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Check the picture thread, looks like it was a "yes."
Belated congrats to Squigs!
I've got a date tonight with someone from Plenty of Fish. I actually like the fact that there's loads of ladies there, but they don't seem to put anything into profiles and a shotgun approach is required for messaging. I've gotten pretty good at telling the party girls from people who are more serious just from the little thumbnails. The links to bogus dating sites showing women falling out of their tops are a bit disconcerting however.
I was going to do OKCupid the other night, but I couldn't face doing the amount of profile text required so hot on the heels of these other sites. I think I'll hold off on that one until I've had a chance to work PoF.
match.com is still a desert for me, but I get multiple daily views. The fact that you have to pay extra to use that one on your phone is really shit; especially when PoF has an awesome free app for the iPhone/Android.
Hope those of you dating are having fun.
I've got a date tonight with someone from Plenty of Fish. I actually like the fact that there's loads of ladies there, but they don't seem to put anything into profiles and a shotgun approach is required for messaging. I've gotten pretty good at telling the party girls from people who are more serious just from the little thumbnails. The links to bogus dating sites showing women falling out of their tops are a bit disconcerting however.
I was going to do OKCupid the other night, but I couldn't face doing the amount of profile text required so hot on the heels of these other sites. I think I'll hold off on that one until I've had a chance to work PoF.
match.com is still a desert for me, but I get multiple daily views. The fact that you have to pay extra to use that one on your phone is really shit; especially when PoF has an awesome free app for the iPhone/Android.
Hope those of you dating are having fun.
PoF date was a bust: no interest on either side; I ended up being a chump and paying for dinner when she was in the loo - no offer to pick up any of the tab, d'oh! But she's a nice lady and keeping in touch.
Last night I had a great date with someone from match.com and she's up for a rematch tonight, so I'm pretty excited about that. She seems pretty cool, but I'm not quite sure how socially conservative she is.
I don't like to bring up sexual history too early in the conversation, but I know from recent experience that bisexuality - even if not "practicing" - can be a dealbreaker for a lot of people and I'd hate to get too involved and then have things crashing down around my ears because of it. I'm of two minds: on the one hand I'd prefer to clear the air or move-on with a bit of disappointment early, but on the other hand I'd like to just enjoy her company. I'm a bit torn so any thoughts from folk would be appreciated.
Last night I had a great date with someone from match.com and she's up for a rematch tonight, so I'm pretty excited about that. She seems pretty cool, but I'm not quite sure how socially conservative she is.
I don't like to bring up sexual history too early in the conversation, but I know from recent experience that bisexuality - even if not "practicing" - can be a dealbreaker for a lot of people and I'd hate to get too involved and then have things crashing down around my ears because of it. I'm of two minds: on the one hand I'd prefer to clear the air or move-on with a bit of disappointment early, but on the other hand I'd like to just enjoy her company. I'm a bit torn so any thoughts from folk would be appreciated.
Best to get that out of the way sooner than later so your heart is broken down the line after you've developed an emotional link.
Yeah, you should really be up front about things. When you're doing your whole "getting to know you" bit over the first few dates, all the big stuff should be right there on the table.
No one you meet is going to be perfect, either. We all have baggage and flaws and history. It's trying to hide those things that will cause trouble later.
No one you meet is going to be perfect, either. We all have baggage and flaws and history. It's trying to hide those things that will cause trouble later.
That's what I figured, it just seems a little awkward to raise it - definitely not first date material! I thought I could do it as part of asking her what her "deal-breakers" were - honestly I'm surprised we haven't covered this in online chat.
Nervous, but going to broach the subject bravely!
Nervous, but going to broach the subject bravely!
Actually, if I were you, I'd fight a little bit over that. Some women start thinking and then they do all that pro vs con bit, but that doesn't have to be the end. It's kind of a mind vs. heart battle.
We did a lot of back-and-forth texting (why the hell she couldn't just TALK on the phone I don't know) through the week-end and it was pretty clear she wasn't budging. In the end it was only one date and if she's that flighty with real feelings on a first date I don't think it would bode well down the line.
I've moved on and have met someone who seems to be on the same page but is coming back for seconds, so I'm content. Hopefully she won't freak out about my also having made out with a dude twenty years ago!
It doesn't make that much sense to me. Why would bisexuality be a dealbreaker, when heterosexuality would not be? There are as many women you can cheat with as there are men.
I can recommend OKCupid also, because I met my current girlfriend theretry OKCupid
As did I.
Yeah, kind of surprised me that it would be such a big issue as to bring up so early on. But then I realized that the problem isn't someone like me, where it wouldn't be a big deal. I guess there are people who would have an issue with it. I'd suggest bringing it up when you're talking about other similarly intimate issues.
I've encountered outright homophobic reactions in women - I'm sure they wouldn't regard themselves as homophobic because they don't "have a problem with gays," but the idea of being with a man who has been with another man makes it a bit too real. It wasn't nice being confronted with even a flash of revulsion over a Skype call when the issue was brought up (inevitably when I mention having lived in San Francisco - "Oh, the boys must have been after you, haha"); in person I expect it would be worse.
But thankfully that wasn't the case here. I won't go into details except to say that the stories of women hitting their sexual peak in their 40s are all true!
But thankfully that wasn't the case here. I won't go into details except to say that the stories of women hitting their sexual peak in their 40s are all true!
I can recommend OKCupid also, because I met my current girlfriend theretry OKCupid
As did I.
And so did I, and several of my friends. It's a great site as far as I'm concerned.
Anyone here who actually met his girlfriend in real life?
*raises hand*
*raises hand*
This could mean that in her mind she went a little too fast on the date, and wants to take it slower, without getting any hopes up.
I wouldn't recommend having an online relationship long-term. It lets you know that you have things to talk about but it doesn't really tell you much else about the potential of your relationship, I think.
I thought that, but in response to my saying "it sounds like you're not entirely sure, so I still have a chance" I got "I don't think so honey" in reply.
Agreed. It can make unrealistic expectations more unrealistic. If things are happening in chat then I'd prefer a face-to-face as soon as possible to save everyone's time.
I was chatting to my special lady from the past two nights tonight and it's pretty real (if it wasn't clear we have met) and I'll be heading down to Ayr Sunday - can't wait!
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