You've got some Very good points!
I guess the reason I found this an interesting question is, my wife really doesn't care for Star Trek much.
She's a comedy fan and writer and Trek is just too serious for her tastes. She liked the Tribbles, but that and I, Mudd are really the only full on comedy episodes. She finds Babylon 5 to be too serious, so that'll give you a baseline.
The only episodes she consistently enjoyed were the Animated Series.
Fascinating!
B5 - I didn't care for it at the time but in a random repeat, I saw and stayed for more, and like the "Bewitched" vs "I Dream of Jeannie", I enjoy both B5 and DS9 despite some superficial similarities. Season 4 got a raw deal, but I digress... If she found B5 too serious, there may not be much hope for DS9 but I'll return to that in a moment...
In the right mood, I do rewatch both the full-on comedy episodes and "Tribbles" is the more subtle, but "Mudd" had some loud guffaw moments too and I sided with Stella at the end despite the antique humor being applied, because it manages to work -- I thank the on-screen chemistry between the actors playing Stella and Harry because they play it just right, and to underplay it would probably feel more sinister than comedic - something the episode did not need... on the flip side, only Spock's "beads and rattles" line and the OTT miming at the end were detracting... I do prefer the more serious side to Trek, or perhaps more balanced. It's interesting to note the many types of audiences, too...
The Animated Series is rather underrated, especially for what it was trying to do in 1973 under limited conditions. "The Lorelei Factor" (sp) was probably my favorite one, but many are very watchable.
Oh, well, 15 years of trying to get her to laugh has taught me a thing or two.
Humor is a spice to life for sure...
Interesting you don't care for the first couple seasons of Red Dwarf. Those were my favorites... Well, we recently got the box set of DVDs, maybe that'll work.
Season 1 didn't do much for me, though I did enjoy "Waiting for God" from the get-go. Still can't really pin why season 1 doesn't do much for me. It's a good thing I got into it during series 2, which is pretty much six classics in a row but "Queeg" is flippin' awesome, but there's nary a clunker amongst them. Season 3 just feels more lively, punchy,
confident, and rowdy in all the right places. But still has that sci-fi edge season 2 sold so well. Season 1 has the actors that really keep the show flowing and I'm still amazed the show even made it to production to begin with. It's a great premise...
A friend I got the show for disliked seasons 1 and 2 but heard from others, corroborated by me, to keep truckin' through series 3. I remember the last time I saw him and he was floored by how great it was. But he didn't go for much of season 1 or 2.
Also an interesting idea on DS9. I've tried to get into the show several times, but I kept bouncing off. Maybe Season 4 would be a better start.
Thanks!
Scott Kellogg
Good luck! DS9 I did speak mostly from my own experiences, but the show did have and keep a lot of fans from the start... I only tuned in for another try because they brought in Worf. They changed so much... and I'm a sucker for engaging war stories, not even expecting DS9 would have the guts to do something that big with the franchise. Then I gave more of the first three seasons a chance and really saw what the show could do. Never saw Duet on its original run, either, and that one's a truly impressive jaw-dropper and a great Kira story too...
Given the Ferengi are a source of comic relief, she might enjoy "Little Green Men". Dare I suggest to show it out of order? It gives some clues to the ongoing arcs, but is pretty much its own breather after a few tense episodes and by and large it's told really well. It's not over the top with silliness, and when the Ferengi were given over the top material it led to some of the most horrendous episodes (IMHO). "Our Man Bashir" has a lot of comic nods but if she's not a Bond fan then it'd be a hard sell...