Seriously, just stop. You've read one post, don't know either of us personally, don't know our everyday lifestyle. You act as if this happens every single day and it doesn't. I'm not one of those stupid girls who gets abused daily and stays in a relationship. Calling me names once in a while during an argument does not make me cry. It isn't very nice and shouldn't happen but I know that it is just being said because he is angry and that's HIS way of venting, whereas I sometimes just need to do what I did here, just vent to a bunch of people that I feel close to because we're a trek family and most of the people we know mutually, as I said, so I am not going to tell them anything. He goes to work and faces these people daily. They have no business knowing anything.
My relationship is no different than any other relationship, minus a few things that may not happen between other people, like the name calling, but we have ups and downs like anyone else. That's what happens when you live with the same person for a long time. You'll have your moments.
I don't mean to sound snotty here but I get irked when people basically picture the woman (or man, in some cases) as idiots because they let themselves be abused. If you knew me personally, you'd know I am a loudmouth and don't let people walk all over me. I knew not to let that happen years ago so please stop painting me as some dumb chick who is too stupid to up and leave. I can take name calling. It doesn't make me cry. It's just immature. It happens not even a handful of times a year. It happened twice this year. Oh well. I'll live. I have thick skin.
