bottoms and all.

Believe in yourself man, it will happen.
 
'Want' to get married..? :wtf: What do you think this is, the 19th century?? You either HAVE to get married or you don't do it!! :p
 
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