Flirting

[RoJoHen]

Granted, half the employees at Starbucks are my regular bar customers, so maybe they just don't need to ask my name. We already know each other!

 

[Guy Gardener]

They just give me my pizza without me having to say anything at the Hutt now.

It is fantastic when you find a place where everyone knows your name.

 

[RoJoHen]

They just give me my pizza without me having to say anything at the Hutt now.

It is fantastic when you find a place where everyone knows your name.

Yeah, I rarely even pay for my Starbucks anymore. If the right people are working, they just give it to me for free.

 

[Kilana2]

I just assume everyone is flirting with me. They usually are. They're only human.

People like kissing and touching and stroking and licking. Always have, always will. You should have raised an eyebrow and said in your best Roger Moore voice... "I like my coffee like my men... hot, sweet and with a big penis that bends to the left."

Unless it was Starbucks, in which case you should have thrown your coffee at the wall and shouted... "pay your fucking tax."

Sounds like Janeway after trying to enjoy replicator coffee......

 

[Kor]

Huh, that depends. Did Starbucks stop asking for customers names generally last year?

The Starbucks in my area ask all the customers for their names, and then write the names on their cups or the little baggies they use for sandwiches or pastries.

If you go often enough, they start to remember your name and what you usually order.

As for the topic of this thread, it's really really irritating when someone is being flirty with you but it turns out they don't actually mean it.

Kor

 

[Rowdy Roddy McDowall]

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How can you tell if someone is flirting with you? I[/QUOTE]

In my case, I simply look up diagonally and witness the steam of her love from my adjoining cubicle each morning.

 

[Guy Gardener]

You'll get a better view if you hijack her laptop camera.

 

[Kemaiku]

@Kor *facepalm* I know that, and why they do it. My local branches stopped doing it for everyone a year ago, someone in particular asked.

Nevermind.

 

[Gryffindorian]

Thanks for the feedback, everyone.

If you are willing to never go into that coffee shop ever again, it's not bravery to ask this boy out for a drink and maybe dinner, and if you ask and he stays "no" and you refuse to not stop going to that coffee house, well then son, you got some serious stones.

Most people want to flirt, but they're wussies, and they don't want to have to set off a nuke every time they're rejected, but they are always looking and calculating possibilities.

There's always the prospect of being rejected. But flirting doesn't necessarily mean making advances or trying to pick up the other person.

Attraction and attractiveness is cheating and the easy way out... Or in?

Just because they think you're pretty it's no reason to think that this is a good match.

If a bad conversation can exclude a pretty person from a certain lay, then a good conversation can award a less attractive person with a night of nookie.

Half the time, it's all superficial. Isn't that how most relationships - or hookups - get started?

I'm also wondering if he's allowed to hit on/date customers?

Was he risking a severance package to tell you that he thinks you're hot?

I could write to headquarters and find out.

 

[Doom Shepherd]

I am psychologically incapable of believing that anyone is attracted to me. Having been in a relationship with the same person for the last seventeen years has done nothing to alter this.

I once had a quite attractive girl sit down next to me, start rubbing my leg, and ask me if I wanted to come home with her. My only thought at the time was that she was setting me up for some kind of cruel joke.

Granted, I was in high school at the time, and she was a member of the "popular&pretty" clique while I was a member of the "quiet outsider/loner/nerd people hated for messing up the curve" clique, so there was at least some reasoning behind said thoughts.

 

[Gryffindorian]

Kids can be so cruel. At least your "It's a trap!" alarm went off.

 

[DimesDan]

I don't flirt nor do I ever flirt, this is doubly true since I got married and attached an anti-flirt device.

 

[JWPlatt]

...while I flirt almost constantly, I am fiercely loyal. So while I may joke and poke and play around with my words, my heart may belong to someone else and that won't budge.

People don't particularly like being played. You might want to be as careful as Uhura distracting Sulu in "Mirror, Mirror."

 

[Amaris]

I am psychologically incapable of believing that anyone is attracted to me. Having been in a relationship with the same person for the last seventeen years has done nothing to alter this.

I once had a quite attractive girl sit down next to me, start rubbing my leg, and ask me if I wanted to come home with her. My only thought at the time was that she was setting me up for some kind of cruel joke.

Granted, I was in high school at the time, and she was a member of the "popular&pretty" clique while I was a member of the "quiet outsider/loner/nerd people hated for messing up the curve" clique, so there was at least some reasoning behind said thoughts.

Yeah, I had that happen to me twice while I was in high school. I guess I didn't learn enough the first time.

 

[Amaris]

People don't particularly like being played. You might want to be as careful as Uhura distracting Sulu in "Mirror, Mirror."

No playing, just kindness that frequently evolves into flirting. Think Captain Jack Harkness.
Whether I intend to or not, I'm attracted to just about everyone and flirt with them.

 

[Mr. Laser Beam]

"Harry, next time some asks you if you want to copulate, you say YES!"

Harry should have said "Look, Seven, I like you, but you don't even know your own strength. You might snap me in half!"

(True, BTW. How could Seven know her own strength? Think about it... Borg of Steel, Starfleet Ensign of Kleenex?)

 

[Gryffindorian]

Was there ever a Harry/Seven slash fanfic?

 

[TEACAKE'S PLEATHER DOME]

There is Jesus/Hitler slash fic so what do you think?

 

[Timewalker]

Was there ever a Harry/Seven slash fanfic?

Since Seven is female and Harry is male, it's safe to say "no."

Slashfic is same-sex relationships. There are plenty of Seven/Janeway and Seven/B'Elanna stories.

 

[Greylock Crescent]

I could have said something like "You're cute!" but didn't want to come off as creepy.

Generally speaking, and assuming a sincere approach, offering a compliment isn't creepy. I've been complimented plenty of times over the years and, regardless of gender, or personal circumstances, I appreciated the positive feedback. Even if it was offered by someone I wasn't inherently attracted to, I valued the moment and sentiment. I'd like to think the compliments I've given were likewise received.

And heck, once in a while, those exchanges led to, at the very least, a subsequent conversation and maybe drinks and even an exploration of ... compatibility ...

Put simply, I'm in favor of offering the compliment. If it's not welcome, most will just ignore it (even if it is appreciated). But on the odd chance that it *is* welcome, who knows where things might proceed?