Re: ENT Forum Mediation Thread--Please Participate
What pisses me off? NO ONE EVER FLAMES ME!! I try and try to be annoying, going on and on and on about how Archer and Trip are perfect for each other, how they have this great love affair going on, how hot they both are and
NOTHING! It's like talking to a brick wall with you people!

(oh, sorry, that one's banned now, right?)
I've been thinking about what is not so wonderful about this board, why I was so excited to find it back in 2001 and why I come to it last nowadays. It isn't easy to specify. I'd like to say that the mods have been letting it go to pot, but some of my best friends are mods here. And from what I've seen posted by mods in this thread, I seem to have a fundamental misunderstanding of what moderating means.
On the whole, I believe(d) this board, and any board, should be a place to exchange ideas freely. Great. First amendment and all that. But what happens, over and over and over again, is that EVERY topic has to become a debate - a full on, no holds barred, choose your corner debate. Statements made must be defended by an entire legal team, or else you'd best pack up and go home. Rather than clever, fun discussion, I find myself in the position of explaining why it's
okay to like Enterprise/this character/that episode, and not with people who might change their minds eventually but with people whose sole purpose seems to be to dislike things, and to get off showing how cleverly they can dissect the show this week. Any hope for a pleasant, intelligent exchange of ideas is long gone by about the tenth post of a thread (whether for or against element X of the show). Debate, sure. I'd be happy to. But not at every turn. Not in every thread. Not about every single aspect of the show.
I think a lot of the "Why are you even here?" mentality is clearly understood as a reaction to the CONSTANT UNREMITTING NEGATIVITY that has characterized this forum for the last year and a half. I do not think constant unremitting praise is a great idea either - B&B and some writers and actors on the show are not contributing to the betterment of the show or the franchise at least 1/3 -1/2 of the time, choosing flimsy stories, poor character direction, and generally avoiding making an intelligent, daring, groundbreaking series. But the kind of criticism seen in the last sentence is not what makes this forum so poisonous - it's the personal attacks, (again, not against me, dang it all

) the viciousness of them, and the unchanging opinions of those who engage in this behavior, most of which is simply ignored by the mods who favor allowing debate and open criticism, when
that isn't what's occurring.
What is occurring instead is what is seen in other segments of the media - attacking, loudly, followed by sniping. Criticism for criticism's sake, and the harsher, the better. Jumping on a bandwagon to kick a show that is anything less than one person's ideal of what it should be. This hypercritical expression of one's opinions cannot succeed through open and balanced debate, so it succeeds through repetitive hammering, extremism, and disregard for others. I often wonder if people here realize that their negativity (even when masked by intelligence) isn't welcome in the real world either - so much of what happens here would get you frozen out of a conversation at a party in no time and simply isn't appropriate behavior for a public place - which this is.
I would dearly love to come to the TrekBBS and see threads for and against an episode's quality, a character's direction, a storyline, and know I could be entertained, see people I like and respect even in disagreement, and talk like an adult to the people in the thread, whether we share an opinion or not. I
can do that on many other Trek boards; here, it's rare. More often than not, when I come here, I see twenty or so threads, each expressing derisive, unchangeable hatred for whatever element has upset the poster. When I enter a thread, even one that is clearly intended for amusement and nothing else, there's someone leaving a pile of crap right in the middle of it. Tell a mod? Why bother? It's already too late. Step around it, sure, but I can still smell it.
I am eternally grateful to the mature and thoughtful people on this board with whom I respectfully agree to disagree, and to those who have changed my mind or who have listened to me, argued, and then changed THEIR mind; they're all in this thread, and usually bashers, but I can count them on one hand. So much has been lost around here - too many names of friends who just left in disgust. The Archer contingent has fled, the Reed Ragers have largely fled, even the Tuckerites are only now returning after realizing how vital it is to take part in this forum.