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I'd probably say about 80% of the time, things are good.
His problem is that short fuse. He'll be stressed at work and then come home and still be in a mood. He's the type of person who gets mad at things for a while. When I get mad, I could care less 2 minutes later. He has to be mad for a few hours and he gets mad at small things.
This sort of thing doesn't happen often but when it does, it lasts for the entire day, pretty much.
I know that rant makes it seem worse than it is but it isn't.
His problem is that short fuse. He'll be stressed at work and then come home and still be in a mood. He's the type of person who gets mad at things for a while. When I get mad, I could care less 2 minutes later. He has to be mad for a few hours and he gets mad at small things.
This sort of thing doesn't happen often but when it does, it lasts for the entire day, pretty much.
I know that rant makes it seem worse than it is but it isn't.
Ok 80% is good. I really would think about changing the way you react to him. I'm not sure if he's going to change or if he's interested to. You can't control him and how he acts...only yourself. Next time he takes off like that...don't even call him! He'll be expecting you to be calling a million times and when you don't do it he's gonna be like WTF!
I was actually thinking of that approach!
I used to stop him when he was getting his shoes on and ask him to stay home when he wanted to go for his drive but I stopped that and I just say nothing and let him have his cool off time while he drives around.
My problem is the calling part.
The issue is, I have anxiety disorder and get panic attacks. I get worried easily and when he is on his drive, I feel my nerves going because he's been gone a while and I don't know if something happened to him and if I hear sirens, I wonder if it's for him, if he got into a car accident. If I call, I feel better when he answers but I want to cut out the calling and just do something that will take my mind off of it.
I know what you mean. After a few deaths in my family I started getting worried whenever anybody was late by even just a few minutes. It started to really effect me. I came to terms with the fact that I'm not in control and I spent a lot of time worrying for no reason. If so and so was going to get in an accident there is nothing I can do about it and I was finally able to overcome it. Is there anybody else you can call? How about signing in here or other message boards to get support when he takes off? I don't have anxiety disorder though so I know this must be rougher for you to handle....
See if you can try the not calling thing just once. Say to yourself this time I'm not calling him when he takes off...the next time he does it I'll call ...but this time I'm not. I'm sure he's going to be shocked that you're not calling.
At least you have a mostly good relationship....there are sooooooo many out there that are just plain miserable....24/7.
I just hope I don't have to be involved in another situation like this but if it does happen, I'll sit in my hands if I have to!
I know that when I call, it's a "I win" thing to him. He'll lose next time, lol.
I know that when I call, it's a "I win" thing to him. He'll lose next time, lol.
I'm terrible with calls, too. Sometimes I'm good on the phone while othertimes I'm absolute shit and have no idea how to communicate. Not being able to see the person but only hearing their voice, in one ear, always fucks me up. Even worse, though, is that when I text or call a friend and leave a voicemail I always become paranoid when they don't reply right away. Do they not like me? Are they irritated with me? Did something happen to them?
I'm getting together with my friend tomorrow and I called her last night to set up the details but she's yet to call back so I'm starting to get those questions. Everytime they rise up I just have to smack 'em down, y'know?
I'm getting together with my friend tomorrow and I called her last night to set up the details but she's yet to call back so I'm starting to get those questions. Everytime they rise up I just have to smack 'em down, y'know?
Could be worse, too.Hopefully, things will improve.....
Oh I sure they will. but thanks. know any easy women?
That's good. I hope it keeps up.i am doing better then i was earlier this week.
Good, hang on to your optimism. I'm sure things will improve. Transitions are always stressful.
I've got my fingers crossed for you.
Have you thought about couples counseling or even individual counseling for your anxiety disorder?
Looks like you have some anxiety, too. Have you thought about talking to someone? You don't want that sort of thing to get out of control.
Mostly hard women, actually.Oh I sure they will. but thanks. know any easy women?
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just about nekid it that hot.
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just about nekid it that hot.
I'm quite bummed right now. I didn't get the job afterall. One of the girl's relatives did. And what's worse is that she made it sound like it was in the bag for me to get it. And she told me she would call me but never did. 
I had a sinking feeling the whole two days she didn't call me was to mean that I didn't get the job. Then I get an email from her saying that I didn't get it. Man was I ever down in the dumps that day. It was so hard getting out of bed the next morning too. I think I let my optimism get too optimistic. Oh well..maybe something better will come my way?
I had a sinking feeling the whole two days she didn't call me was to mean that I didn't get the job. Then I get an email from her saying that I didn't get it. Man was I ever down in the dumps that day. It was so hard getting out of bed the next morning too. I think I let my optimism get too optimistic. Oh well..maybe something better will come my way?
^^ Aw, I'm sorry to hear that. It did seem like you were going to get it. It sounded like a great job, working with animals, too.
I'm doing fantastically. Life is good. Going to go out with a girl for the first time in a long time. I seem to be cured of my former problems with anxiety and depression. I moved out of my old house and finally moved into town. I am way more active than I was. I'm quickly developing friendships with those around me. It's just going good! 
I'm happy to hear it. 
I hope it all keeps on going that way for you.
I hope it all keeps on going that way for you. Me too!
Heh. There are no classes. Life shoots first and asks questions later.
What kind of relationship are we talking about here?
What kind of relationship are we talking about here?
Sorry to hear about that, Kestra.
RJ: yeah I was pretty upset and depressed about it myself cause she made it sound like I was gonna get it. I think I was in the top five though but one of her relatives wanted it more than I needed it I guess. It still hurts like shit though.
RJ: yeah I was pretty upset and depressed about it myself cause she made it sound like I was gonna get it. I think I was in the top five though but one of her relatives wanted it more than I needed it I guess. It still hurts like shit though.
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