At what age do you start to feel old?
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I'll always take a full day for an appointment-- even a dental appointment. But I use vacation time. It would never even occur to me to use sick time for an appointment.
Whatever I was yesterday...
seriously I found 45 to be a turning point to getting past my youth.
seriously I found 45 to be a turning point to getting past my youth.
Commander Rabbit
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We're allowed to use sick leave for medical and dental appointments, as long as we provide verification.
I turned 38 yesterday and didn't even think about it. I've never been concerned about my age, but then I still have my health. My father died last month at age 61. He was most definitely NOT old. His death did remind me that my generation moves up a step closer, as we come to terms with our own mortality.
I'm as nostalgic and sentimental as they come, but for someone who loves reading about the past and cherishes my childhood memories, I'd never want to be that person I was then again. I'm much happier with who I am today, and I'll no doubt be happy with who I am tomorrow. I'm enjoying the growth and hopefully will attain some wisdom along the way.
I still don't feel old. I've been thinking I'm abnormal. I was born in 1964. mentally, I feel like I'm 27-30 or so. physically, I feel like I'm in my early to mid 30s most days. I think that once I start showing wrinkles and have joint pain of some sort, I probably will. in terms of mentally, I've a lot of interests and hobbies and I don't have kids. though I've got a lotta kids around me as well as my niece. we'll see what happens in five years.
I haven't been sick enough to require a sick day since 1989! Seriously!
I had tonsilitus.Mr Awe
I'm almost embarrassed to admit that I'm just beginning to "rebuild" my sick leave accruals at work. In the past five years, I've called in sick quite regularly (moreso in the past couple of years) that my boss actually talked to me about my "absences" at one time, asking if I was having personal problems. There were times when I was sick with the flu, or my stomach wasn't feeling well, and those things were understandable. I know for a fact that there are other employees in the department who have some health issues, too. But my biggest challenge has been getting up in the morning, not feeling fully rested or refreshed, having had a poor night's sleep. In the past couple of months, I have started to feel better and had more motivation to get up in the morning.
Also, my boss said that employees who use sick leave excessively may face disciplinary action in the future, which I think is stupid. If an employee is sick, he is entitled to sick leave that he/she has accrued. Would he prefer that some people force themselves to come in and drop dead in the office? This is an issue I'd be interested to address to the union.
Also, my boss said that employees who use sick leave excessively may face disciplinary action in the future, which I think is stupid. If an employee is sick, he is entitled to sick leave that he/she has accrued. Would he prefer that some people force themselves to come in and drop dead in the office? This is an issue I'd be interested to address to the union.
Commander Rabbit
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If you've really been sick that much, there's nothing to be embarrassed about.
Thanks, at my age I have aches and pains, but they don't bother me as much. I have other long-term conditions that I really have to monitor and be careful about, e.g., high cholesterol, family history of diabetes, etc.
Earlier this year, when I was facing numerous troubles, I actually felt a bit "old", worn down, defeated. Then, I really thought about the word "old" and what that means. What does "feeling old" mean to me? Is it a physical feeling? I've always had aches and pains, but except for some recent injuries that would make anyone howl, I feel better than ever. An epiphany? Nope, haven't had any of those lately. A gap in relatability with chronologically younger people? Eh, a very small smidge. What?
I realized I was equating "old" with "loss of joy in life". That's not old. That's just stress and misery, states easily found in any age. Some of the most elderly people I know are the ones with the greatest joy. Some of the unhappiest are significantly younger than I.
At 27, I still feel less like an adult and more like a put-upon 12 year old. I still feel like my life is just beginning, if it has begun at all. I think I'll be young at heart forever. If anything, I often feel like I'm about 10 years late to everyone else's party. Maybe "old" attaches with it feelings of dour responsibility, humorless obligation, drudgery. And that's why it feels like an uncomfortable label when I apply it to experiences that fit the aforementioned adjectives.
The phrase "feeling old" has some sense of inherent loss to it. Loss of vitality. Loss of carefree attitude. Loss of desirability. I don't feel that. I feel the same as always, the difference being that now I'm slightly, incrementally, gaining better ability to face down life's challenges*.
*Not to be confused with 'maturity'. God forbid I ever acquire that.
I realized I was equating "old" with "loss of joy in life". That's not old. That's just stress and misery, states easily found in any age. Some of the most elderly people I know are the ones with the greatest joy. Some of the unhappiest are significantly younger than I.
At 27, I still feel less like an adult and more like a put-upon 12 year old. I still feel like my life is just beginning, if it has begun at all. I think I'll be young at heart forever. If anything, I often feel like I'm about 10 years late to everyone else's party. Maybe "old" attaches with it feelings of dour responsibility, humorless obligation, drudgery. And that's why it feels like an uncomfortable label when I apply it to experiences that fit the aforementioned adjectives.
The phrase "feeling old" has some sense of inherent loss to it. Loss of vitality. Loss of carefree attitude. Loss of desirability. I don't feel that. I feel the same as always, the difference being that now I'm slightly, incrementally, gaining better ability to face down life's challenges*.
*Not to be confused with 'maturity'. God forbid I ever acquire that.
I didn't get married until my early thirties and we had our first child when I was in my late thirties. Today we take our youngest to his first day kindergarten. I feel a little bit old and young.
(On the sick leave thing, I worked for a company that combined sick and vacation leave, called it time off leave. Take what you need when you need it. Worked great)
(On the sick leave thing, I worked for a company that combined sick and vacation leave, called it time off leave. Take what you need when you need it. Worked great)
When the stuff on the "regular" "mainstream" radio stations all sounds the same. It's like "another whiny singer going on about how crappy his life is, and the musical foundation keeps getting thinner, would it kill 'em to put a guitar or a keyboard solo in there, to let the other guys show off their chops? Wow, I sound like (insert older relative here)."
I hate emo, especially that radio friendly fluff. As a fan of goth rock (both the old school punk-influenced bands and the latter day trip-hop influenced ones), it's particularly insulting when I see emo and GR lumped together into the same category. So I guess I've officially become one of those curmudgeons that are always saying "in my day, we listened to real music, not this crap."
I hate emo, especially that radio friendly fluff. As a fan of goth rock (both the old school punk-influenced bands and the latter day trip-hop influenced ones), it's particularly insulting when I see emo and GR lumped together into the same category. So I guess I've officially become one of those curmudgeons that are always saying "in my day, we listened to real music, not this crap."
Very good and interesting perspectives. Thank you all for sharing. I feel a bit younger after having read all your posts. 
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Lord Garth
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I'm 30 and I don't feel old but, for the first time, I don't really want to draw that much attention to my age because some people might equate it with something I'm not.
Tonight... combined with my life over the past 13 days.... I feel -- Older.
So do I.I feel a bit younger after having read all your posts.
But that's only because, by reading everyone's posts, I have absorbed everyone's lifeforce and rejuvenated myself. 
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