You know, you were offering some interesting (if disquieting) speculations about the show's themes... until you suddenly went full MRA in the middle of the post. Yikes. Speaking as a guy (stereotypical straight white male American, no less), I can assure you that even deep down in my heart I would not commit genocide to end a war... and I'd hope that the vast majority of civilized human beings, male or female, would say the same thing.
There are lots of ways to find "the will to survive" that don't involve sacrificing what makes us human, and that's not "sanctimonious tripe" nor "politically correct." Really, that's a big part of what Star Trek has always been about.
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