Anyone here have a hard time turning down the opposite sex?

[Robert Maxwell]

No offense, Rama, but this thread strikes me as being pretty egotistical. So, you lift weights, and women throw themselves at you, that's great. Anything else really great about you we need to know?

Eh, refreshing after all these "My life is so horrible, nobody likes me, I hate myself" type of threads.

For real. It's always refreshing to see a thread about how life doesn't suck.

 

[Capn Flukie]

I've only had to turn down a couple of ladies, I was with someone else both times. It wasn't that difficult, cuz I don't cheat.

 

[Trekker4747]

No offense, Rama, but this thread strikes me as being pretty egotistical. So, you lift weights, and women throw themselves at you, that's great. Anything else really great about you we need to know?

Rama's a pretty cool guy but this was my thought too.

"Man, I'm a buff, strong, handsome man and women half my age just hit on me! It's really tough! And all of these $100 bills make my wallet too fat and, gosh, these $600 shoes are just too tight!"

Again, not to slam on Rama in anyway but that was my reaction to this thread. "Dude? Really? You're going to boast about how tough it is to have to turn down women all of the time?"

 

[Kestra]

Eh, he obviously puts a lot of effort into his appearance and probably does the same for his social life. If anything, I would think it would help some people realize that being in a situation like this can have disadvantages too. Unless you aren't in a monogamous relationship, of course.

 

[Subcommander R.]

To quote Captain Renault: How extravagant you are, throwing away women like that. Someday they may be scarce.

 

[Robert Maxwell]

No offense, Rama, but this thread strikes me as being pretty egotistical. So, you lift weights, and women throw themselves at you, that's great. Anything else really great about you we need to know?

Rama's a pretty cool guy but this was my thought too.

"Man, I'm a buff, strong, handsome man and women half my age just hit on me! It's really tough! And all of these $100 bills make my wallet too fat and, gosh, these $600 shoes are just too tight!"

Again, not to slam on Rama in anyway but that was my reaction to this thread. "Dude? Really? You're going to boast about how tough it is to have to turn down women all of the time?"

I'm neither buff nor particularly good looking and I seem to have the same problem as RAMA. It ain't easy bein' cheesy.

 

[Nick086]

Its easy being gay, I can refuse the opposite sex anytime without it bothering me. Telling a cute guy no, well that just a problem I'll have to deal with.

 

[RAMA]

No offense, Rama, but this thread strikes me as being pretty egotistical. So, you lift weights, and women throw themselves at you, that's great. Anything else really great about you we need to know?

Well I was hoping it wouldn't...is it the opposite of egotistical to complain about legitimate events happening in your life that are seen as negative as is often discussed here? Is it really that bad to discuss the other side of the coin sometimes? If you take it to the final conclusion you'd have to say it's ultimately negative if it ends my marriage no matter how many guys would like girls hitting on them.

I think its probably the only place aside from 3-4 friends that I have that I really talk about such thoughts and probably helps me think them through by writing it. Honestly, if I posted every time I had such issues (and I never have on here before!) then there'd be posts littering the BBS countryside.

As for an update, I've only talked to one of the girls since, so I think I'm being pretty "safe" so far.

Its easy being gay, I can refuse the opposite sex anytime without it bothering me. Telling a cute guy no, well that just a problem I'll have to deal with.

Something I am fine with but will NEVER understand.

No offense, Rama, but this thread strikes me as being pretty egotistical. So, you lift weights, and women throw themselves at you, that's great. Anything else really great about you we need to know?

Rama's a pretty cool guy but this was my thought too.

"Man, I'm a buff, strong, handsome man and women half my age just hit on me! It's really tough! And all of these $100 bills make my wallet too fat and, gosh, these $600 shoes are just too tight!"

Again, not to slam on Rama in anyway but that was my reaction to this thread. "Dude? Really? You're going to boast about how tough it is to have to turn down women all of the time?"

