Another guy kissed my girlfriend.

[Deranged Nasat]

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WTF? I didn't say he should hit her???

Ah, so hitting a man who courts a woman in a relationship is fine, indeed encouraged, but hitting a woman who is actively adulterous is not. What twisted priorities!

That's my point. Well done for missing it.

You go around promoting and encouraging violence against men and boys while presumably condemning violence against women and girls. That angers me.

 

[Shikarnov]

I see no cause for retaliation. Yeah, it sucks. Yeah, anybody in the same situation would want to kick the guy's teeth in. But the lady in question handled the situation already. And we shouldn't forget that she has to work with the guy. It's already going to be awkward, if not impossible, to do that. Having her co-workers think of her boyfriend as a violent lunatic for beating down one of their own will probably make things even worse.

But, I also think your girlfriend should tell her boss, in writing, what happened. Even if it was off company property, and there's nothing the company can do, starting a paper trail now will be very helpful should this problem continue and extend itself to the workplace. The last thing she's going to need if things escalate is for the Boss to say "What? Bob said that? No... You must have misunderstood. I know Bob -- that would never happen." Better to keep him informed.

 

[Jetfire]

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WTF? I didn't say he should hit her???

Ah, so hitting a man who courts a woman in a relationship is fine, indeed encouraged, but hitting a woman who is actively adulterous is not. What twisted priorities!

That's my point. Well done for missing it.

You go around promoting and encouraging violence against men and boys while presumably condemning violence against women and girls. That angers me.

Maybe he shouldn't go out of his way to deal with this guy, but what this guy did is creepy...it sounds like what a sexual predator does...luring this girl to his house under the guise of friendship and then making sexual advances??? Now from what FC said she has been weirded out by this guy before...I am not sure why she would go to his house??? It may be twisted, but violence against women from men is wrong...take from that what you will.
I just have a feeling this isn't over.

 

[Pingfah]

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Ok, maybe he shouldn't go out of his way to attack him...but if this guy ever comes up to him and starts talking shit...which guys like this usually do...but not always...then yes he needs to knock him the fuck out right then and there.

You sound like you have some anger issues.

 

[Deranged Nasat]

[It may be twisted, but violence against women from men is wrong....

And so is:

Violence against men from men
Violence against women from women
Violence against men from women.

That's my point. But you're encourging the first of those 3 and for all I know the other 2 as well.

 

[Jetfire]

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Ok, maybe he shouldn't go out of his way to attack him...but if this guy ever comes up to him and starts talking shit...which guys like this usually do...but not always...then yes he needs to knock him the fuck out right then and there.

You sound like you have some anger issues.

I do?

 

[Deranged Nasat]

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Ok, maybe he shouldn't go out of his way to attack him...but if this guy ever comes up to him and starts talking shit...which guys like this usually do...but not always...then yes he needs to knock him the fuck out right then and there.

You sound like you have some anger issues.

I do?

Well, eagerness to see people getting "the fuck knocked out of them" "right there and then" hardly comes from a calm, controlled, zen-like deameanor, does it?

 

[Jetfire]

[It may be twisted, but violence against women from men is wrong....

And so is:

Violence against men from men
Violence against women from women
Violence against men from women.

and for all I know the other 2 as well.

I am? I don't see that at all.

 

[Deranged Nasat]

[It may be twisted, but violence against women from men is wrong....

And so is:

Violence against men from men
Violence against women from women
Violence against men from women.

and for all I know the other 2 as well.

I am? I don't see that at all.

You mean that when you say a man should "knock the fuck out of" another man, you aren't encouraging violence against men by other men? What on earth would you call it then?

And keep in mind, so far in this thread you have
a) condemned violence against women by men, EVEN THOUGH THERE HAS THUS BEEN NO EVIDENCE SUCH HAS OCCURRED IN THIS CASE
b) called for and encouraged violence against men by men, and as I said above, certainly therefore showed support for it, all the while condemning the hypothetics of violence against women while encouraging the reality of violence against men.

 

[Jetfire]

You sound like you have some anger issues.

I do?

Well, eagerness to see people getting "the fuck knocked out of them" "right there and then" hardly comes from a calm, controlled, zen-like deameanor, does it?

Wow...talk about blowing shit out of proportion...I am not eager to see anyone resort to violence...I wouldn't either unless I feel I & people I love are threatened.

 

[Deranged Nasat]

I do?

Well, eagerness to see people getting "the fuck knocked out of them" "right there and then" hardly comes from a calm, controlled, zen-like deameanor, does it?

