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Have you ever Been Cheated On By A Boyfreind or Girlfreind
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Agreed, Kestra. What's even more interesting is how hypocritical the statements are. What I don't understand is how someone will continue to stay with another person (who allegedly has bad habits) but cheat on that person.
Nope, just by my (now ex) husband who had an affair with his best friend's 21 year old sister and got her pregnant with twins. I didn't see it coming. I was in love and completely blind. He's married to her now and is completely miserable. He kept calling me to tell me until I told him to quit calling. Gee, actually living with someone and having to take care of two screaming infants with loaded diapers isn't as exciting as an affair. Who'd have thunk it? 
Usually you can tell if someone's cheating. It's just that a great many people (myself included) don't want to see it and don't want to know.
Usually you can tell if someone's cheating. It's just that a great many people (myself included) don't want to see it and don't want to know.
Yes. And she got pregnant. Furthermore, she tried to convince me I was the father. As I found out a few years later by one of friends at the time, her plan was to dump the kid on me and take off with the guy. Luckily for me, said friend wasn't nearly as gullible as I was and foiled the little ruse. As a result, however, the pregnancy ended up being terminated ... Take from that what you will.
That's terrible.
Wow, some horrible stories in this thread. I'm glad that at least people seem to have recovered well, for the most part.
This is, unfortunately, something I do understand. I hope you never do.
This is, unfortunately, something I do understand. I hope you never do.
Fear of being alone, easier than having to move out/break up/divorce, money, punishment to the person being cheated on, cheater acting like a coward and not wanting to own up to cheating, etc. Plenty of reasons, and that's just off the top of my head.
Never cheated, but have been tempted a couple of times. Caused me to evaluate the current relationship, and both times, decide that it was probably best to end it.
Been cheated on in 2 relationships, not a great experience. Would rather just be honest up front, have the "this isn't working for me" talk, and THEN go persue something that works better...
Never cheated, but have been tempted a couple of times. Caused me to evaluate the current relationship, and both times, decide that it was probably best to end it.
Been cheated on in 2 relationships, not a great experience. Would rather just be honest up front, have the "this isn't working for me" talk, and THEN go persue something that works better...
I've never cheated and don't think I've been cheated on.
I'd like to think I'd never cheat. Of course, if someone was offering the possibility, I'd probably never notice anyway
. If they made it that obvious, I'd probably be more shocked than anything.
Truthfully, when in a relationship, I'm committed to it.
I'd like to think I'd never cheat. Of course, if someone was offering the possibility, I'd probably never notice anyway
. If they made it that obvious, I'd probably be more shocked than anything.Truthfully, when in a relationship, I'm committed to it.
Yes. It was devastating both emotionally and physically. After some time, I got over it (for the most part).
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My father is a serial adulterer. I can't recall the last time he was stringing fewer than three women along at once. Most don't last beyond six months and so for the most part I don't even bother to try and remember their names. Needless to say, it's been something of a strain on our relationship at times, and has certainly shaped my own - largely theoretical - views on the subject.
I must admit there's a primitive part of my mind which is simply irked by my father's evident prowess in this area. And another, more evolved part that fears it as an example of the extent of the role that deception plays (or can play) in human sociality; and thereby the risks of allowing oneself to become vulnerable to another.
Safety net.
I must admit there's a primitive part of my mind which is simply irked by my father's evident prowess in this area. And another, more evolved part that fears it as an example of the extent of the role that deception plays (or can play) in human sociality; and thereby the risks of allowing oneself to become vulnerable to another.
Safety net.
I'm so happy someone picked it up I could cry.
Good man.
Oh yeah, not worth being upset about it. I love my life, even if it's not as sexy as it could be.
You know, I always believed that everyone around me could just go out on the town and have sex with anyone, anywhere, and that they didn't have any problem doing so (as TV will lead you to believe), and that I was an anomaly in that regard. It took me a long time to realize that was just a fantasy, and that reality is much, much colder and harsher than that.
It's pretty easy. It's all just a game, the more weight you put on it just overly complicates things.
And they say romance is dead... 
And they say romance is dead...
Look, I hate to be the one to break it to you, but not every single moment of every encounter with a girl is romantic. Romance is fine in it's place when it's called for, but you're not Prince Charming every minute of every day rescuing a damsel in distress.
You meet a girl at a bar, if things work out, and she gets to your place and you've got the Barry White cranked and rose petals on the floor she's gonna run away screaming.
It's not all a game, either. Life and love should be something more than just playing with people's emotions as if they're toys to be thrown away when you're done with them.
The use of the word "game" implies a particularly callous form of casualness that I'm not comfortable with. At least when that's all that it is. *Part* of it can be a game - just not all of it.
Look, I never said that romance should occupy our every waking moment. Just that IT'S NOT DEAD. There is still a time and a place for it.
The use of the word "game" implies a particularly callous form of casualness that I'm not comfortable with. At least when that's all that it is. *Part* of it can be a game - just not all of it.
Look, I never said that romance should occupy our every waking moment. Just that IT'S NOT DEAD. There is still a time and a place for it.
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Be honest, you're not even trying to pay attention are you?
Meeting people is the game, or sport, you can only think in terms of baseball, so let's run with that.
You're at a social gathering place, we'll call it "a bar", let's say, it's one of those "bars" that are popular amongst single people, both men and women, who want to go out, have some fun, maybe meet someone.
You're now "on deck" maybe you take a few practice swings aka "mingling" Then, you see a girl or guy who you're interested in. You're now "up at bat"
You can "go down swing" "go down looking" or you could even "get a hit"
You're skill in baseball, is directly related to how much you practice. The more you practice, the better you will be at the plate. As with all pro baseball player, how you handle the strikeout is just as important as how you handle the homerun.
When you strikeout, you dust yourself off, shake it off, and get ready for your next "at bat" you don't run to the dugout and quit the game after the first inning.
When you do make it to base, how you treat your baserunning strategy (relationship) is up to you.
The "game" or "sport" isn't "toying with their emotions. "The game aspect is meeting them in the first place.
See, it's all a game. Put more weight on it than that, and you're setting yourself up for hardship, failure, and other bad shit.
Life is fun, have fun.
I suppose so.
But like I just said - the whole THING isn't a game.
Then again, I take everything in life seriously anyway. So what the hell do I know?
You'd be more likely to see the Orioles win the '10 World Series than see ME at a bar.
