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Good Husband or Emasculated Wuss?

Is this guy...

  • Just being a good husband

    Votes: 58 87.9%
  • Totally whipped

    Votes: 8 12.1%

  • Total voters
    66
He seems very manly to me - he's not concerned about what other men will think - that by definition would make make him more manly (sorry FC) than Flux Capacitor who seems absolutely worried to death about what makes up being a man and the views of other men.

How again has this become about me? I was just posing the damn question...

Of course it's about you, any question we pose of this nature is ultimately about ourselves.
 
Every day I wake up thinking it's the 21st Century, and every day I'm reminded it's still 1950. :sigh:
 
A pretty common view in Hong Kong, when a man wears his wife/s'gf's bag or other items and they often do, freeing their women from heaviness of their stuffed bags (or light bags).

I don't see what's the problem with a man holding his wife's things. How is he supposed to hold them to be manly? :wtf:
 
Mostly I suppose I don't understand why it's okay to take a picture of a stranger and ridicule it online, in the case of the woman who originally posted it on facebook.
 
Her purse is too heavy for her? That seems like quite a bit of extrapolation. Why would a woman go out of the house with a purse that's so heavy that it is painful for her to hold? In the 3.5 years I've been with my wife I've never once had her complain that her purse is too heavy. Shopping bags, sure...but not her purse.

Yeah... women sometimes buy something heavy and put it in their purses....

And it was kind of douchey putting up a photo like that. None of us know the guy. There's nothing wrong with holding for his wife. Also, they might not want the purse to sit on that floor which probably is sticky and dirty. As for the photo, the wife might want tons of photos on her phone while the guy might not be so eager to have so many photos on his own phone.
 
To me, what makes it feminine is the same thing that makes us see red as "stop" or "danger" and green as "go". If you have a baby girl, you get pink balloons, if it's a boy, you get blue. Pink, feminine, blue, masculine. I'm not making this stuff up myself, it's just the way the certain colors are typically perceived.

So how does a color emasculate a man? Red means stop because it has an official designation in our traffic system. Pink means feminine because...?

I would have to say society as a whole dictates what it deems masculine.
So liking a certain color designates me as masculine/feminine, even though the color is gender neutral, because a group of people got together and said so. You know you don't have to agree with said group of people, because they're full of shit. You do realize that these perceptions change over time, yes? If this were 1920, you'd be on the opposite side of the argument. Pink is a boy's color because it's closer to the color of blood. If this were 1820, you'd be wearing pantyhose, and you'd be considered quite the masculine person.

Seems to me that you're inferring quite a bit there.
That wasn't an inference. That was a direct quote. You said you didn't like pink or diamonds because you were straight, and liked your things masculine.

As in I wear a lot of blues, blacks an darker shades of other colors. I don't wear them to enhance anything, they are simply my preference. Why is it okay for someone's preference to be pink but when I prefer blues and blacks all of a sudden I am "trying to enhance my masculinity"?
Because you shy away from anything you deem "feminine". You said outright you prefer what you wear to be masculine. You must have a purpose for this.

Pretty much, yeah.
So I'm effeminate because I like pink. That makes absolutely no sense whatsoever. It's like saying you know someone's gay because they "act a certain way". It's a valueless judgement.

Maybe they don't hold the same respect for a guy who is seen as subservient to his wife as they would one who is at the same level as she is?
So, to these women, a woman isn't equal to a man? That's the only way he can be subservient to his wife in this situation, is if she's not equal. Otherwise, all he's doing is being considerate.
 
Her purse is too heavy for her? That seems like quite a bit of extrapolation. Why would a woman go out of the house with a purse that's so heavy that it is painful for her to hold? In the 3.5 years I've been with my wife I've never once had her complain that her purse is too heavy. Shopping bags, sure...but not her purse.

And it may not be to you but to many men, pink is strictly a feminine color. I would never put a pink case on my phone, nor would I buy one with jewels or diamonds on it. I'm a straight guy and I like my things to be masculine. You can't be saying that a pink bedazzled phone case seems in any way masculine...right?

For one thing, I didn't know you were married, congratulations!

But, for another, I've worn pink shirts, it's no big deal.

I have to agree with this J. on this one. We really have no idea what's going on. So, he's using his wife's phone to take a picture of their daughter. Big deal. He's helping hold her stuff, big deal.

If you need "masculine" stuff to feel "masculine" that's the bigger deal. What does it mean to you to feel masculine? Honest question.

Mr Awe
 
Still, assuming he's holding it for her due to it's weight is just that...an assumption.

Dude, you've made a whole boatload of assumptions (about what colors mean, what actions mean, why he's holding her purse, etc) and you're complaining about one assumption, the most straightforward one, that the purse might be heavy?! :guffaw:

Mr Awe
 
BECAUSE IT IS FULL OF SHIT.

Like a lot people's purses/backpacks/bags.

Still, assuming he's holding it for her due to it's weight is just that...an assumption. I brought this up to my wife and she agreed that the solution for her would to be to not put so much stuff in her purse. I would hold it for her if it were too heavy, but after that one time I'd say we should go over her purse-packing priorities. .

So if she inconvenienced you more than once you'd want a say in what she was lugging?

You can see why they're having a disagreement over this situation!

Mr Awe
 
So, I think this thread has established that the OP has some kind of deep-seated discomfort with his own masculinity, while everyone else (including me) thinks there is no big deal here.

Carry on. :techman:
 
He seems very manly to me - he's not concerned about what other men will think - that by definition would make make him more manly (sorry FC) than Flux Capacitor who seems absolutely worried to death about what makes up being a man and the views of other men.

Agree. The I don't give a shit what others think attitude is much more "manly" than an "oh shit, I'd better surround myself with manly items so I appear to be manly" attitude.

How again has this become about me? I was just posing the damn question...

Your comments clearly indicate that you've taken one side in this question. So, no, you're not just posing a question. You're taking a side in the issue.

It does appear that you have insecurity issues about your manhood as well. Sorry, just being honest about what your comments suggest. That may not be the case but that's how it comes across.

It appears that you need to surround yourself with manly items in order to feel like a man.

You should really just be comfortable with yourself the way you are.

Mr Awe
 
Seriously, the level of words being put into mouths here is obscene.
Maybe they are helping you to take out that inconvenient foot you seem to have in there.

Every day I wake up thinking it's the 21st Century, and every day I'm reminded it's still 1950. :sigh:
Every day I wake up thinking RJD will wake up thinking it's the 21st Century, and every day I'm reminded that every day he's reminded it's still 1950.
 
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FC: You've been struggling with the nature of your deeply repressed homosexuality. By your wifes mocking of percieved male femininity, it reinforces the idea that manly, masculine and straight = good, feminine (and gay) = bad, in order to keep you in aforementioned repressive state. because divorces are expensive.

or i could be way off the mark. its so hard to be accurate when you're making up shit about people you don't know.
 
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