Women’s issues - bodily functions and such

[T'Bonz]

It's definitely a start.

I've been a SAHM for over about 15 years now, so I do the vast majority of the house work. I did most of the house work when I was working before kids, too. Hubby is planning to retire in five years (good for him), and I've explained several times already that I will allow him a brief holiday (several weeks) to rest, but after that, he's going to have to do his share around the house. I'm not going to do everything needed to run a house by myself for the next 30+ (Lord willing) years.

Yep. My mum cooks for us, but she's 82. When it's just DH and I, we will be SHARING the cooking, together. If he thinks I'll do everything as usual when he's retired, he can think again. I've told him so.

He retires in 2 years. He will step up to the plate, or he will starve.

 

[May 20]

My mother-in-law had a very similar conversation with my father-in-law when he retired (he was medically retired for several years before she retired). She named him the homemaker, as much as he could do with his health, and he rose to the challenge. I was impressed.

I've come to the conclusion that men (and people in general) will do what we expect them to do. We do them and ourselves a disservice when we do for them what they are capable of doing for themselves. There are exceptions, of course, but generally speaking, I am trying to work this way with Hubby and my kids.

 

[wissaboo]

Arch. Just spent $22 on a single over the counter pill that claims it will cure my yeast infection. Fingers crossed
....

 

[May 20]

Fingers crossed!

 

[KimMH]

^^Good luck! Treating yeast infections used to be so messy and gross and it took a while.

95% of the time, I'm very happy to be single. But then there's that other 5% of the time. As someone who definitely needs her alone time, thank you all for reminding me how good I actually have it!

Mother in law and both sisters in law are and have been single a long time and they all seem to love it. They all have strong friendship networks and never seem lonely. Statistically speaking it will probably lengthen their lives.

 

[May 20]

Women need that network. Men do, too, but it's different. Right now, I'm actively trying to cultivate RL friendships. It's hard to make friends at my age!

 

[rhubarbodendron]

indeed. There's also the problem that as we get older, we have less energy. Going out and making friends is not a top priority when you are completely exhausted from work and just want to drop into bed at 6 pm.

 

[wissaboo]

Arch. Just spent $22 on a single over the counter pill that claims it will cure my yeast infection. Fingers crossed
....

Seem better today

 

[TribbleFeeder]

I’m spending a lot of time on my own lately. Me and my husband are having some problems so I moved in with my sister. I don’t know if it’s going to be temporary or permanent, but it sure fucking sucks.

Luckily I have my little nephew here who keeps us all occupied. He’s 5 months. I love him so much.

He makes me want to have a baby of my own. Kind of ironic because of my current living situation.

 

[Awesome Possum]

I’m spending a lot of time on my own lately. Me and my husband are having some problems so I moved in with my sister. I don’t know if it’s going to be temporary or permanent, but it sure fucking sucks.

Luckily I have my little nephew here who keeps us all occupied. He’s 5 months. I love him so much.
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He makes me want to have a baby of my own. Kind of ironic because of my current living situation.

He’s adorable. Nephews and nieces are wonderful and grow up so fast. My nephew is 6 and he’s already into video games and YouTube, my niece is 8 and her goal in life is to be a YouTube star.

 

[TribbleFeeder]

He’s adorable. Nephews and nieces are wonderful and grow up so fast. My nephew is 6 and he’s already into video games and YouTube, my niece is 8 and her goal in life is to be a YouTube star.

They do grow up fast. He’s already trying to talk and it’s all happening so quickly!

Funny story, when I hold him he tries to “nurse” I have slobber over every T-shirt I wore this week.

 

[Awesome Possum]

They do grow up fast. He’s already trying to talk and it’s all happening so quickly!

Funny story, when I hold him he tries to “nurse” I have slobber over every T-shirt I wore this week.

Pretty soon he’ll be telling you his opinion on everything.

 

[Marynator]

One thing that drove me crazy with my ex, was when he lost his job and was always home (I work from my home office) He was already bad enough, but seeing him all day, every day, started driving me out of my mind.

My grandfather used to take naps mid day, and he'd expect my grandmother to have his lunch ready for him when he woke up. Had to be fresh, warm, and ready, or he'd beat her.

 

[rhubarbodendron]

You should think that women had a stronger influence on male education but either generations of mothers failed or this male networking (which leads to influencing male kids/teenagers/adults) is stronger and more effective than we thought. It's time we network just as efficiently.
On the other hand: there are slight signs of improvement: if I'd ask my dad to bring me a pack of tampons when he goes shopping, he'd faint on the spot. If I asked my brother he'd completely unruffledly ask: "which size?"

 

[May 20]

My dad did all of the grocery shopping in my childhood, so he would buy whatever my mom told him to buy without fuss. So I was totally unprepared for my husband, who simply pretended that that week of the month just wasn't happening.

 

[Marynator]

UGH

I've been working on this project at work, combining these two tables to get ACH fraud transactions, and I've been working on it for a couple weeks (between other things I'm doing)

So I just get a panicky email from this other guy whose boss is asking him to do something really similar, and he's picking my brain for how I'm accomplishing this. So now he's going to go back to his boss and say he's figured it out, and I bet he's probably going to get promoted.

 

[rhubarbodendron]

Yep. That's proverbial in my country: "behind every great man there stands a great woman"
Another favourite male tactic is to play stupid. The clumsier they pretend to perform a task, the more likely is it that ít unnerves the female of the species so that she does it herself. This way the task gets done fast and efficient and the male needn't do it.

 

[Marynator]

Reminds me of my user status message at another forum I post at: "Life is like a game of chess: the Queen does all the work while the King takes all the credit."

I've got this other guy who tried to look smart at a meeting with my boss' boss this morning. He's supposed to be taking over some of my old duties, but my boss says he's "worthless."

Well anyway, we're talking about changes to my control charts for incoming fraud (I make these and strategy people present them), well my boss' boss asked a couple weeks ago to add more standard deviation ranges, he wants to see 1 and 2 rather than just 3. Whatever .. I got something to work right and look pretty, which is my thing.

Well this guy starts complaining about my standard deviations .. he's asking where's my bell curve, and why my SD is uniform amongst all columns (?). It's a line graph with dates as X-axis, it's not a bell graph, we're looking at trends and looking for new incoming data deviating from averages. He seems like he's one of those people who's "just smart enough to be dangerous," you know what I mean? Yes, bell curve graphs are ONE type of standard deviation chart, but I had to try to explain to him that's not what this is, and I said I think he's over thinking it.

But that's his MO all the time, he starts trying to make himself look smart when he really doesn't know what he's talking about. He's trying to change things when he doesn't even know what they do.

He's getting nothing accomplished, and he keeps failing up.

 

[Kilana2]

I’m spending a lot of time on my own lately. Me and my husband are having some problems so I moved in with my sister. I don’t know if it’s going to be temporary or permanent, but it sure fucking sucks.

Luckily I have my little nephew here who keeps us all occupied. He’s 5 months. I love him so much.
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He makes me want to have a baby of my own. Kind of ironic because of my current living situation.

I hope you can solve your problems. Good luck!

 

[May 20]

Yep. That's proverbial in my country: "behind every great man there stands a great woman"
Another favourite male tactic is to play stupid. The clumsier they pretend to perform a task, the more likely is it that ít unnerves the female of the species so that she does it herself. This way the task gets done fast and efficient and the male needn't do it.

This really frustrates me. It's the one thing that consistently gets my dander up with my husband. And I'm working hard to teach my son to *not* do this to me or to any other future woman in his life. And I've tried to teach my daughter to not fall for it.