This actually may be the stupidest comment in the entire thread, but...
What does "bijou-bijou" mean?
I knew there was something I meant to get back to! I've been puzzling that one myself - I think it must be a way of stressing just a small goodbye.
Sexy or Creepy?
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I knew there was something I meant to get back to! I've been puzzling that one myself - I think it must be a way of stressing just a small goodbye.
Well, duh, it means, "SUCK MY FACE OFF!"This actually may be the stupidest comment in the entire thread, but...
What does "bijou-bijou" mean?
Well, duh, it means, "SUCK MY FACE OFF!"This actually may be the stupidest comment in the entire thread, but...
What does "bijou-bijou" mean?
But only a little bit.
I'm not denying that, I just don't see it as relevant to my comment.
This actually may be the stupidest comment in the entire thread, but...
What does "bijou-bijou" mean?
I knew there was something I meant to get back to! I've been puzzling that one myself - I think it must be a way of stressing just a small goodbye.
I've wondered the same thing, but didn't wanna come across as (even more) uncultured.
3 parts Gin
1 part Chartreuse
1 part sweet Vermouth
And, while I'm technically right, I suspect this isn't the answer to the question.
ETA: I suspect it's Bisou (I couldn't remember the word either, I had to look it up) - Little kiss.
1 part Chartreuse
1 part sweet Vermouth
And, while I'm technically right, I suspect this isn't the answer to the question.
ETA: I suspect it's Bisou (I couldn't remember the word either, I had to look it up) - Little kiss.
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It means "kiss kiss" (it's bisou-bisou).
Oh. At first I thought French Guy was asking tsq to a movie-movie. 
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Dorothy Parker was understating.
No, it wasn't. Although, I can see why it looks that way to some people.Some People said:
For sexual assault to occur, the behavior has to be unwanted. In this case, TSQ was unsure when the situation occurred, but it wasn't necessarily unwanted. Since it happened, she has decided that she liked what happened, therefore no assault has occurred.
Personally, I follow the Affirmative Consent Standard. That is, I assume I do not have consent unless it is expressly given to me. This guy did not do so; he asked for consent, was initially told no, and then stepped over the line once consent was given. He was taking a huge risk, but this behavior in itself does not necessarily constitute sexual assault.
The Affirmative Consent Standard does not dictate what is and is not assault, it merely provides a reasonable measure for avoiding situations in which it is unclear whether or not consent has been given. Determining what is and is not sexual assault is often difficult. However, asking and then being given permission is less likely to result in an unwanted advance than is just making a move. It is possible to just make a move without asking and it being accepted, and it's possible to be given a clear "yes" and it still being unwanted.
The situation as described, it is unclear whether or not consent was given. Unclear meaning nothing is definite. However, TSQ has stated she would have put a stop to it if she did not want it to continue, and it seems like her apprehension was more because it was an unexpected event rather than her being coerced, so everything is probably cool with this situation, and similar situations that do involve unwanted advances do not apply to this situation.
Therefore, I vote sexy.
Definitely sexy. The dude is a total fucking French hottie who knows it and can tell that you do too, so that kind of shit is to be expected. I'm actually intrigued by the fact that this happening surprised you. Although, should you end up falling on the "creepy" side (I cannot be bothered reading the whole thread), my opinion is dangerously close to sounding like I'm accusing you of "asking for it". But then again, he didn't keep following you or whatever, and it's completely up to you if you wanna follow up for mad meaningless sex (you're aware that's all it would end up being, right?).
Actually, this was totally a Love, American Style moment.Thankfully, much less than 100% of Americans voted "creepy". This gives me faith in their eventual sexual education.
Hitchcockian.
One thing I find encouraging (and amusing) is that almost all of the women in this thread come down on the side of "Sexy," and all of the objections from the males are based on paternalism and political correctness. That says a lot about the current state of the culture.
Yes, and no. I definitely don't think it's the biggest factor here. I mean I fall into the need to get laid category, and I'm seem to be amongst the people pretty liberal towards this moment.
Sorta sad that you have to include the last bit. But I understand.
Hello! Now this I find a bit insulting. For me this was not skanky. Skanky is a woman inviting seven barely acquainted men home to have a gangbang.
Not that hard. Way easier then Spanish I always thought. I got good use out my French in New York the other day.I think the most important thing here is that I need to learn French.
Okay, not the most important thing.
*sigh*
It's not important at all.
I mean...
Why thank you, film school was not for naughtSince this isn't a movie (even with Emher's great scene-setting)...
That's not skanky. That's being a giant slut.
What political correctness?
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Let's not ignore the 'insecure, perpetually single nerd' quotient either, the percentage of which I'm sure is rather high among our hallowed membership here.
Yes, based on TSQ's reactions this was clearly worth the NYPD's time. Who knows, he might've had poisoned chapstick or summat.
Yes. He kissed her on a bridge, in broad (setting) daylight, with lots of people around. Clearly he's a psychotic rapist murderer!
Kestra, this is a rare case where I disagree with you
That was Kestrel by the way, not Kestra.
Kestrel is her sweet transvestite brother. (He asked me to use the term "evil twin" instead, though)
Ooops! Sorry!
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Perhaps so. A disadvantage of not having English as my mother tongue is I often get some nuances wrong.
He pressured her for one thing (a kiss) and took advantage of that acceptance to go beyond what was agreed and violate commonly accepted personal boundaries (groping). That is creepy. If he stuck to the agreed upon kiss, there's no problem. It's very straightforward.
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