It wouldn't surprise me if Trek was trying to work in some acceptance of "minor attracted persons."
No... physically, Kes was just as adult as Neelix was. The issue was her chronological age. She's kind of an extreme version of the young person who looks like she's in her twenties but is really in her teens. It's not abnormal or wrong to
notice such a person... but it's definitely wrong to act on it, if you know their actual age.
We might know intellectually that Kes is physically and mentally an adult and that she'll be dead long before reaching our traditional age of consent... but on a more instinctive level, it seems wrong.
I vaguely remember an episode of Next Gen with Lwaxana Troi and a young boy that was a bit iffy in places.
Yeah... the mud baths. As a culture, Betazoids are kind of blasé about nudity. At a typical Betazoid wedding, it's not just the bride who's naked... so is everyone else.
Again, we see the scene through the lens of our far more modest culture. A culture where communal bathing is normal would see it differently.
I didn't realize how sketchy that was as a kid.
And it's in our nature to see it that way. That's what I called Kes's age "the chronological elephant in the room".
I think the idea was that the crew of Voyager were supposed to be enlightened enough that they could see past the limits imposed by human culture... problem is, as the audience, we can't (and as someone who's in the business of keeping children safe, I say that's a good thing). And that's why I agree with the initial notion: deleting the Kes/Neelix relationship would have been a positive for both characters, and VOY as a whole. Tom and B'Elanna had their issues, but they were a far better flagship romance for the show.
In a few years we're going to be looking back at all the old media and those who haven't figured it out yet will be shocked at the real meaning.
Voyager as a whole was so chaotic, I'm not even sure it has a "real meaning".