He had indeed faced death, numerous times
This plot element in TWOK seems to be treating the almost-20-year-old TOS like it just was not "edgy" or "dangerous" enough by the standards of 1982, as though no problem in TOS was as dire to Kirk as the loss of Spock in the present moment. After watching interview with Harve Bennett on the DVD's it is hard to believe he could have felt that way enough to put that feeling into a Star Trek movie, but I could see Nicholas Meyer trying to "up the stakes" and that was a side effect. Both really seemed to be trying to treat Star Trek right, as it were, but the plot element that Kirk is facing his worst disaster ever does not play well with me.
This is the kind of thing that fascinates me but is also really humbling when it comes to fiction. If this is how you see Miranda Jones, you are virtually seeing the opposite episode that I saw. I saw Miranda as being in pain and vulnerable due to her secret "disability" (with that being balanced by her special ability), and thus resenting Spock. Kirk said a lot of very harsh things, but ultimately Miranda realized that she wanted to be with the Ambassador and chose to complete that task (whether she had any romantic attraction to any of the men in the story, including the Ambassador, is left up for debate). That's how I see it.
I actually like when shows improve as time goes on
Morality is one thing, but in terms of stories, visual style, musical style, and characters that draw me in and make me want to watch, I would not say that the shows made since 2009 have been "improving" over those made from 1964-2002.
the aim of advancing a particular viewpoint which likely bears little or no resemblance to anything the people who made the show had in mind.
The matter of whether to consider the artist's viewpoint is debatable in appreciating art in general.
I am not going to repeat/repost certain words and phrases used in posts above above about TOS, and "The Cage" specifically, but I could not use those words about something I liked. Certain of those words are negative enough that it seems contradictory to say, "It has xxxxx in it, but I like it anyway."
Some tales of Gene Roddenberry are such that, if we took them as true, then watched the show with an eye to what we imagined he was thinking, the show would be hard to watch. I think to some degree we should assume that higher ideals did play a role in the storytelling, even if limited to the imagination of the writers and not necessarily their real lives. If the writers knew how to actually get from the society of the 1960's to the society they imagined in TOS' future decade, they would be out trying to make that change, not imagining what it would be like after that change took place.
TOS created a world in which there is so much to imagine beyond what is seen. Authorial intent plays a role, but we also want to see our own political/ideological position reflected in TOS' future decade: this is likely a cause of character drift.
TOS was still based on conceptions of a hero character that shows today usually do not choose to depict. I do not think it is helpful to look at the way that Pike or Kirk react to women, or the way women act to them, and treat the actions and words in the plot as if it were real life, in today or the 1960's. Kirk balances an almost-unrealistic love of his job with an almost-unbelievable attraction from women; so for that kind of storytelling the "hero" is treated as being able to do this, which is not something we would expect to see in real life anymore than we would expect to see a Constitution-class starship, right now, today.
Picard might be a bit more believable as a captain in that regard, which is also possibly why many see him as more "uncool" than Kirk, regardless of how fans may understand that Picard is meant to be more "private and thoughtful"--now we have Picard-drift
