Have You Even Known Someone Who Committed Suicide?

[Omnius]

No, fortunately I have never had a friend or relative commit suicide.

But I've been up close to one. I was on my way home on the late night train, when somebody jumped in front of it. I can still vividly recall the rumbling sounds and the vibrations that followed. After the police had cleared the crime scene the fire department hosed down the train before we left again. The train was stranded for almost three hours.

If you're desperate to commit suicide, please don't burden other people with it.

 

[TGTheodore]

Yes. She was bright, beautiful and amazingly talented. She committed suicide about five months after finishing the show I directed her in.

I barely knew her family, but they asked me to call her friends and tell them.

Not a pleasant task.

And what a waste of a great person.

--Ted

 

[doubleohfive]

Someone my brother and I knew in high school shot himself about six or seven years ago. He had been fine. Got a new job, bought a brand new car... had a little too much to drink one night though and shot himself the neck.

Very sad.

 

[Emher]

Well this thread certianly makes me more happy that I never did kill myself. I was seriously considering it when I was being intensly bullied for several years in my teens, but I decided to not give the bastards the satisfaction.

Last spring though I was probanbly the most depressed I've ever been been and came very near to doing it. It was just the accumulation of having to borrow lots of money from my parents to sruvie since I couldn't find a regular job, and the temporary ones I got where often very physically demanding and mentally grating and didn't pay very well. Added to that I the fall earlier had found out the truth about my failed relationship a few years earlier and my self esteem just hit rock bottom and I thought it better for me to just off myself and not be a bother to my family. Luckily I was smart enough to tell my parents about it and they helped me back. About a year later I'm probably the happiest I've been in quite a while.

As for knowing someone who has commited suicide, not to my knowledge.

 

[SicOne]

Well this thread certianly makes me more happy that I never did kill myself. I was seriously considering it when I was being intensly bullied for several years in my teens, but I decided to not give the bastards the satisfaction.

In the States, when school-age people are attempting to deal with the situation you described, some tend to lean towards homicide, rather than suicide. The Columbine shooters are merely one example.

It is hard to convey to young people that high school experiences are only fleeting, that it's not going to be that way forever (though it can sure feel like forever). Sometimes life does suck, and much of the time it's a matter of what you can do to affect it, or don't do, but when you're a teenager, dealing with high school and dealing with your parents (who frequently are distracted with issues of their own, I hasten to add), there are some events beyond your ability to control or influence. But it's difficult to get them to see past the open sewer that is adolescence and embrace the open future that awaits them after graduation, after coming of legal age, when they're empowered to do much more. And many young people do exceedingly well when they get past the high school years and enter adulthood, and zip right by their tormentors, mentally, emotionally, financially, and/or educationally. I'm sure Bill Gates spent some time shoved into his high school locker at some point, but look at him now.

 

[Emher]

^Well we don't really have the kind of access to guns over here, not to mention a slight difference in culture so that thought never crossed my mind at the time.

And this was before HS, HS was actually great because it was the first school I went to outside my home town. And I'd say it's not fleeting. The things that where done to me have hampered me in the social scene so much that I'm waaaaaay behind everyone.

Last night at the graduation party (just finished a year in a media school learning filmmaking) and there was this drinking game where if some says a question like "I have never cheated" and if you have cheated you take a drink. Pretty much 99% of these questions where about sex. Seeing as I'm a virgin (largely due to the fact that I missed the entire bit of learning how to get together with girls since I was too busy surviving and then too scared for a long time to trust anyone) this embarrased me hugely but I went with it and just drank at random instances that I felt fit with my morality so as to not embarress myself to everyone.

So while yes, suicide is not the answer, don't dare say the consquences of bullying isn't lasting.

 

[Bisz]

I just found out that the younger brother of my childhood best friend, and to be fair, a relatively good friend of mine as well, recently hung himself. I also know of some other people who committed suicide, but I never knew them personally.


As for girlfriends... mine told me she could never get over it if anything happened to me, that she would spend the rest of her life all alone and just get a cat named after me... up to the point where she broke up with me. :S

 

[Emher]

^Yeah I've had one of those as well

 

[barnaclelapse]

I've known a few. Most notably, a girlfriend with issues far beyond anything I was capable of aiding at fourteen years old and one of my close friends from all of the Anime and Science Fiction/Fantasy conventions I staff.

