I posted this in the TOS-/TOS-R thread, but I think it bears repeating here:
If you feel very strongly about something then it's all very well to state your opinion and your reasoning and stand by it. But I think it's often best that you not belabor it, not pound others over the head with it until you feel you've beaten acceptance of the convincing arguments into them.
I've seen friends (and others) argue and argue and argue (well, okay, animated discussion
) about something trivial each intent to convince the other. And it always led nowhere. No one likes to be told repeatedly that they're wrong.
On the other hand I've often found it more effectively to just make your point, stand by it, and let others mull over it themselves. Sometimes they eventually accept your point all on their own, and without a lot of futile effort from you. In the interim it doesn't hurt to ponder someone else's points because maybe they have one you hadn't been aware of or considered before.
But in the end it's a discussion, a sharing of viewpoints and opinions. There aren't any scores or awards for convincing others.
The same applies to my takes on the episodes I've been revisiting, be they TOS, TNG or whatever. If I like something and it works for me then no amount of dissenting viewpoint or argument will convince me otherwise. And the same goes for me as well. I'm just sharing what I see and experience and it's not my intent to convince anyone else.