It IS tough! I love my wife, but I'm so visual and certain body types, personalities attract me greatly. It really is a turn on when a girl is so persistent too. It's also uncomfortable when a 23 year old--who is about the same age as my stepdaughter--comes on to you, despite the fact that's she's a knockout.

I wish I had $600 shoes.

RAMA

 

[JarodRussell]

No offense, Rama, but this thread strikes me as being pretty egotistical. So, you lift weights, and women throw themselves at you, that's great. Anything else really great about you we need to know?

Well I was hoping it wouldn't...is it the opposite of egotistical to complain about legitimate events happening in your life that are seen as negative as is often discussed here? Is it really that bad to discuss the other side of the coin sometimes? If you take it to the final conclusion you'd have to say it's ultimately negative if it ends my marriage no matter how many guys would like girls hitting on them.

Don't listen to them. It's awesome, just keep going.

No offense, Rama, but this thread strikes me as being pretty egotistical. So, you lift weights, and women throw themselves at you, that's great. Anything else really great about you we need to know?

Rama's a pretty cool guy but this was my thought too.

"Man, I'm a buff, strong, handsome man and women half my age just hit on me! It's really tough! And all of these $100 bills make my wallet too fat and, gosh, these $600 shoes are just too tight!"

Again, not to slam on Rama in anyway but that was my reaction to this thread. "Dude? Really? You're going to boast about how tough it is to have to turn down women all of the time?"

Maybe he has to turn down women all the time because he trains his body, and not his ability of self-loathing?

 

[Kirk's_Tights]

or same sex I suppose if you're gay...anyway...

This applies mainly to people in long-term relationships/marriage.

I've been married a long time, I'm generally pretty happy, can't complain much, but I go through stretches where I have lots of women come on to me...I usually am told that I have a "taken" look and I try not to be flirty, so as to deter potential interest, but lately I've had a lot of women show interest(not for a relationship mind you, but sex), and its been harder and harder to turn them down..each one has been hotter than the next...It seems like women of all ages don't care if you're married anymore, it amazes me. So far I've done nothing but talk to a couple, but its always in the back of my head. I know that it should be easy not to think these thoughts at this point, but I'm a normal healthy male and well..we're not perfect..

RAMA

WOW, just wow. Way to make all women look like a bunch of whores.

FYI, I am quite often approached by men and asked if I am single. It's quite easy to say 'yes I am' when you actually love your partner and are satisfied in your relationship.

 

[JarodRussell]

FYI, I am quite often approached by men and asked if I am single. It's quite easy to say 'yes I am' when you actually love your partner and are satisfied in your relationship.

I... don't get it.

 

[Kirk's_Tights]

FYI, I am quite often approached by men and asked if I am single. It's quite easy to say 'yes I am' when you actually love your partner and are satisfied in your relationship.

I... don't get it.

I meant to add taken in my post but failed, ha. I was referring to it being easy to say 'yes I am taken', not 'yes I am single', lol.

 

[Admiral Buzzkill]

This is like asking if I have a hard time turning down a chocolate chip cookie; the thought hadn't occurred to me.

 

[Mooch]

I might if anyone tried to pick me up!

 

[Deks]

Well I'm gay, and I can tell you that I don't really have men hitting on me or having to fend them off.
Well, for the most part, this is the case in Zagreb... in London... sometimes.

 

[Trekker4747]

It IS tough! I love my wife, but I'm so visual and certain body types, personalities attract me greatly. It really is a turn on when a girl is so persistent too. It's also uncomfortable when a 23 year old--who is about the same age as my stepdaughter--comes on to you, despite the fact that's she's a knockout.

Oh, be quiet!

 

[RAMA]

or same sex I suppose if you're gay...anyway...

This applies mainly to people in long-term relationships/marriage.

