Guys (and girls too) need some advice.

[Aldo]

The other day my roommate showed me a picture of his crew at the store he works at (he's a manager), and immediately this one girl caught my eye. After I pointed out that I thought she was cute, the next day when he got home from work he told me he almost invited her over. Obviously to meet me and all, he mentioned this to me yesterday. I haven't really talked to him since because he works weird hours and is usually in bed when I'm up or I'm usually off to work when he's home, but there are a few times when we're able to hang out and talk.

Now after mentioning to him I thought she was cute, I didn't really think anything of it. But when he mentioned he almost invited her over it kind made me want to meet her. The thing is, I don't want to pester him about it and seem desperate, and I also think it could feel like a set up to her. Not to mention the fact that it's been (what feels like) an eternity since I've even attempted to interact with a girl on a level other than friends.

So I suppose what I'm really asking is: In this situation what would you do? Not looking for anyone to tell me exactly what to do, just looking for some advice to guide me to what I will ultimately do.

 

[Kommander]

So... there's a problem here? From what I understand, people set up other people all the time. There's even a term for it: "blind date."

It would probably be best if your roommate approaches it from a "Hey, I think you might like my roommate" standpoint rather than a "hey, want to come hang out? I promise I'm not trying to trick you into sleeping with my roommate" angle, but I'm not an expert at this sort of thing.

 

[Aldo]

Problem? Maybe not, but I've never been put in (potentially) a situation like this. Just trying to get some opinions on the matter, is all.

 

[Kestra]

Do whatever you want. That's about it. There's not really anything here to form an opinion on.

 

[MHT1138]

I don't think you would be pestering your roommate if you brought it up again. Also sometimes I think its easier to meet new people in a neutral setting. So maybe you guys could all meet at a bar or go to the movies sometime.

 

[FPAlpha]

Arrange a small party, maybe a DVD night with 2-3 movies, ask your roommate to invite her and make sure there's other women too (it's a bit creepy to be the only girl in a room full of guys and you only know one guy who's your boss) and talk to her.

Be yourself and it will happen or it won't.. no one can tell.

 

[Gaith]

You lack confidence. Time to consult The Hitchhiker's Guide to Dating 21st-Century Women.

 

[SmoothieX]

I anticipate a deeply religious experience.

 

[Newspaper Taxi]

*shrug* Sounds like it could be a fun wacky adventure to go through with it all. Seriously, this sounds like it could be the plot of a sitcom. I think the worst thing that could happen is that you and the other girl find out you have no real interest in each other.

 

[O'Dib]

I guess it could be weird for your manager buddy to have to be the go-between in something like that. Cause, inviting a subordinate back to his place? The poor girl might get a creepy vibe from that. I mean, it all depends on their working relationship. What you could do is, visit him in the store, have him introduce you guys there, bring up some social outing you're planning, and offer to include her. See what happens, and go from there, or not.

 

[Aldo]

She's not really a subordinate, she's another manager at his store.

 

[Spot's Meow]

People get set up like this all the time, it really is no big deal. I guess my only advice would be that instead of meeting at your place, it might be a little less awkward (and more fun anyway) to all go out to dinner together, or some other neutral activity like bowling.

 

[JarodRussell]

Maybe you could go somewhere and just eat a bunch of caramels. When you think about it, it's just as arbitrary as drinking coffee.

 

[trekkiebaggio]

Just say you'd be interested in meeting her and ask if he can arrange something.

 

[CorporalClegg]

Maybe you could go somewhere and just eat a bunch of caramels. When you think about it, it's just as arbitrary as drinking coffee.

Except more gooey.

Tell your roommate flat-out you like her. Unless he's a total git, he won't care.

If you're worried too much about it being a "set-up," go in to meet-up with him for lunch when you know she's there and ask if she wants to tag along. Your treat. If she declines, she's probably not interested.

If she does come a long, then when you're done, do the old hand her your phone trick. Simple but effective.

 

[iguana_tonante]

I don't know what to say, except that as a guy with a Big Trouble in Little China quote in his sig, you have my total and complete support.

 

[Captain_Nick]

Oh goody, another Aldo girl thread.

Is anyone running a sweep on how long before we get the 'I sent her 30 messages, why isn't she responding??' thread?

 

[Myasishchev]

Just say you'd be interested in meeting her and ask if he can arrange something.

This isn't nearly circuitous and Jack Tripper-esque enough to possibly work.

 

[Candlelight]

Does this girl have iffy hours as well?

 

[Aldo]

It may be a wash. My roommate has (apparently) come to his senses and no longer thinks I should meet this girl. That she's a bitch and has a strong personality and would "chew me up and spit me out." A friend of mine (who once worked at that store as well) confirms what he says and that I'm better off forgetting about her.

Kind of sucks cause I was looking forward to meeting someone new. On the other hand I do have to live with him...and he in turn has to work with her, so if something went wrong I suppose that could make his life hell on both fronts.