Nobody here is calling anyone sexist just for not liking the writing, they are calling your line of reasoning to explain
what you don't like about the writing sexist because, to put it bluntly, it
is sexist.
Sexism isn't just about the very tiny (but very loud) group of morons yelling "teh womens should get back to the kitchens!
" It, like any other prejudice, is alive and kicking because people aren't ever realizing when they're employing it because "that's just the way things are".
For decades we have had mostly men be actions stars, and women exist only to be rescued and/or conquered.
Everything that Rey has done has been done, often better, by some guy in some movie ages ago. Heck, we've had literally hundreds of movies where a
regular beat cop in downtown LA simultaneously has the skill set of a detective genius, an expert marksman, a martial artist extraordinaire, an escapologist, a professional stunt driver who can use planes, helicopters, boats, tanks and tricycles and
nobody batted an eye.
And those were even set in the "real world" with no magical Force to call upon...
So when men do the stuff she does, it's normal, it's "just the way things are" but when Rey does it, it's
unbelievable marysuism that renders all the other characters useless?
People aren't pointing this out to you, repeatedly, to defame you, or insult you, or convince you that the writing is perfect. It's fine if you don't like the movie, it's fine if you don't like Rey, or any of the other characters, or the entire storyline for that matter... all I'm suggesting is that maybe if you took a step back you might realize you're not as evenhanded in your criticism as you think you are.
Here's the thing, I never really thought about how absurd Luke is until all of this, ahem, "controversy" (read: temper tantrums and spoilt brattiness). I grew up with those films and Luke was cool, he seemed to represent the idea I could fight aliens and bad guys in silly armour. I never questioned it and as an adult that continued.
Now, I really am not sure why this is, whether I simply carried that perception with me from being a child or whether that's just what happens with heroes, they can do amazing stuff and get away with it because that's what makes them heroes. After all of course we watched the story through Luke's eyes, of course we watched the one in a billion guy who could do this stuff, that's the whole point, that's why he's the central character. But then along came Rey, I went with my son and brother in law to watch TFA and my son came out gushing about how amazing she was, how she could do all this cool stuff.
Again, I never saw a reason to question it, the idea never even occurred to me. This was Star Wars after all and she was the next big thing, the new hero of the piece. Then slowly over time I started noticing youtube videos (mostly by men) complaining about how unrealistic she was, how easily she picked up all these skills and how she was a Mary Sue. This was long before TLJ, the complaints didn't start there at all.
I thought this was strange, but in all honesty true. She
is unrealistic, an incredibly talented intelligent, skilled insightful young woman in control of herself and her environment who by all rights shouldn't even be alive, or at best an emaciated and ignorant waif struggling to find any means to survive.
But then it occurred to me that the same really applies to Luke. This idea of taking someone from a backwater whose arc should include nothing more than staying alive until they die an unnoticed death and having their innate talents elevate them to changing the universe is nothing new to Star Wars. It's nothing new to fiction in fact, we have a name for it, the hero's journey. We know that hero by many names, Frodo Baggins, Luke Skywalker, Harry Potter, Corporal Carrot, Buffy the Vampire Slayer are all examples in modern pop culture.
They're all essentially silly and often the best examples parody themselves, ROTJ did this with Han's line "jeez I'm out of it for a little while and everybody gets delusions of grandeur..." in reference to Luke suddenly being a Jedi master rather than a sulky teenager in the blink of an eye.
So yes, Rey is silly, she's unrealistic, her arc is absurdly truncated beyond all feasability. But that's the point, that's what Star Wars has always done from the word go. The only difference is Luke fitted the mould, he didn't challenge the preconception of the hero being a young, handsome, athletic white guy, whereas Rey has come to us as a female in a time of heightened sensitivities, when people are feeling threatened by anything which smacks of challenging their identity and the supposed status which comes with it. That sexism might not be overt, it might not even be conscious per se. It's a cognitive bias built into our culture which people struggle to recognise in themselves, a fear of anything which rocks the boat or even slightly looks like it might be an attempt to alter the often unstated balance of power.
They can't call that sexism, they can't admit to themselves that's what it is so they look for reasons, look for any narrative that presents as a veneer of legitimate criticism, unconsciously applying very different criteria and biasing the intensity of their critical thinking to allow a pass to anything which correlates with that bias but no leeway at all to anything which challenges it.
The result?
Luke is a classic hero, a well rounded and written superhero who was destined to do great things. What weaknesses there are in the writing and structure of the films is perfectly excusable, it's pop culture after all.
Rey is a Mary Sue whose superpowers represent poor writing and a lack of genuine challenge or character development. Consequently she requires the most rigorous critical analysis to expose those flaws for the rest of the world who are being cheated by this abomination.