I've been married a long time, I'm generally pretty happy, can't complain much, but I go through stretches where I have lots of women come on to me...I usually am told that I have a "taken" look and I try not to be flirty, so as to deter potential interest, but lately I've had a lot of women show interest(not for a relationship mind you, but sex), and its been harder and harder to turn them down..each one has been hotter than the next...It seems like women of all ages don't care if you're married anymore, it amazes me. So far I've done nothing but talk to a couple, but its always in the back of my head. I know that it should be easy not to think these thoughts at this point, but I'm a normal healthy male and well..we're not perfect..

RAMA

WOW, just wow. Way to make all women look like a bunch of whores.

FYI, I am quite often approached by men and asked if I am single. It's quite easy to say 'yes I am' when you actually love your partner and are satisfied in your relationship.

Hmm let me clarify...I've noticed a difference over the years...it seems far more common for women to do this than it was 10 or more years ago. Other women and men I've talked to agree with me on this...I'm perfectly able to say men have been historically much worse than women on this issue over the years. I recall statistics where 66% of married men cheat and 38% of women do...I believe the women's figure increased recently. I may have to take the time to re-investigate.

I didn't mean to offend...I don't want to paint too broad a canvas.

RAMA

 

[kitkat]

I've only read the OP aside from skimming the thread a little...

As a straight, happily married woman, I don't have a hard time turning down offers (I'm honestly just not the cheating type) but the being hit on walks the line of being annoying and flattering. It's nice to feel attractive but at the same time I'm thinking, "Do these guys NOT see my ring? Or do they just not give a shit?"

For you, RAMA, I've seen pictures of you and it doesn't surprise me that women hit on you. I'm sure the majority don't care about your being married and it might, for some, be part of the fun/challenge. I personally think that kind of attitude/game playing is disgusting...I mean, why can't people think about how much it would hurt to be cheated on..that's what they're doing to someone else. I've mostly always had male friends because we women can be sneaky and catty things...I know it because I am a woman. I'm not saying all of us women are bad, we're just much more sneaky...you men are not as smooth and conniving.

Now, would I have a hard time turning down Hugh Jackman? Abso-fucking-lutely. But, I think my hubby would let me have a pass on that one just like I'd let him have one on Stana Katic.

 

[O'Dib]

or same sex I suppose if you're gay...anyway...

This applies mainly to people in long-term relationships/marriage.

I've been married a long time, I'm generally pretty happy, can't complain much, but I go through stretches where I have lots of women come on to me...I usually am told that I have a "taken" look and I try not to be flirty, so as to deter potential interest, but lately I've had a lot of women show interest(not for a relationship mind you, but sex), and its been harder and harder to turn them down..each one has been hotter than the next...It seems like women of all ages don't care if you're married anymore, it amazes me. So far I've done nothing but talk to a couple, but its always in the back of my head. I know that it should be easy not to think these thoughts at this point, but I'm a normal healthy male and well..we're not perfect..

RAMA

WOW, just wow. Way to make all women look like a bunch of whores.

Come on now, he didn't make ALL women look like a bunch of whores, just the ones that hit on him! Sounds like a fair description too.

 

[kitkat]

or same sex I suppose if you're gay...anyway...

This applies mainly to people in long-term relationships/marriage.

I've been married a long time, I'm generally pretty happy, can't complain much, but I go through stretches where I have lots of women come on to me...I usually am told that I have a "taken" look and I try not to be flirty, so as to deter potential interest, but lately I've had a lot of women show interest(not for a relationship mind you, but sex), and its been harder and harder to turn them down..each one has been hotter than the next...It seems like women of all ages don't care if you're married anymore, it amazes me. So far I've done nothing but talk to a couple, but its always in the back of my head. I know that it should be easy not to think these thoughts at this point, but I'm a normal healthy male and well..we're not perfect..

RAMA

WOW, just wow. Way to make all women look like a bunch of whores.

Come on now, he didn't make ALL women look like a bunch of whores, just the ones that hit on him! Sounds like a fair description too.

I agree, O'Dib. I think the phrase, "if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it's a duck" applies.