since one of the themes in the movie seems to be that spending all this time in space tested some of them, and made them wonder if their place was really starfleet (even if they really hinted at that only with Kirk and, secondarily, Spock if you want to think him also being 'tired' of space was one of the reasons why he started to question things he didn't question 3 years ago), perhaps it would be fitting if Carol was among the ones who actually realized that working on a spaceship is not for her and she decided to try a different career elsewhere. Since they won't recast Chekov ( Anton ..

) , they could justify his absense in a possible next movie in the same way..
Maybe ignoring Carol was one of the 'tos homages' since it's exactly what original trek 3 did?
jokes aside, I don't think this team HAD to absolutely include Carol (or any other character we see in x movie who is not part of the iconic crew) at any cost, but since the other team made her part of the crew at the end of stid, not even mentioning her character and what happened to her maybe contributed to make people feel like this movie ignored stid and what the other team did. And again, I don't think this idea did any good promoting this movie.
It seems like beyond them bringing up the alternate reality to justify gay Suly after Takei's objections, they shy away from the concept of this being an alternate reality and thus not a prequel of tos where the characters are, essentially, doomed to end up according to a set of rules created by tos.
which is what, in part, happened with star trek beyond. It's a bit apparent that they lost a part of the audience and critics that made the first movies more successful. The light switched off.
Making both old fans and reboot fans (who are both old trek fans who like these movies AND new people who didn't give trek the time of the day before but like these movies) happy is, perhaps, a mission impossible for any team but maybe it's not that impossible to find a balance and not make everything mutually exclusive.
and again, I don't think the fans of these movies and the people who like the new dynamics should deserve less consideration and respect than the fans of the old stuff. Honestly? the more I read their interviews the more I felt like they really didn't give a damn about the fans of these movies. They just wanted to please and 'win' haters.
a new ground whose way was already boldly paved by the other team 3 movies ago (not to mention the comics and novels), though.
and I mean, it's in the little things maybe but you have people who actually get the impression that in this movie they almost made a deliberate effort to not make him touch his girlfriend more than the dudes ^ I find the idea hilarious, but if they really did that it would be a tad pathetic, tbh.
It's true though that they toned their interactions down a bit when you compare this movie to the first two. Again, maybe it's really a coincidence but it seems they cut a kiss they were supposed to have in the ending scene (you can see it in the extra from the dvds) and a detail in their first interaction where he touched her hand holding the necklace (it's in
one of the stills of that scene). LOL, I guess him touching her hand was too wild!
To think that the poor marketing people had use a different angle of her kissing his cheek to have a hint of romance and another kind of dynamic in the trailers ..^^"
Even when it comes to Uhura, while I appreciate the fact that the movie sort of makes Spock the one 'pining' more post break up, and the one focused on saving her in spite of his injury (also his admission in the end that he basically went to his friend's party only to spend time with her), they toned down her voice in the relationship in a way that seems to be, honestly, an once again 'pandering to haters' response to that side of the fandom that was concern trolling about the argument scene in stid and her being too 'defined by the relationship' (which ironically tends to be an argument made by people who want him and McCoy to be defined by bromance). Not allowing a woman to voice her feelings in a relationship is not feminist, it's just stupid and another way to sideline her and, once again, make it all about male characters bonding.
also, I get there is a certain level of.. how to call it? hypocrisy? among some trek fans who want Spock to be an asexual unemotional robot with his girlfriend.. but then the same people praise the (according to their own rules of 'how Spock should behave') actually way more 'out of character' scenes he has with the male characters in the name of bromance. Make Spock homicidal for the dudes, make him cry for the dudes, make him smile for the dudes, make him super emotional with the dudes, make him casually talk about his feels and personal stuff with dudes in a way that would make any vulcan cringe, but the moment he shows he cares about the woman he's in a relationship since 6 years 'ugh she's ruining Spock! He's too emotional! This is not my trek! Bye!'
and yet, that dynamic (unless he lied in interviews) was one of Nimoy's favorite things about new Spock. He was jealous

Ironically, if it weren't, perhaps, for his relationship with her (among other things possibly going differently), this Spock would be less open to friendship with the guys because he wouldn't have some of that balance and embracing of his human side that he now has. He maybe wouldn't, also, get the chance to truly understand that his feelings are, in fact, vulcan too (see his father admitting he loved Amanda). There are scenes I really can't imagine tos Spock having with either Kirk or Bones at that moment of his life. So really, some fans can't have it both ways .. but from my experience with some trek fans (not all, not even the majory perhaps. But a vocal side that is passed as the majority by non trek fans, unfortunately) that's what some want..
And I get being used to things being in a certain way. I get that the bromances being taken for granted and considered a given creates double standards, but after all these years and 3 movies I think some people got enough time to get used to new things and put things into perspective, and if they still don't they never will.