Is phonesex cheating?

For me, the question is more about trust in the relationship. Doesn't matter what you consider the phonesex. The relationship obviously has trust issues.

Mr Awe

 

Cool then!! And, I totally agree that there's a huge difference between an open mind and slut!

Mr Awe

 

Monogamy isn't something you demand from your partner, it's a gift you offer your partner. You don't ever own your partner.

Something like phonesex shouldn't be a reason to freak out, go on a message board and look for support for your issues. It should be an opportunity to sit down with your partner, open up and talk about who you are.

If you need someone to tell you it's cheating, then what you're looking for is a "reference to authority" that you can take back to your partner and throw it in their face, they are obviously "wrong" and you are obviously "The Victim"(TM). When you start behaving like that, do everyone a favour and just move and change your phone number.

 

Well-said. I'm not sure I entirely agree, but well-said.

Yeah, coming to a bunch of total strangers for help with a relationship issue is asking for trouble to some degree, especially given that we're really not invested in whether or not you and your SO do or do not remain a couple.

 

What about on Grandma's floor while she is out of town?

 

Eavesdroppers (or in this case snoopers) never hear good of themselves.

 

I don't know if it's cheating but your gf talking to an ex so he can jack off isn't exactly a sign of maturity. I can't say that this is a relationship that sounds worth pursuing but then again I don't know how long you've been with her and how it works. Looking through her email is not a good idea, though.

 

Thats part of the reason I posted here, I wanted impartial opinions. That some people seemed to be more on the side of my girlfriend actually made it easier for me. I mean I made the decision to not break up with her on my own but seeing that some people kind of took her side I think helped me to understand what happened and why.

 

^^^ Well, that's good. Just don't rationalize those trust issues away too easily though!

Mr Awe

 

YES! And you'd better remember that!

 

Of course it is cheating. Does not mean that the marriage would necessarily end, but counseling or some sort of resolution would have to come about.

 

YES!

 

That's close to my thinking:

If it's something you wouldn't be comfortable doing in front of your significant other, it is cheating.

OP, ask your girl if she'd be comfy with you listening in while her ex peels his shrimp.

Either way, it would piss me off.

Joe, saucy

 

You read her e-mail? A private e-mail?

On the other hand, it is cheating.