TheLonelySquire
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People should do as they wish. However, honestly, I wouldn't marry a woman who didn't adhere to this tradition. And no hyphens are allowed either.
Changing last name after marriage: Who takes whose?
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Definitely the wrong feeling to experience; rather you should feel proud for not letting yourself be pressured into something you don't want.
After a couple of generations, they could go with acronyms. "Allow me to introduce Mr and Mrs GIGO." Fuuuturistic.
I also like that Skeletor idea.
Yeah, of course. Then are you willing to take her name? As if.
You should be willing to sacrifice anything to the one you love... if necessary. Asking for unnecessary random sacrifices, or preventively demanding that they renounce to anything that matters them... well, it's just absurd. You try to cover it telling that both partners are required to do that but, guess what, in the end it would be the wife that will do that. Not sexism, of course, no sir.
Nice world it is, where you decide what is allowed for other people.
TheLonelySquire
Vice Admiral
TheLonelySquire
Vice Admiral
Isn't that the alien that was operating on Riker?
Of course.
My sister's husband took our last name. He didn't like his at all.
I used to hate my last name, and loved the idea of getting married and changing it to my husband's. Now that I've lived almost 27 years, I've grown attached to it; it's definately not an "English" name, more German or Dutch, and I like the uniqueness of it now.
I like the idea of a married couple having the same last name, so I'm not sure what I'll do when I marry. It's not something my boyfriend and I really have talked in depth about, and I believe he would rather keep his.
I used to hate my last name, and loved the idea of getting married and changing it to my husband's. Now that I've lived almost 27 years, I've grown attached to it; it's definately not an "English" name, more German or Dutch, and I like the uniqueness of it now.
I like the idea of a married couple having the same last name, so I'm not sure what I'll do when I marry. It's not something my boyfriend and I really have talked in depth about, and I believe he would rather keep his.
TheLonelySquire
Vice Admiral
i would really like my wife if i ever lucky to have 1 to take my name ! i have a very reve last name only 1 in usa! and when two bcame 1 they should have the last name
Agreed. And a joint bank account too. You're either all in together or not.
I would like my wife to take my name. The tradition signifies our cultural history in which women entered into the households of their husbands and inheritance/family history was patrilineal. It's sort of similar to keeping a sword on display in the house: it is ceremonial. It doesn't mean you use it, or continue to hold outdated perceptions of combat/violence, merely a respectful acknowledgement of our ancestors. Personally, I hate my family name and would indeed like to change it, but that's not the way it works in my mind. I'm sticking with it, and I hope my wife won't mind being infected with it. Of course, if she doesn't want to, I imagine we'll both simply keep our own names. My wife may wish to honour her family history and be opposed to replacing her name, particularly seeing as she would no longer actually be marrying into another family in any genuine sense.
Of course, if she doesn't want to, I imagine we'll both simply keep our own names. My wife may wish to honour her family history and be opposed to replacing her name, particularly seeing as she would no longer actually be marrying into another family in any genuine sense.
What people should do when they get married is become Incorporated. Then they could keep their real names and have the Corporation name in common. Best of both worlds. You're welcome. 
What people should do when they get married is become Incorporated. Then they could keep their real names and have the Corporation name in common. Best of both worlds. You're welcome.
Sorry, already done.
I am not particularly attached to my last name. It's something very common and rather bland. And frankly...I don't mention this to my parents, either, but I DESPISE my middle name. For some reason, every single person I met who had it as their first name was a grade-A jerk, and I will be glad to ditch it if/when I get married.
I understand why some people would think it's a sexist thing for me to take my husband's name, should I marry. But as long as there is equality in the RELATIONSHIP, a healthy give and take, there is no reason that one of the partners cannot change their last name.
Personally, I think that the willingness to do so signals to the couple, to those around them, and to their children that this marriage is NOT just a long-standing trial run, that the relationship means more than that. Which one changes their name...it can be either, as far as I'm concerned. But I think a true married couple is a VERY special thing, a kind of union that should be indicated in a way that's far beyond a mere friendship. You are the nucleus of a family and should show your commitment to stick together--and NOT just "until divorce do we part."
(Understand, I know that sometimes divorce is unavoidable. And I wish it could be REQUIRED where there is abuse, to keep the battered spouse from ever returning to their abuser. But there is a LOT of it that occurs for stupid reasons, generally because people rushed into it without understanding the depth of commitment required, and failed to communicate on ALL of the issues BEFORE they got married...or quit communicating openly once they did.)
I understand why some people would think it's a sexist thing for me to take my husband's name, should I marry. But as long as there is equality in the RELATIONSHIP, a healthy give and take, there is no reason that one of the partners cannot change their last name.
Personally, I think that the willingness to do so signals to the couple, to those around them, and to their children that this marriage is NOT just a long-standing trial run, that the relationship means more than that. Which one changes their name...it can be either, as far as I'm concerned. But I think a true married couple is a VERY special thing, a kind of union that should be indicated in a way that's far beyond a mere friendship. You are the nucleus of a family and should show your commitment to stick together--and NOT just "until divorce do we part."
(Understand, I know that sometimes divorce is unavoidable. And I wish it could be REQUIRED where there is abuse, to keep the battered spouse from ever returning to their abuser. But there is a LOT of it that occurs for stupid reasons, generally because people rushed into it without understanding the depth of commitment required, and failed to communicate on ALL of the issues BEFORE they got married...or quit communicating openly once they did.)
I was thinking more along the lines of a "Mom & Pop" business.What people should do when they get married is become Incorporated. Then they could keep their real names and have the Corporation name in common. Best of both worlds. You're welcome.
Sorry, already done.
What do you mean?
I mean that I don't believe you. You say you would be willing to take your wife's name, but in the end, guess what? you will not.
You think I'm lying? Of course I would take my wife's name. I mean in all likelihood she will take mine, but there is absolutely no reason why I wouldn't take hers.