Wow...talk about blowing shit out of proportion...I am not eager to see anyone resort to violence...I wouldn't either unless I feel I & people I love are threatened.

And what is it about someone coming on to someone else that causes you to feel threatened enough to encourage that violence (which you DID, in your first posts in this thread)?

 

[Jetfire]

Well, eagerness to see people getting "the fuck knocked out of them" "right there and then" hardly comes from a calm, controlled, zen-like deameanor, does it?

Wow...talk about blowing shit out of proportion...I am not eager to see anyone resort to violence...I wouldn't either unless I feel I & people I love are threatened.

And what is it about someone coming on to someone else that causes you to feel threatened enough to encourage that violence (which you DID, in your first posts in this thread)?

I already explained it...

..it sounds like what a sexual predator does...luring this girl to his house under the guise of friendship and then making sexual advances???

He could have just told her right out how he felt instead of doing what he did...which is a pretty creepy move and could have turned out bad for her.

 

[Deranged Nasat]

Wow...talk about blowing shit out of proportion...I am not eager to see anyone resort to violence...I wouldn't either unless I feel I & people I love are threatened.

And what is it about someone coming on to someone else that causes you to feel threatened enough to encourage that violence (which you DID, in your first posts in this thread)?

I already explained it...

..it sounds like what a sexual predator does...luring this girl to his house under the guise of friendship and then making sexual advances???

He could have just told her right out how he felt instead of doing what he did...which is a pretty creepy move and could have turned out bad for her.

Since when has inviting someone back to your place and then making sexual advances been creepy? Who makes sexual advances in public? "Come back to my place" is perfectly normal behaviour for someone who has sexual interest in another party. But you seem to think it makes that person a potential rapist! What is it with these "sexual predators" hiding under the bed?

 

[Yeoman Randi]

Flux, i hope you don't mind if i step in for a sec. As an oldler woman who had unpleasant dealings with creepy guys early in my life i have this to say.

Your girlfriend sounds wonderful and the two of you have what seems to be an awesome relationship. You trust her and she is trustworthy. So i say stay out of it unless she asks you for help with it.

Someone else said she should let her boss know about what happened in writing. That is an excellent suggestion. Should he escalate to anything further it will be there in writing.

Now to address something else. Your girlfriend had uncomfortable feelings about the guy to start. This is the perfect example of how women need to trust those inner feelings and impressions. She thought he might be a little weird and it turns out he was. WOMEN NEED TO TRUST THEIR INNER VOICES and not always be the trusting nuturers we are programmed to be.

Like Jetfire said, it could very easily have turned out bad, very very bad.

I already explained it...

..it sounds like what a sexual predator does...luring this girl to his house under the guise of friendship and then making sexual advances???

He could have just told her right out how he felt instead of doing what he did...which is a pretty creepy move and could have turned out bad for her.

I am just so glad that it didn't turn out bad and that she is safe. Unless she asks you for any more help or unless he does something again, i'd stay out of it. But she SHOULD inform her boss about it, to be on the safe side.

 

[Jetfire]

^ @ Deranged Nasat
Was this a date? Is she not involved with FC? If I invite a girl over for a friendly visit...it will remain friendly...unless she makes a move...which she did not in this case...this wasn't a romantic outing and further more...this guy could have just told her how he felt instead of earning her trust and then tricking her into a kiss.

 

[Yeoman Randi]

Jetfire, i agree with you. He was not being upfront and honest. What that guy did stinks to high hell.

 

[Deranged Nasat]

^ @ Deranged Nasat
Was this a date? Is she not involved with FC? If I invite a girl over for a friendly visit...it will remain friendly...unless she makes a move...which she did not in this case...this wasn't a romantic outing and further more...this guy could have just told her how he felt instead of earning her trust and then tricking her into a kiss.

Why does she have to make the move? In this case, he made the move. Are you seriously saying if she did it it's fine, but when he does it it's not only wrong but creepy?!

 

[Yeoman Randi]

Since when has inviting someone back to your place and then making sexual advances been creepy? Who makes sexual advances in public? "Come back to my place" is perfectly normal behaviour for someone who has sexual interest in another party. But you seem to think it makes that person a potential rapist! What is it with these "sexual predators" hiding under the bed?

I'm sorry, but i have to disagree. Have you never heard of date rape?

 

[Yeoman Randi]

Deranged Nasat, I think you are reading things into Jetfire's posts that aren't there.

 

[Deranged Nasat]

He was not being upfront and honest. What that guy did stinks to high hell.

Well yes, that's true. But "not honest" and "manipulative" does not equal "OMG RAPIST!!!!" as you two seem to be suggesting. Have some perspective.