Anyone here have a hard time turning down the opposite sex?

[RoJoHen]

And forget hormones; in the end, the mind is the most powerful sex organ...

Indeed.

I get horny just like the next guy. I just don't exist in a world of constant horniness with an urge to put my penis in any vagina I see. I'd simply like to, ya know, actually develop a decent relationship with someone before I start sleeping with them. Is this really such a bizarre concept?

 

[FPAlpha]

As he said his wife wouldn't approve good luck wrecking your marriage.

You can be lucky if she doesn't read this board because for some women even contemplating such a thing might be a dealbreaker.

 

[Ruaidhri]

I've never had a problem turning down advances from the opposite sex. I've been in a relationship for 12 of the last 14 years, and I can't imagine actually doing anything more than flirting with another woman, and even then I think that's pushing it because of the inaccurate signals it sends.

I admit feeling temptation, but my heart and my brain go "Hold it buddy, you're in a committed relationship...and you're not a scumbag." Even when I was in a miserable marriage and going 6 to 8 months between occurrences of sex with my wife I couldn't contemplate doing anything, even in the face of very direct propositions.

I also have seen an increase in the level of interest from women other than my partner over the last number of years, but frankly I attribute that to the increased level of personal confidence I have because of my girlfriend.

Really having a hard time with attempts to justify being a dog.

 

[RAMA]

I've never had a problem turning down advances from the opposite sex. I've been in a relationship for 12 of the last 14 years, and I can't imagine actually doing anything more than flirting with another woman, and even then I think that's pushing it because of the inaccurate signals it sends.

I admit feeling temptation, but my heart and my brain go "Hold it buddy, you're in a committed relationship...and you're not a scumbag." Even when I was in a miserable marriage and going 6 to 8 months between occurrences of sex with my wife I couldn't contemplate doing anything, even in the face of very direct propositions.

I also have seen an increase in the level of interest from women other than my partner over the last number of years, but frankly I attribute that to the increased level of personal confidence I have because of my girlfriend.

Really having a hard time with attempts to justify being a dog.

I've had a pretty good track record...is it perfect...well no. But I have often turned potential situations down...especially in recent years. Is my resolve breaking somewhat...well yeah that's the reason for the OP...I'm still holding on by a thread.

RAMA

 

[Scout101]

So are you just looking for someone to tell you that cheating on your wife is ok? Seems like all this thread is boiling down to. That and cheap shots about anyone not agreeing with that premise being less of a man...

If your resolve to not cheat on your wife is breaking down, maybe ACTUALLY be a man and talk to her about it, or DO something about it? Get over it, resolve the problem, or leave her. Trying to talk yourself into cheating while on a random internet bbs is pretty UNmanly, IMO. And if you're only as loyal as your options, you should probably just go on the shoot, and what happens happens. Sure you'll justify it to yourself somehow...

 

[Mr Awe]

I've never had a problem turning down advances from the opposite sex. I've been in a relationship for 12 of the last 14 years, and I can't imagine actually doing anything more than flirting with another woman, and even then I think that's pushing it because of the inaccurate signals it sends.

I admit feeling temptation, but my heart and my brain go "Hold it buddy, you're in a committed relationship...and you're not a scumbag." Even when I was in a miserable marriage and going 6 to 8 months between occurrences of sex with my wife I couldn't contemplate doing anything, even in the face of very direct propositions.

I also have seen an increase in the level of interest from women other than my partner over the last number of years, but frankly I attribute that to the increased level of personal confidence I have because of my girlfriend.

Really having a hard time with attempts to justify being a dog.

I've had a pretty good track record...is it perfect...well no. But I have often turned potential situations down...especially in recent years. Is my resolve breaking somewhat...well yeah that's the reason for the OP...I'm still holding on by a thread.

RAMA

Earlier in this thread, Holdfast said there was no wrong answer.

I think he was wrong. There's not a right answer in terms of whether you should stay with your wife or not. Only you and she can decide that. It shouldn't be stay together at all costs. If you're having doubts, you should discuss it with her.

If you want to sleep with other women, make the conscious decision to leave your wife and then do it.

The wrong decision is to be a dishonest coward. And, yes, I think doing it behind her back is cowardly. You owe her the courtesy and dignity of being upfront about this.

So, there's probably no right or wrong answer in terms of whether you sleep with other women, but there IS a right and wrong approach towards how you go about it.

Mr Awe

 

[RAMA]

Was with some friends yesterday in a public place, young girl probably thought I was closer to her age made a point of telling me she worked in a night club in the city, and was a lifeguard...looking for pointers on her abs, told me I looked like I work out a lot (lol). Very cute...and probably HALF my age. One friend who was standing right there sat back and watched the whole convo. He said she obviously "wanted" me...body language etc...hmm, this is just the latest event that happened with my story...and guess what...I still haven't done a thing about it. Do I get a cookie? On a serious note...I've been getting along so well with my wife lately, I've begun to feel more guilty about even being tempted by such things...Is this what people were wanting me to say I wonder?

RAMA

 

[RAMA]

I've never had a problem turning down advances from the opposite sex. I've been in a relationship for 12 of the last 14 years, and I can't imagine actually doing anything more than flirting with another woman, and even then I think that's pushing it because of the inaccurate signals it sends.

I admit feeling temptation, but my heart and my brain go "Hold it buddy, you're in a committed relationship...and you're not a scumbag." Even when I was in a miserable marriage and going 6 to 8 months between occurrences of sex with my wife I couldn't contemplate doing anything, even in the face of very direct propositions.

I also have seen an increase in the level of interest from women other than my partner over the last number of years, but frankly I attribute that to the increased level of personal confidence I have because of my girlfriend.

Really having a hard time with attempts to justify being a dog.

I've had a pretty good track record...is it perfect...well no. But I have often turned potential situations down...especially in recent years. Is my resolve breaking somewhat...well yeah that's the reason for the OP...I'm still holding on by a thread.

RAMA

Earlier in this thread, Holdfast said there was no wrong answer.

I think he was wrong. There's not a right answer in terms of whether you should stay with your wife or not. Only you and she can decide that. It shouldn't be stay together at all costs. If you're having doubts, you should discuss it with her.

If you want to sleep with other women, make the conscious decision to leave your wife and then do it.

The wrong decision is to be a dishonest coward. And, yes, I think doing it behind her back is cowardly. You owe her the courtesy and dignity of being upfront about this.

So, there's probably no right or wrong answer in terms of whether you sleep with other women, but there IS a right and wrong approach towards how you go about it.

Mr Awe

I do agree with you...my only consideration is whether I'm making the extent of my temptation up in my own mind so I hesitate to discuss it with her. She does know I'm a bit of a flirt and its actually "ok" with her if I "look" at women as long I don't stare and drool and become generally obvious about it.

RAMA

 

[Mr Awe]

I do agree with you...my only consideration is whether I'm making the extent of my temptation up in my own mind so I hesitate to discuss it with her. She does know I'm a bit of a flirt and its actually "ok" with her if I "look" at women as long I don't stare and drool and become generally obvious about it.

RAMA

That's totally cool. My wife's the same way. Once she watched from a distance as a young lady tried to pick me up rather blatantly. I was a bit flustered because this hot chick was totally hitting on my with my wife, I thought, right there. So, I was going to point my wife out but she was no where to be seen. I found out later that she was hiding, watching, and laughing!

Anyway, I think the extent of the temptation can be one of those things that don't have to be revealed. You can be super tempted but if nothing happens, no harm to anyone to keep it to yourself. Friendly, casual flirting also doesn't have to be shared in my book. I was only thinking if any physical "action" was going to take place that it should be in the open.

Mr Awe