Actually I am a middle-old white woman, but I still don’t like it. Which apparently makes me sexist and not emancipated at the same time.
I grew up in a country that no longer exists, where it was normal for women to work full hours, and do all kind of technical and industrial work. This was my daily life, it was not special or commented on. It was lived. They even got the same money for the same work as men. Imagine my surprise when the world changed in 1989 and I learnt that we still were talking about emancipation, a topic that for me belonged into the last century.
Before “Doctor Who”, I had been a huge “Stargate SG-1” fan. Arriving in the fandom I did not understand why Captain/Major/Colonel Carter was praised so much as a role model for little girls. In my eyes, she was just doing her job, like everyone else. They wouldn’t have gotten her for that secret mission if she wasn’t the best. Why does she need special praise for it?
So why do I not celebrate a female Doctor? I am trying to explain my feelings. I simply have no relationship with women. I have not one favorite female singer or actor. None. Zero. While I could rattle off a list of male singers and actors I consider myself a fan of.
I love watching ensemble shows like “Call the midwife”, that has like two men and at least a dozen women in good roles. I loved Catherine Tate as Donna, and I adored Olivia Colman in “Broadchurch”, but still I would never go and watch all their other works just because they are in it. Whereas at the moment I am making my way through the weirdest horror movies to see a glimpse of Sean Pertwee.
I don’t even have any sexual interest in those actors, I am asexual. Still I prefer watching them. And I will let nobody tell me what I have to like. I had 43 years to find out what I like and what I don’t. I’m pretty sure I know by now.
So having this new Doctor put right in front of my nose in an “eat or die” manner makes me not happy. If anyone thinks that the world needs more good content for women, yes I agree and please go out there and create it. But don’t invade existing things. I want to decide for myself whether I want to watch something or not. Not being pushed to do so. If it were a new show with a new character, we would be discussing the character and the acting, and not whether it was right or wrong to put her there in the first place. We wouldn’t have anything to compare it to. Can’t anyone see how that would be so much better?
Having their minds set on the get go that it had to be a woman – isn’t that the same like voting for Hillary just because she is a woman? A bit shallow.
You may say now that I always can stop watching if I don’t like it. Except I can’t. If you have invested years into a fandom, and lots of money into action figures, you don’t just stop. You struggle on, thinking you owe it to them, hoping for it to get better again. I struggled much with the last two Stargate seasons and was glad when it was finally over and I did not have to pretend anymore. This was also a case of too many changes so the original was not recognizable anymore, while it would have been better to have a fresh start with new characters and new fans.
Watching Who should be fun, not a chore. Life’s too short to do things you don’t like. I already struggled with the show in the past few years, trudging on, hoping the change would spark new interest in me. Sadly it doesn’t. So here I am, feeling meh, while everywhere I look people are rejoicing. I feel left out.
I am also afraid that no matter what they do, it will spark huge discussions. If they change the character to make her more compassionate, empathic, “female”, everyone will complain about clichés. If they carry on as before, everyone will ask why the need for change if it does not make any difference. They cannot win.
I hated the way she was always talking down to him. All this rapid fired “Listen-listen-listen”. He’s not a baby. It was grating on my nerves. If that is what a strong woman is written like, they are doing it wrong.
Carter (in the Stargate pilot) was written as a bitch at first as well, but then the actress went to the (male) writers and asked why she can’t be a woman and still likeable. And when the pilot was remastered ten years later, that one questionable line was gone.
I equally hated how the Doctor called Clara “fat” and “ugly”. What kind of role model is that giving to both young boys and girls? Boys will think it’s okay to say such things, and girls will think they are fat and ugly. Apparently I was the only one complaining about that at the time. And I was told this is British humor which I simply don’t get and that “me and my mates insult each other all the time”. Well, I rather not be friends with such a person, thank you very much.