 

[TheBrew]

Probably the closest I got was that one of professor's aunt and grandmother did a double-suicide earlier this year. Yeah, that wasn't a fun week.

 

[DanTheGrey]

My uncle who did it on his 32nd b-day (I turned 20 a couple of weeks later).

Basically all the facts I can state without editorializing about him, my mother's side of the family and the crap my grandmother pulled in the wake of it.

 

[SicOne]

So while yes, suicide is not the answer, don't dare say the consquences of bullying isn't lasting.

I never said the consequences of bullying isn't lasting. I did say it can FEEL like forever, but it won't LAST forever. But the consequences will last as long as YOU allow it to last. Don't dwell in the past. Embrace the future. Join groups that do things that interest you (such as the Trek BBS!). And in time, and with practice, you will get better at social interactions.

 

[troisboobs]

My ex a few years ago shot himself in the head in front of me, traumatic to say the least.

My dad killed himself when I was younger, and I have 5 friends that have killed themselves with drugs or as a result of addiction.

 

[Trekarama]

About 20 years ago my uncle killed himself. He and my aunt were having an argument and out of nowhere he pulled out a knife and plunged it into his heart. To this day no one knows why. Their argument was not of the serious emotional level one would expect for this to occur. I do know that it devastated his sons lives, his wife, my grandparents, my father and my other aunts and uncles. Our family reunions since then have had a dark cloud hanging over them. If someone is contemplating suicide, please reconsider. One person's actions can, and do affect others whether you believe so at the time or not. Every person's life is valuable, don't waste it.

 

[TheLonelySquire]

Yes. Several people I knew in high school killed themselves with drugs. Long term suicide, but suicide nonetheless.

 

[TrekNut87]

One of my friend's tried to commit suicide in 7th grade.

A close friend of my cousin did about 10 years ago.

 

[Emher]

So while yes, suicide is not the answer, don't dare say the consquences of bullying isn't lasting.

I never said the consequences of bullying isn't lasting. I did say it can FEEL like forever, but it won't LAST forever. But the consequences will last as long as YOU allow it to last. Don't dwell in the past. Embrace the future. Join groups that do things that interest you (such as the Trek BBS!). And in time, and with practice, you will get better at social interactions.

Of course it's not forever, I'll die at some point.

As for allowing the consequences to last. It's really really hard when you're having stuff showed down your throat all the time of how you're supposed to be at my age. During excersise walks I try and use this anger towards this as a means to walk faster. As a result I must now carefully apply vaseline, or chafe horribly!

What I plan to do this summer is basically 1) excersise, and 2) starve (got no money!), so I'll probably be thinner pretty quick and that will help with my self esteem and that's a start.

 

[Sephiroth]

Well this thread certianly makes me more happy that I never did kill myself. I was seriously considering it when I was being intensly bullied for several years in my teens, but I decided to not give the bastards the satisfaction.

In the States, when school-age people are attempting to deal with the situation you described, some tend to lean towards homicide, rather than suicide. The Columbine shooters are merely one example.

It is hard to convey to young people that high school experiences are only fleeting, that it's not going to be that way forever (though it can sure feel like forever). Sometimes life does suck, and much of the time it's a matter of what you can do to affect it, or don't do, but when you're a teenager, dealing with high school and dealing with your parents (who frequently are distracted with issues of their own, I hasten to add), there are some events beyond your ability to control or influence. But it's difficult to get them to see past the open sewer that is adolescence and embrace the open future that awaits them after graduation, after coming of legal age, when they're empowered to do much more. And many young people do exceedingly well when they get past the high school years and enter adulthood, and zip right by their tormentors, mentally, emotionally, financially, and/or educationally. I'm sure Bill Gates spent some time shoved into his high school locker at some point, but look at him now.

actualy the columbine killers were bullies, not the bullied

 

[nevermore]

No one who succeeded. A friend of mine tried a few times during college circa 1995, but he got himself straightened out and is fine now.

 

[DarkHelmet]

What I plan to do this summer is basically 1) excersise, and 2) starve (got no money!), so I'll probably be thinner pretty quick and that will help with my self esteem and that's a start.

Not a good idea. See my reply to your thread in the fitness forum.