I fell in love at first sight once. Then, after I adjusted the focus on the binoculars a bit, I realized I was over her.
Sexy or creepy?
Sexy or creepy?
Sexy or Creepy?
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Seepy.
First one, then the other.
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All this means, based on what you have said explicitly, is that you know little about love and refuse to accept new experiences because if you don't see it, it can't be true, so you learn nothing about love. You're in a vicious cycle, and you're making my point exceedingly well for me, Trekker.
So if you can't do or see something firsthand, no one else can either, regardless of what they say. Way to think that one through, man.
Sounds like she had you up a tree.
Impossible. Because I've grown cynical to love because of the lack of interest anyone has shown towards me ever. I wasn't always this way but, frankly, it seems I'm not one to attract interest from the opposite sex, nor am I one to inflict myself on people. No one ever shows any interest in me, and do not confuse the attitudes and behaviors I express here is an indication of how I behave in the real world where I can tend to be quite personable if shy and quiet.
It just doesn't happen for me.
So let me ask you this -- do YOU pay any attention to "unattractive, overweight" WOMEN?
Okay, so woman don't express interest in you. Honestly, they don't express much interest in me either, but I'm also not putting myself out there or making an effort, so I'm not about to blame the world for my romantic problems. My being single is entirely my fault.
How hard are you actually trying to find someone?
How hard are you actually trying to find someone?
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That's because it happens for no one, Trekker. They may think they love each other, they may think they love their parents, or their children, but really, they don't. No one loves anything anywhere ever. That's why nothing good has ever happened in society anywhere ever for any reason related to love.
Let's be honest though, you're pretty cynical about life in general, not just relationships, and have been as long as I've known you. All I'm saying is that that tends to be off-putting for a lot of people and may be why women keep their distance.
Whatever, I'm certainly no expert and I don't want to make the whole thread about your relationship issues. That's just my eight farthing.
Nope. Because I can't know a person's personality or any of those things by looking at a person so looks is all one has to go off of when looking for a partner. My standards of "overweight" are also probably aren't quite the same as society's is. There's plenty of people said to be "overweight" whom I find to be normal.
Anymore, not at all. I've simply given up. I'm not okay with that because I do want to be with someone but it's just not in the cards for me. Maybe when I'm 50 I'll get to be with some middle-aged divorcée with a couple of kids and have something of happiness with out all of the love, romance and magic of a young couple in love.
My social anxiety is pretty crippling when it comes to approaching strange women so there's no avenues there, co-workers, family, and friends have never offered up anyone to set me up with nor from what I can tell do they really know anyone. (Oh, but I could start going to church! My mom always says.) And as for co-workers themselves the one avenue I thought I had and wanted to start down... collapsed in large number of ways where I'd pretty much have to be the perfect guy for her in order for that to work. And I'm not any better than those who have tried so there's no point.
I'm defeated. I've waved the white flag and I'm no longer trying. It's me and me alone forever.
Because God has chosen to "bless" me by giving me a life of being told I'm a lesser, weaker, person that few are interested in. Those who have been have either chosen to do so in too subtle a way or hoping I'll man-up and decide to inflict myself on someone I've only a casual acquaintance with. I'm not a person to hang out in bars or other loud noisy places, on-line dating services are either pure crap or I don't live in an area that's got enough of a pool, IRL dating services are crazy-expensive and then there's just going up to complete strangers and forcing myself on them. Something I'm just not one to do due to not having any confidence whatsoever to think that I could pull that off.
I'm destined to be lonely and not set a woman's heart a flutter simply because I'm not confident enough, bold enough or good looking enough to do it. I could never pull off a "Don't I know you?" gambit on the street because I'm neither that type of person nor am I charming enough to do it.
You've "known me" for 7 years or so out of the near 33 I've been alive. Of those seven years you only know me through my posts here which may not be the best representative sample. And, at the start of those seven years was a time I was going through a lot of personal issues which started the erosion of my "care."
It's my lot, I've accepted it.
This will be my last post in this thread any further comments or questions to PM.
I agree. TSQ's initial post made it clear that it might've been a "horror movie" and to then freak out when people say it might've been isn't very fair. Now that the story has been added on to it's a lot clearer but to blame people for thinking, from the initial post, that something unsavory went on is, I feel, rather dishonest.
I don't have a problem with this...outward appearance will be noticed first, I've always argued that. I do think it makes a difference if the interested party is good looking, you obviously wouldn't have done any of that with an ugly guy...
Having said that, it seems to me he pretty much caught you at the right time and right place, and got away with copping a feel and kiss, and may never see you again. Now of course this all may wind up being the story of how you two met and became a couple/item. I really depends on how accepting you are.
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Thank you.
The personal attacks in this thread have been WAY too much. I mean, I expressed an opinion without saying a single thing about any other person and ended up getting a borderline ad hominem attack from someone in response. AND even after I'd also said that gender didn't matter to me in this either. I as a woman would consider it extremely rude to treat a man the way the man described in this thread acted.
You sound like a pretty normal guy, you just like to focus on self-pity instead of actually changing your situation.
Un-attractive? Who cares? You look pretty normal from what I remember and even if you were the most hideous person in town... did you notice that even ugly people get married?
Over-weight? Big deal, many people are. If it bothers you, try a diet.
American? Well, ok. I'll try not to hold it against you.
You read comic books? Well, doh! RobMax said Comic Con in NY was full of hot girls. I'll let you in on a secret: Some girls like comics.
DnD? Well, damn! I love pen&paper roleplaying and I'm a girl.
Obviously I'll just get a cynical reply and you won't change anything but you should stop blaming fate or the world.
My comments were of a general sense, rather than naming anyone specific, and they came after we had much more of the information from tsq, yet people were still trying to convince her she had been sexually assaulted.
I just think it's an insulting conclusion to draw simply from people having a different opinion. Say that they're incorrect, misinformed, whatever, but saying someone needs to get laid isn't the way to go about it.
Sexy, then creepy. Then sexy again. Then kind of sleepy. Then go for a sandwich. Then back to sexy.
It's pretty insulting for people to continue insisting someone who has the intellectual ability, and UNFORTUNATELY the experience, to tell if she's been assaulted that she's been assaulted, even when she has affirmed that she wasn't.
This actually may be the stupidest comment in the entire thread, but...
What does "bijou-bijou" mean?
What does "bijou-bijou" mean?
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