Plus: I'm horrified of what I might find in there
Double plus: you won't find whatever it is you're supposed to be looking for anyway.
Sometimes that would just make me on par with the owner
Good Husband or Emasculated Wuss?
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Sometimes that would just make me on par with the owner
Of course it's about you, any question we pose of this nature is ultimately about ourselves.
Every day I wake up thinking it's the 21st Century, and every day I'm reminded it's still 1950. 
A pretty common view in Hong Kong, when a man wears his wife/s'gf's bag or other items and they often do, freeing their women from heaviness of their stuffed bags (or light bags).
I don't see what's the problem with a man holding his wife's things. How is he supposed to hold them to be manly?
I don't see what's the problem with a man holding his wife's things. How is he supposed to hold them to be manly?
Yeah... women sometimes buy something heavy and put it in their purses....
And it was kind of douchey putting up a photo like that. None of us know the guy. There's nothing wrong with holding for his wife. Also, they might not want the purse to sit on that floor which probably is sticky and dirty. As for the photo, the wife might want tons of photos on her phone while the guy might not be so eager to have so many photos on his own phone.
Maybe she knows it's pointless.
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So how does a color emasculate a man? Red means stop because it has an official designation in our traffic system. Pink means feminine because...?
So liking a certain color designates me as masculine/feminine, even though the color is gender neutral, because a group of people got together and said so. You know you don't have to agree with said group of people, because they're full of shit. You do realize that these perceptions change over time, yes? If this were 1920, you'd be on the opposite side of the argument. Pink is a boy's color because it's closer to the color of blood. If this were 1820, you'd be wearing pantyhose, and you'd be considered quite the masculine person.
That wasn't an inference. That was a direct quote. You said you didn't like pink or diamonds because you were straight, and liked your things masculine.
Because you shy away from anything you deem "feminine". You said outright you prefer what you wear to be masculine. You must have a purpose for this.
So I'm effeminate because I like pink. That makes absolutely no sense whatsoever. It's like saying you know someone's gay because they "act a certain way". It's a valueless judgement.
So, to these women, a woman isn't equal to a man? That's the only way he can be subservient to his wife in this situation, is if she's not equal. Otherwise, all he's doing is being considerate.
For one thing, I didn't know you were married, congratulations!
But, for another, I've worn pink shirts, it's no big deal.
I have to agree with this J. on this one. We really have no idea what's going on. So, he's using his wife's phone to take a picture of their daughter. Big deal. He's helping hold her stuff, big deal.
If you need "masculine" stuff to feel "masculine" that's the bigger deal. What does it mean to you to feel masculine? Honest question.
Mr Awe
Dude, you've made a whole boatload of assumptions (about what colors mean, what actions mean, why he's holding her purse, etc) and you're complaining about one assumption, the most straightforward one, that the purse might be heavy?!
Mr Awe
So, I think this thread has established that the OP has some kind of deep-seated discomfort with his own masculinity, while everyone else (including me) thinks there is no big deal here.
Carry on.
Carry on.
Agree. The I don't give a shit what others think attitude is much more "manly" than an "oh shit, I'd better surround myself with manly items so I appear to be manly" attitude.
Your comments clearly indicate that you've taken one side in this question. So, no, you're not just posing a question. You're taking a side in the issue.
It does appear that you have insecurity issues about your manhood as well. Sorry, just being honest about what your comments suggest. That may not be the case but that's how it comes across.
It appears that you need to surround yourself with manly items in order to feel like a man.
You should really just be comfortable with yourself the way you are.
Mr Awe
Maybe they are helping you to take out that inconvenient foot you seem to have in there.
Every day I wake up thinking RJD will wake up thinking it's the 21st Century, and every day I'm reminded that every day he's reminded it's still 1950.Every day I wake up thinking it's the 21st Century, and every day I'm reminded it's still 1950.
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It's pretty obnoxious to post that guy's picture in here. Also, a little creepy.
I carry a "man bag" but then again I'm in NYC so it doesn't really stand out. 
FC: You've been struggling with the nature of your deeply repressed homosexuality. By your wifes mocking of percieved male femininity, it reinforces the idea that manly, masculine and straight = good, feminine (and gay) = bad, in order to keep you in aforementioned repressive state. because divorces are expensive.
or i could be way off the mark. its so hard to be accurate when you're making up shit about people you don't know.
or i could be way off the mark. its so hard to be accurate when you're making up shit about people you don't know.
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